| Next day phone calls
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:21:13 PM | | Ok, just a little help and some opinions, please! What is the rule on the next day phone calls- after the first date, do women want to be called the Very Next day, or not? I have been accused of being a weak and needy man(which I am not) for calling the next day, and I have been accused of being rude and self-centered(which I ALSO am not), for NOT calling...What gives? Is it just a big crap shoot, or what? Opinions? | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 5:29:30 PM | Scorp,
Screw any type of dating rules. If you liked the gal and enjoyed her company, call her! The conversation doesn't have to be a long one, but at least she will know you are interested. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 5:34:36 PM | | If you like her, call her! One of the things I've learned about dating is that if the guy is into you, he'll come get you =) Go get her, tiger :P | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 5:36:43 PM | Do what makes you comfortable. Some call the same night to make sure someone got home safely. A nice gesture I think...........
The following day is fine. If you have talked to the lady for a bit you should have a feel for whether it bother her or not. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 5:41:11 PM | if you like her, call her up and schedule another date, for 2 days later. if she thinks you are week & nerdy for calling the next day, then you know on your next date with her, don't bother calling for a week, or just let her call you. if she gets mad at you, tell her why you stopped calling her.  | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 5:43:17 PM | | If you like her call her, don't make it a cat and mouse game. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 5:43:25 PM | | I liked to be called the next day if I liked the guy. If I don't like him then its just annoying :) | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 5:47:22 PM | | Geez Louise, just call someone when you want to talk to them again. That's my rule. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 5:56:00 PM | OP...a secret for you. If a woman likes you and she's meant for you, she'll appreciate the call sooner than later. A woman who calls you needy for calling too fast isn't that into you (unless you call her 6 times a day from the first meeting). A woman who's upset you didn't call soon enough pretty much digs you A LOT...or she wouldn't notice or make much of a big deal about it.
Do what works for you is the safest way to proceed. A woman who's right for you will appreciate the call exactly the time she gets it. Put it this way, you cannot screw up with a girl who likes you by calling too soon...it's not possible. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 5:56:15 PM | I think it's totally cool that you want to call the next day! Needy, not! I think you rock if you call the next day. It shows that you care (unlike so many on here) and really liked someone.
Go for it, and I wish you all the best with this one that you like.
Jennifer :-) | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 7:17:47 PM | I think you should DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO...
unless it's like: call her 6 times the next day...
all of this "what should i do?" stuff is just way too hard. BE YOURSELF. sounds like you are a considerate person. you at least care to even ask advice to "do the right thing." RIGHT ON.
Coco | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 7:20:12 PM | I have to admit that when I was younger, I thought it was pretty lame for a man to call me the next day.. even if I really liked him. It made me think he was too eager.. lending an air of desperation that I couldn't deal with, so I would secretly hope that he would wait three days.. allowing anticipation and excitement to build...
But the truth is, I wasn't really emotionally available at that time, so any man who was would have seemed like he was out to smother me...
Now? I think its adorable (if I like him)... do whatever you feel is right Op :) | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 8:09:53 PM | | I guess I should mention that in all cases we had already did the duty... Any different opinions now? | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 8:21:51 PM | If you already got busy with her...then you really ought to call her! If she likes you enough to take you to her bed, then I'd say she likes you a whole lot! Just telling her that you enjoyed the time you spent in whatever is natural for you to say in your own way.
I do have to add that I hope you don't really think of it as your "duty." As a Scorpio I'm sure it's far more to you than that!!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 8:34:56 PM | Dating Rules?
We make them up as we go along...
Each person is unique and special in their own way. If you "really" listen to her, you will understand what her expectation are. Also try to “read” between the lines, not the sheets. You should get a ideal if the dating is going okay, or if it’s just flat..
I guess the real answer to your question would be to know one’s self and try to get to know your date. That’s why you are there right?
Simplistic is okay as well and works great..
