| Dating????
Posted: 6/7/2008 12:01:00 PM | What is everyones opinion on after you had a few dates with someone and it comes to a crashing halt, do you still persue another date with them to see if there is anything left, or go with the thought a "tigers stripes never change" and refrain from dating her again and being dissapointed again????? Dan     | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/7/2008 12:02:21 PM | | You've answered your own question. | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/8/2008 7:23:30 AM | | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^what he said^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/8/2008 9:32:05 PM | | Like Cajun said ~ you definately answered your own question. I live by a few rules & 1 of them is that I never ever give anyone a 2nd chance (friends or relationships)...no matter the reason because if they do it once ~ they'll do it again. | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/9/2008 8:56:59 AM | Fool me once- shame on you.
Fool me twice- shame on me! | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:56:09 AM | One of the greatest pieces of advice I ever received was - Life is like golf, if you can't "afford" to lose the "ball", you should never "hit" it.
Translation - If the downside of whatever you are contemplating is more unpleasant than you are willing to experience, then don't do it. | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/11/2008 8:37:52 PM | | I did try on a later occassion, she was fine and the next day a flaming nut!!!! Dan | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/15/2008 8:07:08 AM | Tiger's dont change thier stripes, especially at our age. If they are a liar or cheater, they will continue to be a liar and a cheat. If they are ungrateful they will continue to be rude. If they are a nutcase it will only get worse with time.
Do not ever rationalize away someones bad behavior and never except the blame for what someone else does. | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/15/2008 9:13:43 AM | Good answer Pete.
We do have to realize that at the age of 50 something We should be able to communicate on an adult level.
Everyone knows how hard it is to find that special person...............it always pays to be honest from the day one .I do not believe in 2nd chances..........I teach my 2 daughters a very valuable lesson about dating-Do not believe what the guys tell you.....have them show you what they are made out of.
To all of you "fishers"these POF parties are great........everyone is so polite!OMG | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/15/2008 11:05:35 AM | | I have a female friend, Irma, that once gave me this great piece of advice, "A relationship is like a fine piece of crystal glassware, when it is broken, IT IS BROKEN ! | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/15/2008 12:09:34 PM | Relationships, unlike crystal, can be fixed but ONLY when both people are willing and able to fix it.
I think its more when people are broken, you can't fix them... no glue, no love, no money no anything will ever make them "right". Only they can do that and many (too many) don't see the problem as them but instead the rest of the world is wrong. | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/15/2008 12:50:18 PM | Dan .take it eazzzzzzzzzzzzzzz..................you "broklyneze"can be very impatience at times!!!lol | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/16/2008 4:42:25 PM | Thanks for correcting my spelling-all my friends are from BROOKLYN and you should be proud.Why do people get so stressed out about dating ?Just have fun and be yourself. | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:47:33 PM | ^^^^^ Just described symptoms of people who are not happy with themselves.
You can't relax and have fun on a date if you are not happy with and accepting of who you are because otherwise you have to post old pictures, lie about being a smoker, lie about living with friends etc. etc. etc. and as long as you are doing those things you cant possibly form a healthy and productive relationship with some one you meet through a dating site or in a grocery store. | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:07:32 PM | You can not be yourself if everything in your life is based on lies.You try to pretend to be someone else. Dating is like a "theathre piece"...most of the people here are trying to "play a role"so unknown to them.
The basics are very simple......why to date and try to put a stranger in your spider web that is messed up.How about cleaning your mess up first and then invite a new person into your life...................who would like to date a person whose life is in a chaos-it gets old really quick.
Learn to love and respect yourself first .Dating is not a" numbers game" it is about finding quality not quanity. | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/22/2008 6:36:00 PM | Dan YOU KNOW if you chase after a hottie even though she may be an older aged hottie she is going to expect you to show her a good time on your dime.
If you pick out women who flaunt for instance their ten thousand dollar breast implants and you can tell that she has those because she is wearing something so revealing and so overtly sexual such as a Cheetah print, skin tight, top. Well you think she is going to let you put your paws on them HER VALUABLE ASSETS after meeting you for coffee on three occasions? Get real Dan. SHE IS FAR FROM DESPERATE AND SHE IS NOT SEX STARVED I would believe. If she was that easy to bed she can go to a hotel, sit at a bar, and pick up a beautiful young stud for that needed roll in the hay. Why would she just want to hop in the sack with just anybody when she can pick and choose ?
