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Posted: 6/7/2008 7:11:45 AM | just cause we may have a few extra pounds does not mean we are lazy.by far i am very active! so why is it so hard to meet some one that will accept us for our size?that will not just look at the out side but the inside of a person .my friends call me very lovable,sensitive ,funny and silly,genuion,plesent to be with and full of spunk.so what is wrong with that why just size counts? | |
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Posted: 6/7/2008 7:41:28 AM | My first question to you would be....What kind of guys are you interested in? From a physical point of view?
Are you feeling rejected by guys that may not be "plump"? If so, you may be looking in the wrong place.
Everyone has their own opinion of what they want to be with. There are many non-plump men that are crazy for plump women. Obviously, you haven't found one yet.
Personally, I feel the physical attraction starts the process. After that, if the personality is a doorknob, then there is no desire for a relationship. Thus, just size doesn't count. It may be a factor, depending on the individual, but more than size counts!!
And the more I think about it. If you think that is an issue then why not try to change it. Except for medical conditions, you control what you look like. I know a number of plus size women that are confident enough in themselves that have an active sex life and don't complain about being ignored because of their size.
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| plump women why we are so over looked?guys look a bit harder you will be amazed what she is like ins
Posted: 6/7/2008 9:24:04 AM | Hummm .. can't say I lack for male attention either! And hunny , I prob the size of 2 of you ! 
Everyone has a preference . Simple. It all in your attitude and how you feel about yourself. In order for others to love you or be attracted to you , you must love yourself and find attractive qualities in YOURSELF! May sound like a line you heard a thousand times , but it is true!
Mind you .. You will always find someone , many someones, who will judge you on weight alone or your looks, but do you really want to be with someone like that ?
My "friend" does not consider me fat at all! I find that funny . I am very much so .. but he insists it all softness and loves it .
Beauty is def in the eyes of the beholder!  : | |
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Posted: 6/7/2008 9:52:13 AM | How do you know that you are being judged by your size alone? Is someone telling you that or is that the conclusion you've come to?
Aren't there other females who are not plump who are also wondering why they are being overlooked. Can't overlook what lovevampy is saying. If you got it, you got it. If not, start looking!!
lovevampy - love what you say. You are so right - attitude and feeling good about your 'self'. The self on the inside, not the body on the outside. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2008 10:32:04 AM |
just cause we may have a few extra pounds does not mean we are lazy.
Men are loathe to admit it, but we, too, become plump and add "a few extra pounds" as we age. Most of us are overweight and very much out of shape, yet we seem to want our women to be thin and fit. It is the society we live in, one that is guided--perhaps even shaped--by the media portrayal of women as sex objects and men as duffuses. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2008 1:46:02 PM | Dusty your problem may not be that you're "plump". Having read your profile, I would say the fact you having four kids is more likely the problem. Four kids takes a lot of time and a lot of guys (some of whom may have their own) are not interested in dating someone who has no or little time for them.
The old "my kids have a father so not looking for a father for them" is rubbish if you are interested in a long term serious relationship and/or marriage. That goes for both men and women. Once you are that involved the other person becomes a parent "de facto" and there is no way of getting around it. Both will have to love, discipline, teach, and all the other parental responsibilities of all children involved, if it has any chance of working out.
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Posted: 6/8/2008 6:56:31 AM |
I'm just not sure it is addressing the issue. unless this is your apology and your attempt to change.
Apology? For what? Being...a man, perhaps, one of the group I think you don't so much like? Attempt to change? From what? Wow.
Interesting point of view. Limited, but interesting. I am not apologizing for my statements nor is it my "attempt to change." I read your profile with interest, linnylou. It begins with "Let's become an Encouragement Team." If you are trying to "encourage" me to do something with your sexist, limited view of things, you failed. If you are trying to "encourage" men to do something--though I have no idea what it might be--you failed there, too.
Good luck to you there in Nova Scotia, Canada, linnylou. I think you will need a large quantity of it.
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Posted: 6/8/2008 7:24:52 AM | aktransplant You may have misinterpreted my post. It was a question!!! A question regarding your statement.
It is the society we live in, one that is guided--perhaps even shaped--by the media portrayal of women as sex objects and men as duffuses.
I'm wondering what you thought I meant. We can't apologize for others and how their behavior affects each other but we can take responsibility for ourselves. So, I apologize for making you feel that I was attacking you.
Of course, one point of view is limited, it's just 'one'.
