| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:12:21 AM | I just read this 54 yr old mans profile and he puts the idea of a hot tub with roses and candles is a romantic gesture as a surprize, so this is about the surprize element!
This led me to thinking - now this is to the over 45's mind, how many of us have good enough bodies to get naked on the first meeting with the opposite sex.
Does anyone think this is a romantic date?
Cos I have to say, that if I turned up for a date and he wanted me to go to the gym and get into the hot tub, I am not sure I would be totally relaxed about it, 1. For health reasons (how clean is the hot tub), 2. For modesty reasons (who wants to get naked with a stranger)? 3. And lastly what if you didn't like what you saw when the person stripped off and it was one of those 'puke moments'?
So is the Surprize hot tub with the roses and candles a romantic idea or not. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:27:57 AM |
This led me to thinking - now this is to the over 45's mind, how many of us have good enough bodies to get naked on the first meeting with the opposite sex.
Does anyone think this is a romantic date?
Ok, well I'm not over 45 but I'm going to respond anyway. :)
Uh...this is a first date? I really think it has less to do with someone's physical assets and more to do with what that guy is seeking...
Of course, I have been told I'm way too reserved...but still.
Who the heck does a 'hot tub' on a first date? | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:35:04 AM | Now darlin are you not "assuming" that he wants you in the tub in your birfday suit?  Bring your swimsuit!
First date, hot tub? Hmmm...would have to say nope! Not happening. I mean, the idea itself is wonderfully romantic and all, but you don't even know the fellow yet and he thinks that would be a great first date idea? Now mind you? If you met up and totally hit it off and at evening's end.....a possibility? | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:46:10 AM | OP, all this man's idea of a great first date tells you is that he has an active imagination.... and that hope springs eternal!
Of course I would not consider that as a first date, unless we stick to the standard POF distinction between first meet and first date. If the first meet went very well, the circumstances of the hot tub (public or private?) were just right, etc., it might be a remote possibility. I'm a huge sucker for a soak in a hot tub, so I wouldn't totally rule it out. (I have to say though, he'd have to have approximately as little physical beauty as I do, for this to work.)
A very strong interest of mine is to develop a supportive lifestyle for maintaining physical activity, so finding a good swimming (and hot tubbing) partner would override many fears about my flabby abs. I think at some age, concern about health has to override body image issues. We'll all be corpses in a little while, anyway. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 7:49:36 AM |
I just read this 54 yr old mans profile and he puts the idea of a hot tub with roses and candles is a romantic gesture as a surprize, so this is about the surprize element!
I think this guy is living in a Hugh Heffner fantasy world. He's looking for the playmate of the month. Unless he's one gorgeous hunk or he's loaded with money and fame (think movie star here) he's unlikely to find his fantasy. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 8:16:52 AM | | You're asking the question for the wrong reasons. The kind of woman a man would be seriously interested in wouldn't want to get stripped off for anyone other than someone she had grown an emotional attachment with, and you can't get that on the first date, and that should be the most important issue. You should think more of yourself than to even think about getting naked unless you really know and trust them. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 8:21:27 AM | Sounds as if someone (him) has been watching too much "Blind Date" on TV lately. Either that or he's not sharing the good stuff he's been smoking.
Romantic date? Yes. Hot tub, bottle of wine, candles, a little Coltrane or Monk... Would make a delightful way to end an evening with someone I had already been seeing for a while. Swimsuits or not - a little too much too soon for an early date.
Personally, I'd be less worried about health reasons as commercial tubs are heavily chlorinated and filtered (means no rose petals) I would be concerned with a backyard tub though. Modesty - at my age, who cares- (if ya can't find it, you can't get in trouble with it) and seen one seen them all. I would hope that by this age we are more-or-less comfortable in our own skins and have put body-image issues behind us (no, sorry- no junk in the trunk jokes).
But the ICK factor is pretty high. I hate cleaning up after my dates . 
Yeah... SURPRISE!! Hot Tub = not such a good idea. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 9:20:19 AM | Sittin' here chuckling over this!
Modesty - at my age, who cares- (if ya can't find it, you can't get in trouble with it) and seen one seen them all.
Guess this suprise first date would never be set up for me because he'd not know yet if I could or could not get in a hot tub...lol... so whew, that's good.
I think he's probably just dreaming and wishing.
Seems a lot of men, (and women), on PoF just like to dream of sexual fantasies.
But hey, that's their decision.
Whatever floats their boat.
Or.. floats in the hot tub. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 10:14:21 AM |
Does anyone think this is a romantic date?
This is a very romantic date ... hot tub, candles, fine wine, lovely lady ... mmmmmm. But on a first date ?!?  Yeah, it would be a surprise alright ...
As a rule, I like to date someone with a little more sense than that.
cdn guy | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 11:36:42 AM | Holy Smokes!!!!!!! I didn't think anyone took those first date descriptions seriously -- or literally. Guess I better change mine. I was just kidding when I wrote it
As for what cdn guy said about this being a romantic date, you bet. Love the idea -- it just won't happen on a first date. (except ... well, one house that I'm now thinking of buying does have a hot tub & I did think that I could work that into my pof trap)
What are the options for that first date description? You either describe a location that has an element of safety and quick exit possibilities -- or get creative in the description.
You probably would have to talk to the guy (email) to find out more about his real motives or agenda. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 1:23:54 PM |
Hello - the post read SURPRIZE!! who keeps a swim suit in their bag?
lmao...Sorry Loz..that should teach me to post before my eyes are totally open in the mornin! | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 1:33:57 PM | No way! The guy sounds like Mr. Cheapo. What does he do buy the roses at Sams Club and the candles at Big Lots? Yuck! I bet a quarter on my dead dogs grave that he brings along the boxed wine hoping to get the broad drunk. Pleeease! If the guy can't afford to buy a decent meal or take his date to a broadway play or someother more acceptable venue, then I think he needs to give it up.  | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 1:49:55 PM | | Lol well there goes that idea out the window moonchild...guess we'll have to think of something else...as my bathing suit is a little old...holes in the knees and all..lol | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 2:18:32 PM | How about sauna?
Without touching each other...you can burn calories...
Speaking about water...nice to be invited on private yacht...romantic idea for first date... | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 3:33:00 PM | | There isn't a good part on my body, it's all been ruined LOL but that's not why I wouldn't get into a hot tub with someone I just met. First, hot tubs sound awful to me, who knows what's growing in there and if I'm going to get wet, I like lots of room and cool water. I certainly don't want to get that cozy with a virtual stranger and I find nothing romantic about something they do with every woman they can get back to their place and hope to have sex with. I don't get all these fads that are suppose to be so cool and we must all do them on dates. I don't want to be in a hot tub, I hate wine, I don't drink coffee, I don't like bars....find out about me, I'll find out about you and we can find what is romantic and fun to do together, this stock-date-that-fits-all is boring. | |
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| Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/7/2008 3:56:35 PM | HHHMMMmmmmmm.......Being a Skunk,I'd have to make sure it was a Saturday
night, and that she had, used the excuse of having to wash her hair as a reason not
to go out with you on previous occasions.
Other than that, a bucket of ice with bubbly sitting in it and two bars of Lever
2000 soap and I'll wash your back if you'll wash mine.
It's Good Clean Fun!  | |
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