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Posted: 6/8/2008 8:29:23 AM | This is something I decided to mention in my profile recently, as I keep on going to meet women and am interested in them but cannot stand being around them because of the strength of their perfume.
PLEASE!!! understand this, (I'm sure this applies to a lot of guys as well), this stuff is VERY powerful!!! You don't need a lot of it. Since your used to it, if you can notice the smell yourself....its probably too much! Try to be subtle....I dont' mind perfume when it is a hint, or suggestion, but when it is yelling in my nose, its a real turn off/deal breaker/nice to have met but won't be meeting again!!
Why can't people understand that they have their own built in perfume that the cologne makers would love to be able to bottle!!!! Just be clean and let you pheromones do the rest!!! | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 9:08:32 AM | | Agreed, I hate colonge on men. I also know that by masking your true natural scent you are blocking yourself from meeting the "right" man or woman for you. Their immune system will recognize yours as compatible to theirs for making healthy kids and therefore attraction to the "right" person is automatic. One of the many reasons why now so many kids have asthma, allergies etc.. the right people are not getting together as they confuse them selves with all these masking odors. one of many reasons why we have trouble finding our "one" too much perfumes. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 11:41:52 AM | | reminds me of all those morning in school when friends would gather in their lil cliques before classes and how everyones perfume was different or applied in various strengths and how the odors blended into what might as well have been this perfume cloud that lingered over all the lil groups then would mesh into one big cloud of odor as the halls emptied and classes started..ahha....yah...i stopped hanging out in groups larger than 3 because of that!! | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 12:26:02 PM | I once met a woman off of Pof.. we talked for awhile and really hit it off, talked on the phone all sorts of things but our work schedules didnt allow us to meet up for some time.. finally the day came where we were both free.. we were both fairly comfortable with eachother so it was decided she would come over to hang out and watch movies have dinner etc etc.. well damn.. She walked in the door and I think my plant wilted.. it was a citrusy perfume and I didnt know I was allergic to some forms of perfume but it was over whelming.. I ended up having to jump in the shower as I started to get all itchy and scratchy and get lil red hives all over my arms and hands.. wasnt cool. She got angry with me thinking I was over reacting and I tried to apologize but ya.. it was just a bad scene ended badly.. never spoke again.
I hate when women smell like they jumped in a tub of perfume.. I mean I like a woman who smells good dont get me wrong.. and a little spurt is great.. but when I cant I cant smell the foods in a food court when you walk by.. its to much and its over powering. Also when my eyes go bloodshot because its so strong and it feels like I cant breath.. its to much. Lol I know many women who apply the appropriate amount and have no problems.. moderation is your friend. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 12:35:38 PM | One of the things I've noticed is that some people, both women and men, don't understand that scents are seasonal.
Wearing too sweet of a scent in the warmth of summer turns it noxious... same with spicy...
In warmer weather, use much lighter scents to ensure they don't become overpowering.
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Posted: 6/8/2008 1:00:51 PM | I would like to say something about this...
I recently saw an episode of some talk show that said women who are depressed will put on more perfume than needed as well as the scent becomes stronger due to the endorphins their body is producing...
I myself have always enjoyed heavy, musky, rich smells... I love bergamont and sandalwood smells... So I like the much stronger scents, but I spray one squirt on my neck and one on my wrist then rub it to the other wrist... I don't wear alot because you can continue to smell it through out the day...
Also these women may be wearing body spray, which fades quickly and have to spray massive amounts through the day... Whereas perfume lasts all day, and may only need to be reapplied once....
Perhaps as to my first statement, you are finding women who are depressed.. Try to continue to date them a little bit, may be do something that makes them happy or have a blast of a time! See if they smell as strong... Because you may find they don't | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 1:33:41 PM | Perfumes or colognes were meant to be used sparingly. In fact, ettiquette dictates that a scent should be applied only enough for the user to smell it. Really, that just means it is a way to have a suitor come closer to smell the scent. Pulse points are where these scents should be applied and only a small dab or spray. Personally, I spray only a half spray to each area I apply. And that's usually close to where I may want someone to kiss me. Don't place it directly on a kissable area; icky tasting.  | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 1:54:44 PM | | Or nothing worse than getting into a guy's car and it smells like he spilled his whole cologne bottle in there... | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 2:04:01 PM | I like my girls to smell like fruit! Mmmm!
Usually when I go on dates, I take the shirt I'm going to wear and spray a hint of cologne on it, this way it has time for the intense smell to die. So when it's time for the date it is not too much but enough to smell. Secrets of the trade! | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 2:07:21 PM | | The right amount is supposed to be if someone is in close, they can smell it, but not from across the table. I like men who smell nice. I don't wear perfume very often, but I suppose all my other cosmetics and hair stuff has a smell, too. I've never had any complaints | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 2:25:28 PM | | I have had this experience with men wearing to much cologne. And a few times I have met a guy who was trying to hide the fact that he was a heavy smoker (although he said he didn't smoke) by wearing a bunch of cologne. Nothing grosser than cigarette breath through heavy cologne. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 3:35:34 PM | I used to wear a small amount of perfume. I cannot now as I have asthma and it will send me into an attack. I had to be rude and ask the people around me to not wear it around me. I know it might seem mean of me to ask this but when I can have an attack and end up in the hospital, it is serious to me. I like to be able to breath.
There is a thing as a little bit and then taking a bath in the stuff. If you smell it on you, you are wearing too much. A little dab will do ya.
Just out on your profile that you are affected badly to scents and that means no perfume. If someone cannot understand, then they are not for you.
