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Posted: 6/8/2008 8:58:53 AM | Please take a look at my profile I seem to get men that want to get right to cyber sex and too many young guys. I have sent a few e-mails and no response.
Thanks for your help I'm quite open to positive critism.
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Posted: 6/8/2008 9:42:08 AM | I really don't know why your having problems, other than maybe there are a lot of guys lacking in class.
Your profile reads very well, nothing there to suggest that you are looking for a romp in the sack and nothing more.
Don't give up hope...About the only thing I would say is that leaving the ball in the man's court with regard adding them to favorites. For myself...if someone adds me to favorites and never sends me a message, I'll eventually remove them. I see favorite lists on POF as the same as on a web browser...bookmarking something you are interested in but don't want to look for again. If you never actually send a message it just shows to me that you aren't really interested, you just haven't cleaned up your favorites list.
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Posted: 6/8/2008 10:12:42 AM |
sensualangel
There is a good chance that this is part of your problem with the pervs.
Well guys your looking for one of the good ones. Here I am.
It is much better to SHOW us than to TELL us. DELETE
Classy, secure and loads of fun. Love to laugh and smile.
These are either VERY vague, or what I call "ASSUMED GIVENS". DELETE
Love to meet a dancing partner.
Is there a reason this sentence is lonely?
I do not need a man but want a gentleman in my life.
This is rather obvious since you apparently are alive at this point. DELETE
Partnership should be equal, romance and affection I'm good at this, like to dance, cook your favourite meal.
This is all over the place, does not read well at all.
Only associate birthdays now with automobile sticker ...lol
I do not get this, but mabe other may. Loose all references to LOL . Do the comedians on comedy central tell YOU when to laugh? I didn't think so. Neither should you tell us when to laugh. SHOW us funny, don't tell us it's funny.
Guys ... hint ... hint ...If we add you to our favourites we want you to respond ... you know that you are suppose to read our minds ...lol
The gentleman who walks into my world would be honest,intelligent, gentle , caring, confident in himself but with passion and compassion.
Most of these are what I call "ASSUMED GIVENS". I recommend removing all but passion. You should be using descriptors that make someone UNIQUE, and is NOT something EVERYONE finds attractive. Adenturous, oldfashioned, extrovert/introvert, passionate, intense, laidback, geek, etc.
One who excites me physically, emotionally and mentally.
Painfully obvious, DELETE
A man who is ready to start a new relationship based on trust , love ,mutual understanding.
Useless, same reason as stated above. Do you actually know someone that ISN'T looking for this? DELETE
He isn't afraid to share his feelings and thoughts openly. DELETE this, and consider adding extrovert, as a desired personality traite in your what you are looking for. He would be willing to receive and give affection. If you want to use this, you need to expand upon what you consider affectionate. There are many DIFFERENT ways to show affection. What one finds attractive, another may find offensive. It will be wonderful surprise for me if he is a dancer, romantic, optimistic and lives life to the fullest. Romantic, is same as explanation above, there are MANY ways. What you have here is very meaningless. You need to be specific in EXACTLY what you think is romantic. Please drop me a line if you are interested. Write a good profile and they will. DELETE Gentleman no pic ... no response fair is fair !!!: This is BOTH negative AND pointless. DELETE Best wishes OFCB | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 12:34:45 PM | I didn't read the other reviews, but here's what I thought, given your statement that men seem to expect cyber sex from you -- your profile is rife with "key" words and phrases that indicate you are available to overtures of that nature. I.E.;
"sensual"
"Darling" (in your headline)
"don't be shy"
"intamacy" [sic] -- as an interest
"kissing" - as an interest
"affection" - as an interest
"romantic nights" - as an interest
"available for love and intimacy"
"passion"
"One who excites me physically"
"He would be willing to receive and give affection"
Consider leaving those out altogether or rewording them. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 5:55:26 PM | I have changed my profile as suggested by some of my positive critics on here. Looking for some advice for this new one I tried to make it unique as possilbe.
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Posted: 6/8/2008 5:56:06 PM | I have changed my profile as suggested by some of my positive critics on here. Looking for some advice for this new one I tried to make it unique as possilbe.
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Posted: 6/8/2008 6:27:24 PM | Looks like all the subliminal suggestions (Sue's delete list) have gone away. Good on you! Your current wording sounds self-assured and happy.
You could crop your pics a little tighter and they will show up better in the thumbnails. (Take a look at the guys' pics that appear on your screen--see how the ones with motorcycles and boats don't stand out nearly as well as a tight head shot?) Your main has lots of curtains and walls that are extraneous.
Will Ontarians know what the cup award is for?
I always ask this...what type of dancing? Travel to where? You have several artists listed in your interests, and I think I'd change that to "music" and then put the list in your text paragraphs. (Unless...you really want to have Elvis as a clickable link and be able to connect with those also interested in Elvis and you want to travel to Graceland. Not that there's anything wrong with that.)
