| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 2:59:33 PM | Yesterday a friend of mine had to give up her cat (she found a very good home) because her boy friend is very allergic.....now she's all sad....personally when she called I couldn't didn't know what to tell her as I think she should have kept her cat (she had him for 3 years)
Which I think will last longer than this relationship. What do all of you think? could you give up you pet of a mate? | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:06:47 PM | I had two dogs, one recently passed away. I now just have one dog who is 8 and I had him since he was a puppy. I realize he is not a person but he is the closest I will have to a child and I love him. My dogs have been there for me through think and thin. They care not about how I look, what I wear, how much I have in the bank, what kind of car I drive and all the petty things people look at and judge a person on. They love me for me and that is all. It is unconditional love and I would never, ever, ever give my Max up for anyone.
If someone does not like my dog, that is fine. But to tell me to toss him away is horrible. What does that say about me to toss my animal out a window(so to speak) for a man? It says I have a bad character, in my opinion. If I would toss my doggie, what else would I toss? If I met someone who was allergic to dogs, it would not work out.
I do not expect anyone to love my dog but they have to treat him decently. I am not a fan of cats but if someone had a cat, I would not love it but I wouls be kind to it.
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:07:43 PM |
could you give up you pet of a mate?
Hmmm... a love of your life or your cat?
Does not seem like a brainer to me... as much as I like pets.
Which I think will last longer than this relationship
And... you know that how? Pffft. Perhaps you could try to be happy and supportive of your friend, or she might give you away as well.
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:08:51 PM | | No no no. If the cat was here first, the kitty stays. I would not give up the pet, if he was allergic then it would just work out that I'd be going to his place to visit. Not vice versa. He can just stay away from the cat, cause I wouldn't be getting rid of it. How long has your friend been with this boyfriend? Unless I was engaged to the guy, I'd never consider getting rid of a part of my family, which is what the cat would be. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:14:15 PM | | Prehaps..if you knew the history of this relationship (they always argue) so far I think you would be inclined to agree with me......Just so you know I have been happy and supportive of her.....thats why she calls me......I did comfort her and remind her that she found a great home for kitty which made her happier. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:17:18 PM | | Leara....I think it's been about 8 months but they only just recently moved in together. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:17:52 PM | Allergic? and they don't have anti histamines? meh
I wouldn't give up my pets, or my friends (for that matter) but if the guy cared enough, he and I could find a compromise. I could keep my cats outside when he's here or I could go to his place... or he could get antihistamines... any number of possibilities... I think they were both lazy in this situation.
I wouldn't purchase any more pets though, but my girls were here first. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:46:52 PM | | I'd keep my pets, and I would not move in with a woman until a marriage date has been set. In the absolute worst case scenario I know my parents can take my cat off my hands, but I'd rather avoid that as I've had him for 10 years now. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:55:16 PM | I'm not giving up my cat for anyone. Or rather, he is not going to give me up for anyone, since apparently he thinks HE is the owner and I am just staying at HIS house to feed him and scratch his back when HE feels like it.
Women come and go, my cat is always there for me! | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:56:04 PM |
could you give up you pet of a mate?
No, there is not a woman alive that I would give up my pet for. I never understood how anyone could ever do that, especially after 3 years. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:29:04 PM | | I would hand the man a claritin and call it a day! no way would i EVER give up my dog for a guy I barely even know! | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:33:52 PM | That's a tough question. I guess it would depend on many things.
Most importantly it would depend on the pet. Many of my pets are strays or pets that needed a home even if it's temporary. I've had so many in my life that I'd have to say that they are not all equal. Some pets I could give up without hesitating. Others I'd really have a hard time giving up.
It would depend greatly on the reason. If a man doesn't like animals then I would not consider living with him. If he was alergic and there was no way he could live with my pet then I would have to choose.
If the reason was legitimate to me then I'd have to decide and that would depend on the man. I can remember a couple of dogs that I had that I wouldn't have given up for all the money in the world so I don't see how a man would have a chance. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:37:39 PM | my dog stays, relationship ends....
well, I wouldn't start a relationship with someone allergic to pets in the first place...
so never really had that problem... | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:51:57 PM | | The pet stays through thick and thin...the mate...well we all are probably here because when the going got tough...the pet was there:) | |
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| Your Pet or Your Relationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:52:46 PM | Give up the dogs?
For a woman?
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
Good one OP.
You had me going there for a minute.
Thanks for the laugh ... good times.
That's some funny sh*t. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:54:26 PM | outrageous and heartbreaking how a person could be so callous as to give away a pet who has bonded with her and did nothing wrong and removed from the home he had for 3 because some new guy is allergic... wtf is that? Its not a purse or a pair of shoes to be discarded...
On the contrary my dog is my priority no question.. relationships come and go but your pet will always be there giving you love with no conditions..
I mean its like if I was dating a guy with a kid and suggested that he put the kid up for adoption because I was uncomfortable around em...what kind of man would he be?
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:56:04 PM | Thats a no brainer right there.I didn`t make it that far to give up anything ,that includes my cats.I`d buy him some allergy meds and be done with it.Take it or leave it.
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:59:12 PM | Pets are extremely personal to people and are often taken into a person's life during emotionally traumatic times.
There is a huge bond there and people should respect that. To ask someone to get rid of a pet for the sake of it...is just way outta line.
However...with that said...a pet vs a relationship with someone where there is a practical medical need to deal with the situation?
Pet goes.
And would go to another close family member & not a complete stranger.
Its nice people throw around the idea of antihistamines etc...but its not a long term practical nor particularly considerate idea for someone you love who should feel comfortable in their own home (living together arrangement) without having to pump themselves full of drugs for the rest of their life.
My cat or My Man? Gimme my Man. After all, I fully expect him to be the rest of my life. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 5:04:19 PM | Id pick my cat ......ive had him for longer then the guy and means alot to me plus if the guy is allergic he can easyly get an allergy shot or pills  | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 5:06:16 PM | Your Pet or Your Relationship?
Is this a trick question?
One more good reason for people not to co-habibate!
Do pets pay alimony or palimony? Are they eligible for one!
Animals are cool, but humans are cooler! And sometimes make better pets than animals!
Cheers! | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 5:08:40 PM | I have been trying to give my cat away for the last 10 years. Nobody wants him. And believe me, i have tried.  I guess i am stuck with the anti-social child hating monster. At least he has his good points.  | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 5:11:56 PM | | This is interesting. I assume she knew her BF was allergic to cats when they started dating. Either way......she has shown what is most important to her. The boy friend. You can get a pet anywhere......but someone you can be happy with is hard to find. If it was the BF that asked her to get rid of the cat I would say dump the BF. However, if she made the choice on her own....her BF is a pretty lucky guy. | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 5:12:42 PM | Absolutely not. I had my last kitty for 12 years; she had renal failure, was sick for a long time, and finally had to be put to sleep. She was with me through four moves, three relationships, four job changes, my girls growing up and leaving home, and the onset of my own illness. My relationship with her was the most stable part of my life. I had to have her put down two days after my last relationship ended.
I now have another kitty that's been with me for three years and will be with me until one of us passes away. We're a package deal. There are meds for allergies... | |
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| Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 6/10/2008 5:17:53 PM | There is Always Benadril.
Keep the animals...Relationships and Orgasims just don't last long enough to get rid of the Unconditional love a pet will give you. | |
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