| Language barriers, new to the country & love
Posted: 6/9/2008 11:38:09 AM | Hi all,
I'm so curious & wanting to ask all you fishies who have perhaps been in this same situation. Call me crazy, but long story short, I've been seeing an awesome man (met in March/08 when I was out on a crappy date!!) who's new to this country (8 months) & is just learning English. His native language is French (from Africa) & good thing I have some exposure to the language or else, I'd be totally lost.
I've been reading all these threads and they all say if you wanna know how he feels, ask him, if you need to know, just ask, well..I've asked & I don't think he understands!!  I've tried to rephrase, tried the English/French dictionary & my translation sucks!!! 
I'll hang in there only because he's absolutely fabulous, makes me feel all warm and fuzzy & I love how even through his broken English, I can see that he's into me too!! From his phone calls & his msgs, I'm pretty sure he feels the same as I do.
I'm just curious how many other's have been in this situation? How long did you hang in there? How about you men that just immigrated, how do you feel about dating/relationships? Would you stay with one of the first girls you met? I'm sure all think I'm trying to gauge how long to hang in there, but I'm an independent type & when it's wrong for me, I'll let loose. I'm just really wondering about other people's experiences in these kind of situations. | |
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| Language barriers, new to the country & love
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:39:54 PM | | You need more than a French class.... you need to get a translator, where you type in the phrase, and it translates. Go to the internet for foreign language translators. Ask for a device you can talk into and and write. There is also a program and a free download that you type in words, and they automatically translate into English, and vice versa. College students use this to cheat on foreign language classes, but the professors can detect the use of this program. Another idea... call the university in foreign language department and ask about the programs you can buy or download. | |
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| Language barriers, new to the country & love
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:11:32 AM | I have never been in a international relationship, but have observed lots of couples in our area who are--and the men have quickly picked up a local woman, married her and had a child, thereby making them legal in our area. Some are in love--some I am not so sure about, so I will play devil's advocate--I am not trying to rain on your parade--hope it works out, just be sure he is not after a green card. Depending on where he is from, he will have a visa or a permanent resident alien. Folks with the latter--are here with no issue. Most of the people I work with from Africa are PRA.
The above posters are correct with the use of translators, etc. Most colleges, adult education-check the board of education for this one or local state job placements offices--often called Career Centers can refer him to ESL-English Second Language classes.
French is a romance language, if you know Spanish or Italian--a lot of the words are similar--and a lot of English words are the same or similar. Hang in there, good luck and keep us posted.
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| Language barriers, new to the country & love
Posted: 6/10/2008 8:56:11 AM | Culture, language shock is very stressful, so give him plenty of space.
Also, soccer season just started, so an African probably needs Mon and Fri off to watch the game!
Don't get discouraged if it moves ahead quickly, then seems to stall. He's dealing with alot. | |
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| Language barriers, new to the country & love
Posted: 6/10/2008 12:59:13 PM | are you stupid?
you are in love with a person who you can't communicate with? I don't think it is love between you two. Maybe you just find him attractive somehow. but you put up a lot for something you think is love.
i think at your age, you should wake the f up and start looking for someone locally. there are plenty of men there, why the hell you love some guy who speaks different language.
good luck becase you need it. | |
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| Language barriers, new to the country & love
Posted: 6/10/2008 1:33:31 PM | I LOVE it when guys can't speak English. You are a lucky girl. It's French so it will sound good in bed I myself prefer Italian. German was a tough language in the sack. It has an authoritarian quality that kind of kills the mood.
My first serious boyfriend was Greek and it was GREAT. It was bad timing and I was too young though I then dated an Italian photographer and he was HEAVEN! Unfortunately, I chose my career over moving to Italy Can you say stupid?
I have only had good experiences with men with language barriers. I say enjoy yourself and have fun! | |
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