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Posted: 6/9/2008 5:35:14 AM | Ya, alot of guys on here and maybe girls just want sex and I like sex but ya bars and clubs and other places ya can get that at.Like yesterday I went to meet a guy and he said I wasn't in shape and my pics were the same as me. We all can't be a paris Hilton or
angie jolie. I guess poeple arn't intersted in who someone might be anymore just what they look like and I am not old and fat and you women out there your beautiful no mater what!!! | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 9:33:50 AM |
How do I crop my pic?
You need a photo editing program; the one that came with your digital camera or webcam might have this functionality. Usually you draw a box around the area you want to keep, and then do something to tell the program to crop the area that's left outside the box.
Feel free to message me if you need more walk-through. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 4:20:00 PM | I lost my pis when my computer crashed so I guess cropping is out of the question.
I made more changes to my profile for the good I hope. Other suggestions from here.
Some feedback would be great. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 6:22:34 PM | Hi SE, this is a BIG improvement over what you had. You did a pretty good job of describing your personality. But then you fell off the boat when you described that you were looking for.
I’m looking an honest, loyal gentleman, a gentleman with passion for fun, love and life who is passionate but with compassion. Spontaneous, romantic, enjoys dancing, traveling and dining in and out.
Do you know ANYONE looking for a DISHONEST, DISLOYAL, UNCOMPASSIONATE, man with no PASSION for FUN, LOVE, or LIFE? This is totally useless, these are what I refered to as "ASUMED GIVENS" in my first response.When I see stuff like this, I simply can't get to the back button fast enough. Why you ask? Because it tells me this woman has NO IDEA what she wants. If you want to maximize your chances of success, you are going to need to do better than this.
Spontanious and romantic are possibilities, ONLY if you clarify what you mean by them. For example, if your man came home from work on Friday, said packem up honey, we are leaving for the mountains in one hour. Do you consider THAT spontainious? My guess would be no, of course I could be wrong. But I hope you get my point either way. There are MANY different types of ROMANCE , what one lady finds romantic, another may be turned off by. So as you can see, you have not really told him anything.
Best wishes
OFCB | |
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Posted: 6/10/2008 3:30:22 PM | Thanks for the feedback. I've made more changes with what I'm looking for.
Anyone see anything negative or otherwise. Brain strain is happening.
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Posted: 6/10/2008 6:09:46 PM | This is MUCH better, but I am going to leave you with a few things to ponder.
He must be well groomed, outgoing, like dancing, dining in and out,
I am NOT an english expert, but to me, I would use a period rather than a comma here.
To me, "dining in and out" in the MUST have sentence, means to it would be required that I eat regularly.
I have NO clue, what percentage of the male population likes to dance, my guess would be something under 25%. I just wanted to point out that you have it in the MUST have sentence. I am not saying you should change it, simply pointing out that it MAY limit you substantually.
with our precious dreams ahead of us.
If you told him what your dreams were, and his matched, your odds of getting mail would go up dramaticly.
Best wishes
OFCB | |
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Posted: 6/10/2008 7:33:39 PM | Again thanks for your help I now see a huge differece ... before and after ... It was worth the effort.
Made the last few changes please take one last look .... Think I'm good to go !!! | |
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Posted: 6/10/2008 7:40:16 PM | OP,
I never weighed in on your profile because you were already receiving such good advice. I was, however, watching from the wings.
May I be the first to say..."WE HAVE A GRADUATE!!"
I almost get teary seeing the progress you have made. You are one hot 50 something and your profile really gives me a sense of who you are.
You took the reviews like a champ and I think have an end result to be proud of.
To OFCB and all of the reviewers, this is a great success!  (had to use him!) | |
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Posted: 6/10/2008 7:50:30 PM | Agree with the previous posts - you have done a great job in crafting your profile.
If I may add one suggestion - I like your current pictures #2 for your main. There's something even more inviting (in my opinion) in a person who looks you straight in the eye. And I think it's a GREAT picture of you - smiling with your eyes, just as your user name suggests.
Good luck!  | |
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| Your thoughts please.
Posted: 6/10/2008 10:15:00 PM | "How about an elephant ride for 2. Oh right that's the second date."
LOL! I love it! I think I might have to steal that line. ;-) | |
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| Gentleman your thoughts please.
Posted: 6/11/2008 2:24:26 AM | Ask and ye shall receive. That's exactly what you humbly did. You gratefully listened and now you have an awesome profile.
Well done and all the best. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 5:11:06 AM | Thanks for all the great compliments. One quick question?
Should I initiate some e-mails or just sit in the wings , wait and look pretty ... lol ? | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 6:14:44 AM | For godssake, email!! You do the picking. Do searches, customize them. Then take a moment to truly respond to a person's profile that catches your eye. Make your email unique. I can spot a cut and paste job a mile away. How would you start a conversation in person? "Sounds like you have an interesting job as a ----------, I would love to hear more about it"....or something more flirty...."sounds like a great first date to hike and have a picnic. What time should I be ready?" (alright, maybe that one is a little cheesy!)
The point is, everyone likes to be listened to and that includes reading their profile and "getting" the person they are trying to portray.
Post back or send an email and let us know how you are doing!!
Good luck, Cathie | |
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