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Posted: 6/8/2008 3:40:26 PM | | i remember when i was little my mother would bathe and pretty much take a 2nd bath in her jean nate`. she used the after bath splash on and pretty much poured it on her plus the powder....ewww, that's too much. i like things soft scented on myself and on men as well. nothing too over whelming and nothing too weak. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 4:02:34 PM | Yep..I've since added it into my profile that heavy perfume usage is an overriding factor for me.. meaning that even if everything else is great, the perfume issue is enough to prevent a repeat meet. The suggestion that by seeing women several times who may be depressed, (hence the heavy perfume usage), in order to cheer them up and consequently lessen their usage.....well that ignores the fact that I would have to endure an unpleasant and unhealthy (for me) situation for a very speculative outcome. No thanks.
Asthma is such a widespread condition now, and so many people suffer from it to a life threatening extent. Many workplaces now have a scent free policy, and have signs stating this and requesting people to not come to work, and even for clients to refrain from coming in scented. This isn't rude...rude is inflicting a smell on others in a situation they can't avoid.
Its kinda like farting in a crowded elevator.
Maybe that should be the guiding principle...if you wouldn't fart there, don't wear perfume there. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 5:28:37 PM | Yay to this thread! Way too many people just don't understand the power of perfume. Good and Bad.
Sexy: When I am sitting next to you for an hour or so and suddenly I think "Is he wearing cologne? I'm not sure but I think he might smell really good..." and I lean in to get a closer sniff and to satisfy my curiosity.
Not sexy: When I smell you walk in the room before I see you. When I smell you more than the food I am eating. When I can't breathe.
Perfume should be an undercurrent. An afterthought. It shouldn't smack you in the face. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 5:40:52 PM | Up until about 15 years ago, I loved to wear perfume and body sprays. Then, seemingly overnight, I became so sensitive to most scents that I would get an instant headache...my sinuses would plug up...and I'd be close to nausea, or is it nauseous, tee hee.
My mother taught me early on to spray the air in front of me and walk through it, thereby only having a vague scent on my skin instead of an overwhelming one.
One of my dearest POF friends recently offered me a ride to a party. I struggled with accepting the offer as she wears enough perfume that everyone in the room...even a pool hall...is aware of it!! Knowing how close the two of us had become in the last year, I hoped that she would not be offended by my request. I went to her and reminded her of my allergy to strong fragrances, suggesting that I may not react as much if she were to put it on early in the day instead of right before she left the house. She truly had no idea that her perfume was so potent! Well, the ride to the party yesterday went smoothly. Turns out she did not put any fragrance on until we arrived at the location, and only put it behind her ears, instead of in her hair.
I have had to turn down dates with men who were heavy smokers, and do the same with a few men who wore excessive doses of cologne. Not saying that it is either a male-biased or a female-biased problem, but allergies certainly seem more common now than they were even 20 years ago.
In a more humorous note: I think I would rather get into a guy's car that reaked of one of those awful car fresheners than bad breath!! I know, I know..we can, and often do, have bad breath too. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 5:48:59 PM | | a gentleman that smells good is such a turn on!!! | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 6:40:42 PM | Hey there migivadamsbusted!! Did you know that I am not the only woman who thinks that a man who uses Safeguard soap smells sexier than a man who wears any of the popular colognes or aftershaves on the market?   | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 7:50:30 PM | | I love scents. I love when a guy is wearing cologne. It makes me think that he put a little extra into our date than he would a night with the guys. I also love perfume. For me, I find expensive perfumes (Chanel) are difficult to get a light hint of. I spray it in the air and walk under it, but it still smells strong. I dunno. You either like it or you don't I guess. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 8:04:35 PM | I have noticed that around ovulation my sense of smell is more sensitive. I'll walk by a counter or store that is scented and end up getting a headache. If I wear any, I can smell it all day because of my raging hormones.
I read an article that said if you want to keep the scent longer on the skin to keep from re- applying too much, spray it on after you dried off. I guess the scent sticks better to slightly damp skin. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 12:22:25 AM | definately keep spraying it on, i love the sweet smell of a gal in perfume. especially after it mixes with her own body chemistry
-then i really cant get enough... mmmmm | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 2:27:11 AM | I have a really strong perfume, so I figured out a trick for it (doing the "mist" thing always backfires on me.)
Anyway, my trick is to spray it on a bit of paper towel, and then lightly tap the skin / clothes with it. Plus, its a bonus because the paper towel goes into the bathroom garbage when I'm done, and this way my bathroom is never stinky. lol! | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 2:58:52 AM | | i like to mix three or four different kinds on different parts of my body. gotta keep em on their toes | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 6:04:50 AM | | i think it is because most people will not pay attention to the difference between: eau de parfum, eau de toilette, perfume etc. they all use different concentrations, perfume or eau de parfum is MUCH stronger than eau de toilette | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 10:52:10 AM | Related question: Gals, do you always where the same scent w/a guy or do you mix things up?
I love scents and have a zillion perfumes it seems. But I bought a new scent right after I met my guy and started wearing it to see him - bathe in the shower gel, put the creme on my legs, and spray a bit on my arms. It's a light scent so it's not as bad as it sounds.
ANyway, i realized fairly quickly that he would associate it with me. So now it's all I wear when I see him... I can't remember the name but it's a rose scent from bath and body works (if you're curious).
I used to change perfumes like I'd change my clothes hwen I was married but not with this guy.
So what do you all do, particularly when you date someone new?
Just to add, scents do carry meaning for me. Like Victoria...still reminds me of going to clubs when I was a teenager, for example. They make memories for me. And I have the original Vanilla oil from the body shop and I wear it whenever I have a stressful event to go to like a job interview or whatnot. (it smells like baking, like real vanilla).
And he told me one day that he slept on my side of the bed b/c it smelled like me. :) Then said I needed to come back and rub my "stink" on the sheets again so it'd smell like me again. LOL
but I do kinda miss perfuming according to mood, season, and outfit...
Kaylie | |
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