HER VALUABLE assets get her free drinks and somebody has got to pay for them because they cost her and she wants to be reimbursed by the men who get the pleasure of them is my belief . She looks good for you and she wants you to show your appretiation in a big way I think. She Any woman who flaunts her feminine assets openly to large numbers of men is hoping to real in a big fish for fun. That would be nights out on the town dancing, dinner, drinks the whole tamale . Wearing eye-catching outfits that shout hey look at me, I am just so sexy and I am dressed to please. I got it and I am not afraid to show it. Well if she agrees to go out with you, you know dang well that she expects for you to be grateful to her for sharing her wonderful sexy self with you .Not to hurt your feelings but you are not special . You are a average Joe.A good time and on your dime is what she is after period . Get real Dan. That is life you can't always get what you want but you always get almost what you need LOL
 ![]() | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/27/2008 8:49:52 AM | ketchup: OUCH !!!!! are you a pulp fiction fan or john travolta fan? | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 6/27/2008 4:40:41 PM | | I guess it depends on what the other person did to bring it to a screeching halt. Was it heinous or just a quirk that you could get used to? | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 7/7/2008 5:53:53 PM | Hey Dan.... I am from Brooklyn also & selective (what do you expect from a Brooklyn Lady) ---- What you see, is what you get... People are who they are, accept or reject them, as they do not change, just like you do not want to change... Beauty comes from a persons heart, character, eyes & smile--- I just learn from the bad as that only makes the next one better.... D | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:30:21 PM | I think dating is so hard as an adult
I would rather have the days back when you wrote a note and actually checked the box then you really know how the other person feels.
we really could learn alot about the simplicity of how things really could be if we all were honest.
I have a friend that had a date that lasted 2 days and she now wonders what does that mean? He could have left at any time but he stayed.
Still think we should go back to the note passing and be forced to check the box!!!
but even with all that said I was given some great advise and it was people will only treat you the way you allow them too. I try to pass it on when ever I can but still hoping my bestfriend will find me no matter how much heart break I have to suffer to get there. (with out being walked on) | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 7/20/2008 6:29:13 AM | The check box is a FANTASTIC idea...I've always said the hardest part about dating, and even more so dating as an adult, is just knowing if someone is interested or not.
In high school/college you could could get the scoop much easier...as an adult...it's not always as easy. The last thing I want to do is ask someone out who has a bf or who is just not interested...in school the worst that happened was a few embarassing weeks of class with that person, maybe passing them in the hall every now and then, no REAL harm. As an adult, things are a little more complicated.
Personally if I am talking to someone/seeing someone, whatever you call it - I just want to know where I stand. This idea may sound nerdy, but it's an upgrade to the check box plan...every adult who is single, and interested in dating has to create an online database of everyone they are interested in dating, and it must be done immediatly upon meeting someone (I get this is the far fetched part...but honestly...who does not have a cell phone/blackberry these days...the dating system could sync in when you put their number in your phone). One simple question - yes or no...that way before someone asked someone out, they could check to see if there was a mutual interest...if not...you don't ask...at least the initial awkwardness of asking someone out would be avoided...the two people could focus on getting to know one another and seeing if they really were a match...from there, its up to honesty and open communication to make the relationship work...
yeah, nevermind...that will never work...let's just got back to the check boxes... | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 7/21/2008 5:57:35 PM | there has to be a way that was just as simple as passing notes in school, I mean the whole love tap thing still applies why not the theroy of the notes...
I think we should go back to that, so much easier then!!  | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 8/11/2008 6:55:35 PM | dear tonya:
i like u; do you like me? y for yes, n for no.... 
how's that, cutie?
mike
 | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 8/16/2008 5:54:49 AM | The rules for dating is there are no rules, no guidlines, and no instructions there are however your own personal morals and boundaries that come into play.
If you like 'em - go for it! If not just be polite and move on.
If you're wondering will he or she call me - call them.
If you have gone out a few times and it comes to a sudden halt - find out why.
The whole dating scene has changed due to the now availability of anyone who has an internet connection but that doesn't mean it has to be a horrid experience.
We all want the same thing at the end of the day, right. So don't settle for just anyone BUT don't rush because you think there might be someone better just around the corner (or you'll be alone at the end of your days) | |
|
| Dating????
Posted: 8/21/2008 3:13:58 PM | | Well Dan isn,t that a personal question you should answer for yourself??????I always ask myself was it just friends or more.....Been out 3 times thru here.Great people even thou 2 were not totally honesty and hid things.Still friends with one .So follow your instincts...... | |
|
Home
login 