If you want to call her tomorrow, just ask... | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 8:35:46 PM | | You are so right AuroraA- you know how us Scorpios are..... But what about the times when we do make the next day call and are made to feel like **it? | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 8:40:49 PM | If you call her the next day, she'll know you like her. The longer you wait, the less convinced she is that you like her. And if you wait beyond three days, she figures that you're more or less indifferent to her, talking to a lot of other people, and probably a lost cause. Food for thought.
Of course, if she wasn't into you, she won't care if you take weeks or even months to call. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 8:42:05 PM |
I guess I should mention that in all cases we had already did the duty... Any different opinions now?
A very important point, strange that you would leave that out...
Didn't know there are still some people that would sleep together on the first date... Hope you knew her better then I assume.. Need I say more? | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 8:46:20 PM | We have all made the call and some good and some bad, I agree with the women on here that if there was some conection that you thought was there just call the next day as the person can then just be honest and accept it or hang up and then you know where you stand. If you dont try then the one you are looking for might slip away because of a call and if she/he doesnt like it then it wasnt meant to be and i guess move on to the next meeting . Just an opinion . | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 8:49:01 PM | If you like her, call her! I think it is great when a guy calls me the next day to tell me he had a wonderful time with me. I think a guy like that is secure and direct.
Sounds like you have been dating the wrong women. | |
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| Next day phone calls
Posted: 6/11/2008 8:58:28 PM | the best experience of that i ever had was when i went out on a date w a guy, and it was a great date. he did not try to take advantage of me having had one drink, he try to get in my pants, AND HE SENT ME AN EMAIL/TEXT THE SAME NIGHT saying how he had a great time w me and was looking forward to seeing me again.
whenever we had a date, i had either a text message from him within the first couple hrs later, or an email already waiting for me when i got home.
it made him very special, because i didn't feel he was only after his own, he actually treated me in a way that showed he respected people, and he liked me as a human being, not just the fact i had a vagina and he was horny.
we didn't work out, but i will never forget him because of that. he had impeccable dating manners i strongly recommend. when i made a comment, he said he's been around long enough to put himself in the woman's shoes also, and he was right. usually we get a bit paranoid after leaving a date, but he was there to ease one's mind and offer reassurance.
then i'd hear from him in a couple or few days, but it wasnt an anxious wait or time, we were really getting along | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 8:59:01 PM | | Nothing personal, 2008, but what decade are you living in? Alot of times, due to kids, jobs, family, etc..... the only communication alot of people online have had is via e-mail, IM, or phone calls- So, when you finally get together face-to-face.... Sometimes you feel like you klnow this person really well already- It just takes that face to face encounter to make it happen..... | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 8:59:17 PM | Call call call!!
If she makes you feel crap for it then she isn't good enough for you so be glad to find out sooner than later. Chances are she enjoyed the date too and is anxiously waiting to find out if you'll call her at all. Or send a text message, might sound like a cop out but will save any embarrassment, the only problem with that is if she has no credit and you're left wondering why no reply. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 8:59:20 PM | You're opinions are going to vary here with the ladies. For me if you call me the next day, I will most likely want to believe that you just might be a bit of a sap. However, being hopefully more evolved than that, I'll take it as a sign of old school consideration. That the possiblility of a relationship just might be possible if I am willing and want one.
I actually had that happen with a man I've been seeing for about 8 months. After our first time together, he called me the next day and well....... he got my answering machine and he did not hear from me for about 2 weeks.
He is much more educated now. He will always call me back when I call but he has learned to leave me alone for the most part. Life is good, LOL.
I will add however, that since the man I am seeing is just a casual good friend with benefits and nothing more, that is why I did not call back. But....... if I was really hot to have a relationship with him I would have not only been hoping he would call, but ecstatic that he did.
Call the girl, that's the only way you'll ever know for sure. I will also add that my gentleman friend is also a Scorpio.
:))
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Posted: 6/11/2008 9:23:28 PM | | What DJChickie said. You should call the next day (or even better, if it's your first time being intimate, and you stay the night, and see her in the morning, call her later that night even). If she is into you, she'll love it. If she's into you, and you don't call for a while, you'll have blown it. If she's not into you, she might think you're "needy" but in actuality, you are just more interested in her than vice versa. | |
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