I was hopeful that you were recognizing what was going on and attempting to affect change. Maybe you are! | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 10:06:09 AM | I must weigh in on this one! 
We as humans come in all shapes and sizes, but it in no way determines how good of shape we are in.
I have seen many skinny people who have many medical issues, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes, etc. And can't climb a flight of stairs to save their soul.
And there are many supposed not so skinny people who are healthy as all get out.
Ok, now as far as judging people on a dating website, that to me is ridiculous.
I feel you might as well take the gun and shoot yourself in the foot.
I have read many profiles from men who state they want thin, thin, thin.
That is totally okay to want that, but why state it for all the world to see?
You could be turning off someone who isn't overweight, who would fit your criteria perfectly, but they blow you off for coming across as shallow and ignorant.
To me if I read that in a profile, I am totally turned off.
Imperfection, is in all of us, so how silly is it to expect perfection in others? | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 11:58:02 AM |
I must weigh in on this one!
I was expecting the old....No pun intended....after that.
Since I don't look at mens profiles I can't comment on what you said about them.
However, I see a lot of womens profiles that they want handsome/attractive guys.
That is so subjective. How the hell are we suppose to know if we are handsome/attractive in that persons eye???? Such a stupid comment!! Of course if one wants to read into it....primma donna!! | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 3:18:05 AM | ^^^Linnylou needs very little luck . She is beautiful , smart , funny , and entitled to her own views. I do not think anything she said was offensive .. unless the truth hurts too much .
Over the years men have oppressed women . This is a fact . Not something in a womans mind . Even today , it happens . I don't think her post was a feminist post . Just honest .
Most men do have a view of women that is outdated , so a apology and attempt to change would be refreshing indeed.
Anyway this is soooooooooo off topic. So time for me to be quiet lol . | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 4:55:11 AM | | dusty, I don't know you and I won't judge you. maybe its the "poor me" attitude rather than the weight you carry around physically. For all women if you have to ask. "does my a.s.s look fat in these jeans?" it probably does. That doesn't mean that men won't want you it just means you got a fat a.s.s. If you ask your man all the time, is she prettier than me? do you think I'm fat? why am I fat? why can't i lose weight? is the lettuce on a big mac considered a salad? those question will send a man running for the exits | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 7:01:53 AM |
Most men do have a view of women that is outdated , so a apology and attempt to change would be refreshing indeed.
I'd have to disagree with that nowadays.
Go to divorce court and see how unfair the women are treated......of course I'm being sarcastic as I was on the wrong end of that one.
What about Boy Scouts....ooopps...I mean Scouts because we can't have an organization that would be for boys only. Yet, Girl Guides is still Girl Guides because no boys are allowed.
We can't have Men Only clubs because well, that is sexist. Yet, Women Only gyms are permitted. Of course that's not sexist....from the womens point of view.
I can't deny the past, but I shouldn't be expected to apologise for it. That would be like going to Germany and blaming the current Germans for Hitler. They shouldn't have to apologise for that!!
If I'm going to apologise for anything, it's going to be for my actions only!!
And yup...off topic!!!! I apologise for that.  | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 8:05:39 AM | Men's only clubs are still alive. Women are entitled to women only clubs. What about hockey? Canada has both gender competitive leagues. Minor hockey is the exception but for obvious reasons.
Scouts offer a different program than Guides so I can understand how one group may serve the individual better.
Individuals who are critical thinkers and listen to the views of others will come to a peaceful place where they accept differences and sometimes accept what they do not understand. Eg. If you don't understand why Emily, a 13 year old girl wants to join Scouts instead of Guides, you would have to question her as to why and then decide if the programs are equal or changes are needed in one or the other. Just to say NO without gathering information is irresponsible. The first reason that comes to mind is that in her rural community, there is no Guides. Sometimes there is a lack of volunteers. Would you deny Emily the chance to explore the great outdoors (health and fitness) just because she is a girl? (connection to weight issue)
I can only speak for myself but I would be comfortable apologizing for the injustice in this nation that does not always come up with a solution that is 'fair'.
The epic rate of divorce and break down of the family unit is something that is so complex. That's only one issue, we all know there are other issues that intertwine with each other. The outcome is often unfair and unjust and I'm just going to say that it is a huge drain on society including government departments, non-profit agencies, volunteers, individuals (men, women, children), communities, schools (private and public).
Here's a question to ponder. Since there seem to be lots of issues between men and women (competitiveness), do you think that the medical system in Canada support men and women equal? this could be tied into the original topic as women (and men) struggle with weight issues. | |
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