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Posted: 6/9/2008 5:06:49 PM | I have had a few chats with someone on here. The second chat I really liked. He said we could meet, but I was too busy. We have another chat, and he gives me his cell number. We talked, and he asked what I looked like and all that. Well, it seemed like he was up to it, but I forgot that I was tied up. Sorry that it sounds like I'm too busy to meet anyone, but it's true.
The problem is that when I try to IM him to arrange it, he won't respond. Last time, he sent an I M "Can't you see I don't want to talk to you?" However, I am thinking of calling and seeing if he has time to talk about it. could be he's busy now or something. Should I make a first contact or just leave him alone? Should I invite him over? | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 5:11:52 PM | he sent you this? ""Can't you see I don't want to talk to you?" "
If so then sorry no offence, but did you read it? He apparently does not want to talk to you any more.
If I read that wrong then just wait to see if he calls you back. You don't want to over do it and come off as desperate. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 5:15:43 PM | | Well my guess is that he thought you had more important things to do with your time and he was trying to show you that you were a priority for him. He liked you, you turned him down. Maby next time you will make some time. I think you should more than likely let this guy go cuz you may have already messed it up with him. | |
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| Should I leave him alone?
Posted: 6/9/2008 5:15:46 PM |
he sent an I M "Can't you see I don't want to talk to you?"
You're dead in the water. At least you know that he doesn't want to talk to you, some people don't even get that, they'd just ignore your calls. So I applaud him for being straight up, it take courage which allot of people lack. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 5:21:10 PM | "Can't you see I don't want to talk to you?"
I don't want to be mean - but, do you need a bag of bricks to fall on your head?
If you don't understand what he is clearly telling you, then change your name to "Stalker" and continue to bother him....The man has spoken.
N E X T ! ! ! | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 5:48:47 PM | Well, when you told him how busy you are, he took it as a hint that you weren't interested. Sure you didn't mean to imply that. But that is the signal he got.
And now that you've already tried to get in touch with him again, and he told you outright how he feels, just forget about him. Don't continue. It would be like you're begging him. There's nothing more to do. But with the next guy you're interested in, don't forget to be up front about your busy status. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 5:54:25 PM | | Does this sound like the kind of guy you really want to be with. Pouty over a busy schedule...and you hardly know him. Think how pleasurable he will be once he is comfy with you. Sounds like you are not missing out on much. Things happen with schedules. That is life. Pouting and getting mad over it...who would want anyone like that | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 5:55:04 PM | You hardly know this guy. If you tried again, you'd be crossing over into the "stalking" category. Next time you meet someone you really like, don't just say you're busy. Let him know you really would like to meet him and give him a day when you will be free.
I also think psychologically, men like a challenge, so I would let the guy do the calling. All you need to do is let him know there is some interest on your part. If a guy is interested in you, he will call you. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 6:05:48 PM | uhhhhhh...
WOW...got issues? WHY ON EARTH ARE TRYING TO CONTACT HIM IF HE SAYS HE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU?!
Get a grip lady! It shouldnt matter WHY he doesnt want to talk to you! He said he doesn't ! GAME OVER!
And if you are so worried about someone whom you have NEVER met and are pshyco-analyzing this the way you are, and are STILL thinking of contacting him AFTER he to NOT do so....it sounds like you probably just scared the hell out of not only THAT guy but every other guy reading this post! YIKES LADY! | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 7:58:03 PM | Just goes to show how challenge is still king!
The guy clearly says he doesn't want her and she just has to pursue it!
Had the guy said, I really would like to talk to you, she'd be gone!  | |
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| Should I leave him alone?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:14:24 PM | Can't you see I don't want to talk to you". This is an IM text. He has made it clear to you how he feels. Any further contact with him could result in a STALKING charge, by law, so ..... be advised, and remember if you chase a man, he will surely run. Leave him alone. What does he do for a living? If he is in law, or law enforcement, he is more aware of STALKING LAWS than you are.... so BE SMART.... leave him alone. There are plenty of fish | |
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Dia623
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Joined: 5/13/2008
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| Should I leave him alone?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:17:29 PM | You are right Plastic Sturgeon!
You always want what you cannot have! I thought the very same thing! | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 9:35:10 PM | LOL its obvious you are done for him. You were flaky and "forgot" about the second meeting so he said forget it. Who wants to be with someone who is too busy to date? If you are flaky and too busy, dont expect him to be trying to see you.
You blew it. He said"leave me alone" and your next response is,"could it be he's busy now?". LOL Just leave the guy alone; move on and if you are too busy, expect others not to chase you. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 10:14:50 PM | What part of "I don't want to talk to you" do you not understand gal?
The guy is no longer interested.
Move on. | |
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Dia623
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Joined: 5/13/2008
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| Should I leave him alone?
Posted: 6/9/2008 10:20:11 PM | and anyway? why are you on a dating site if you dont have time to date??? I admit I am busy too but atleast I will say hey...cant tonight or whatever BUT......... it DOES sound like the classic tale of I want what I cannot have....
maybe (just a hunch) you didnt find him so interesting until he wasn't so interested in you? I find that terribly funny!
hope you learned your lesson sweetie! | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 11:19:56 PM | | He made it very clear he doesn't want to talk to you and you'll have to respect that. You blew your chances...sometimes in life you don't get a second chance...live and learn :) | |
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Posted: 6/10/2008 10:13:43 AM | Exactly what part of "Can't you see I don't want to talk to you" are you having trouble understanding?
No he isn't busy, no he doesn't want to speak to you, no he doesn't want you to invite him over, no he doesn't want you to keep in contact.
Just leave him alone and move on. You admit yourself you are too busy to meet anyone anyway! | |
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Posted: 6/10/2008 10:28:32 AM | Last time, he sent an I M "Can't you see I don't want to talk to you?" However, I am thinking of calling and seeing if he has time to talk about it. could be he's busy now or something. Should I make a first contact or just leave him alone? Should I invite him over?
Just how many bricks to the head do you need?
Respect his boundaries! | |
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Posted: 6/10/2008 12:34:56 PM | Thanks ***blue***. I think I will let it go. Next time, I'll put in my profile how busy I am. That's something I should have thought of before all this.
"You're dead in the water. At least you know that he doesn't want to talk to you, some people don't even get that, they'd just ignore your calls. So I applaud him for being straight up, it take courage which allot of people lack" end quote
True, and I thought it might be because he didn't like something about me. He's clearly not interested, and I get the message. Oh, I meant to add this. We don't have to ever meet or talk again. I certainly don't want to come off as a lurker or something. | |
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| Should I leave him alone?
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:36:59 PM | With all due respect, there are times in our life where we are not able to date. Being too busy to date does happen. But if one is too busy to date, they should not be looking for dates and cancelling them because they are too busy. That is kind of leading someone on, in my opinion. Even if that was not your intent.
He said he did not want to talk to you. He did not just go poof, he was a stand up guy and told you. Respect that and move on.
`Carrie | |
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