| why doesnt he call
Posted: 6/12/2008 10:17:59 AM | I go on a first date and really seemed to get on. I thought we had mutual chemistry.He phones when he gets home and says he really enjoyed the evening and would like to do it again soon. I said i would love to see him again, sooner rather than later. as i really enjoyed his companyHe then texts saying"cant wait to see you again" ,Then another which says "will give you a call in the morning good night sweet dreams". Next day he doesnt phone but text " Hope your well enjoyed meeting you last night dont work 2 hard x"
Later i replied, That i had had a busy day and asked what he had been doing.
He text back. ...Been ill all day but know why, over done it all weekend, feel so tired and need good sleep and will be ok. will ring you in the morning about 9.30 if thats ok need to go to bed, speak soon. I text back that was ok.
He not phoned or text since, that was 4 days ago.
I have not contacted him since as dont want to invade his space.
Can anyone advise me on what to do or not to do, and as a man can anyone interprete what his mind is thinking. Im so confused. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 10:23:02 AM | Not a guy but..........
Maybe he has the flu?
Maybe he is in the hospital?
I would text him saying "I hope your feeling better" See If he answers. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 10:25:17 AM | Did he die? If not, he should have text you before now - just a simply message to let you know he's alright. After all, he did say he'd contact you!
Well, I would simply text him and query if he's feeling better. Nothing more than that.
Should he not reply, move on. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 10:25:30 AM | no he is just not intersted and a pathological liar | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 10:25:38 AM | Odds are he's not going to call. Pick an explanation you like or make up one of your own.
1) he died
2) he's in a coma
3) aliens abducted him
4) he has amnesia and doesn't remember you, or how to use a phone
5) he developed an allergy to phones
6) he had big issues in his life before he met you and they just happened to overwhelm him recently
7) he had a big monster in the cupboard under his stairs and it just happened to eat him recently
8) he's been brainwashed and has joined a cult
9) his wife found out
10) his mother found out and he's now chained to the radiator in his room again
11) he wasn't really a man, but a munchkin in a man-suit | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 10:27:36 AM | I'll add to that list: ^ ^
12) All his fingers are broken.
13) He as lock jaw.
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Posted: 6/12/2008 10:34:24 AM | | Thanks for your advise. Im gonna go with it.x | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 10:35:32 AM | | Thanks yes im gonna just text that. thank you.x | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 10:37:57 AM | Based on my male friends actions......Id say he is either genuinely ill or he has met someone else...... If the latter is true......Do you really want to meet up with again with a guy who is into mind games and a lair? Just send a Hi hows you? Are you feeling better? No reply just delete his number! NEXT | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 10:39:23 AM | | He doesn't call because he's probably married and can't see you like he wants to. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 10:45:47 AM | I don't know, but if I tell someone I'm going to call, I call. I've only been in the hospital a few times, and I'm sure I saw a phone in my room.
If I was in a body cast, I'd get a nurse to call.
Me: "I met this great girl, and I promised I'd call."
Nurse: "Awww... I'll dial and talk to her first to let her know you're such a great guy"
Me: "Thanks, you're a sweety. And you look great btw. Oh Oh.. I'm getting a stiffy and it's caught in my cast. Can you help?"
Ok... never mind... forget him. He's dating his nurse!
Seriously though, text him a short "Hey you". If he doesn't respond *that day, move on. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 11:05:13 AM | | He was likely married I would think. If not calling for 4 days he is probably stuck with his wife unexpectedly (she came back to town early or something). He was talking/texting all sweet and interested to keep you around in case he could get the chance to sleep with you. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 11:32:08 AM | Maybe
A space craft invaded his backyard and swooped him up.
Maybe
He is related to Jimmy Hoffa and has also gone icongnito
Maybe
He was a ghost
Maybe
He lost the info on his blackberry
Maybe ~ Maybe ~ Maybe
Have you not considered the real possibility that this man was never SINGLE & was a player? Possibly his gf or wife has returned from her vacation or trip and is now too close to comfort. He simply cant get in touch.
Either way -- if days go by without any sign of life -- in my opinion you would be better off considering this posible union to be nothing more than a dead end. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 11:43:49 AM | Unless he's in a coma there is no reason for him not to take a min to at least text, even if he is not up to talking..........
I would NOT text or call him....but youwill do what you think is best.....
Good Luck.......... | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 12:13:29 PM | | Don't Text him, if he can't have the common decency to do something he says he will. NEXT!! | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 12:19:32 PM | Yea but what If he really is sick? What's one text? Either he answers or he doesnt.
I'd text him once at least. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 12:23:09 PM | | The reason i said don't text him, was because i think "him being sick" was an excuse for him not calling. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 12:49:35 PM | | As I said......short of a coma...no matter how sick he is, he must have one min to send a text.If he doesnt ,then he doesnt have the strength to pick up the phone and check to see hers........then her texting is a moot point......leave it be OP.......... | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 12:57:14 PM | | alright so it's been 4 days,, well i wouldn't call an apparently he likes to text more then talk for whatever reasons?? i would send him a simple text asking him how he was feeling,, an pretty simple if he doesnt respond back with in a 24 hour period then chunk him in the trash as a lost cause..it only takes like 1 minute or less to text somebody back especially if you really wanna talk to them... | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 1:11:21 PM | It's been my experience that a lot of men feel it's necessary to say "I had a great time" and "i'll call you" when they in fact, did NOT have a great time, and DO NOT want to call you. I guess it's some sort of dating reflex for them. I've gotten the next day phone call or e-mail saying how awesome a time they had, etc and can't wait to hang out again, then nothing.
It happens. I deal. Infact, I can go out with someone, have a great time, and be totally cool with never hearing from them if that's what they decide to do. After all, one date is hardly a marriage. They have zero obligation to me. They don't even have to say they'll call, if they're not interested.
Dating is just dating. I understand there are women out there who are looking for the love of their life, etc. and therefore take it really seriously, but don't you think it's sort of unfair to hold such high expectations to a man who you've gone on one date with?
There's no need to still be worried about it 4 days later. It is what it is. My advice would be to move on, and if he infact is in a land with no phones, e-mails, faxes, telegrams, etc...he will contact you when he can. Don't sit around and wait on something that...really...probably isn't gonna happen. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 2:29:00 PM | He's probably still cringing and flogging himself for having called you "sweet dreams".
Eewwww!
And you actually like this guy? | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 2:39:46 PM | Blokes who cant be bothered to ring - the ones who stick with the text thingy, well they are wasting time and money and energy.
Don't bother with him, or ring his phone at tea time, the wife might reply to you if he dont?? | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 9:40:24 PM | +1 lucretia21
Its only one date. My gosh. You're an adult, if you want to talk to him, then pick up the phone and call him.
And by the way. Do not text. Texting is for high school kids. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 9:43:38 PM | | Been on the other end of this. It's tuff. tuff. Tuff. You just have to move on, as hard as it is. In my case, I really fell for the gal. A window is only open for so long. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 9:56:56 PM | Hmm...ran out of money on the prepaid phone. 
Warden sez 20 days in solitary confinement after discovering he was stealing phone numbers on his prison CSR job. | |
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