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Posted: 6/13/2008 7:27:23 AM | Ok. I want to play this cool. I met this girl on the internet like a week ago. We talked for abount a week. I talked to her on the phone at least once a day. the web cam once and the internet IM once. She is a pretty cool chick. I actually really like her. She came over last night. We talked for about a half an hour. She wanted to play some video games so we did that for a little bit and then we watched a movie. We were pretty close to eachother and held hands. We also kissed too. Well, I walked her to her car and we kissed some more. So, I think she likes me back.....
So my questions is this. When should I ask her out on a the next date? I dont want to come off too strong. I really like her a lot and when I like someone a lot I try not to come off that way. So I want advice on that and any additional advice would help too.
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Posted: 6/13/2008 7:31:39 AM | | I would simply call her and tell her you had a great time with her the other night. Ask here if she'd like to get together this weekend. Not that hard bud. Good luck!! | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 7:34:05 AM | I agree with the above poster.
Never mind this '3 day rule', or the 'wait 72 hours', etc., etc., all that's just stuff and nonsense.
Good luck!
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Posted: 6/13/2008 7:36:43 AM | | I agree with the previous gentleman. While there may be a few woman that like the whole "game", most of us do not. Personally, I would rather know how someone feels, or exactly where I stand. Life is far too short to not say the things that you feel, tell people what they mean to you and pretty much just enjoy every moment of every day. If she freaks out, she doesn't deserve you anyway. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 7:39:56 AM | I would say...call her...tell her what a great time you had and ask her if she has plans for the weekend....maybe think of somthing to do..or to go. Ask her if she would enjoy going to (insert idea here).
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Posted: 6/13/2008 7:49:30 AM | You need to decide right now just what you are wanting in a relationship with this girl.
She is receptive at this very moment and waiting for you to make the next move..
If you want friends only then keep things that way.
But if you want a intense , loving relationship with her then don't wait till the moment is lost..
She will either follow your lead or run for the hills..
Either way , don't waist your time or hers.. and don't let a girl waist your time or money..
If she is truly interested in you , then she will be open to anything you want.. including sex..
If she is a player then you will see this real soon.
As soon as you get the felling she is just using you. Drop her like a sack of sh!t..
But if she is sincere and you fall in love then remember to always be there for her and to be her best friend..
This is your life and your future at stake here.. Choose carefully..
Thoughts become things , choose the good ones.! | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 7:50:07 AM | Sure....call her and tell her what a great time you had and how comfortable you felt with her and would like to do it again sometime soon......
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Posted: 6/13/2008 8:13:56 AM | Ahh OP... I just finished reading your profile and what a nice young man you appear to be.
In my opinion there's no need to "play it" cool...you are perfect just the way you are.
Just call her and tell her how much you've enjoyed her company and ask her if she would like to get together again.
And good luck to you:)
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Posted: 6/13/2008 8:14:50 AM | | ok so far so good. This is advice coming from 6 people so I think I am going to call her. Anyone want to put their input before I call. let me know....I wont call her for a while at least. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 8:17:07 AM | OH just go do it.....here I 'll dial for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have a 19 yr. old grandson who comes to me for advise all the time..........he takes it lol | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 8:26:16 AM | "Playing it cool" is nothing but glorified GAMES. And the games people play is what is actually destructive to potential relationships! Everything from the "I don't want to seem smothering so I won't call him back" to the "Waiting 3 days" crap!
If you are diggin' her...and you wanna see her again...then GO FOR IT!
I once had a date who called me 5 minutes after our date ended...and said, "I already miss you...when can I see you again?" LOL I MELTED.
As Nike would say...JUST DO IT! :O) | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 8:33:53 AM | | the worst thing you can do in a relationship is be affraid of losing the person you are in it with.if its right it will work.trying to make someone want you will just make the inevetible take longer. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 8:49:06 AM | How refreshing to see a nice post for a change!!! [takes a deep breath]...and a nice young man with a great head on his shoulders!
Call her. Be yourself. You don't want her to go falling in love with someone that you aren't. If you aren't yourself in a relationship & the other person falls in love with your facade...then who are they in love with? Be yourself!!!! Do what comes natural. Besides, if you met her here on POF, then she's most likely looking at your profile & will see this thread posted. She will know you like her lots!
Just a hint from an older woman...ladies like the little things. They count as much as the big overtures when it comes to romance. For real women, it truly is the thought that counts...unless it was something like.."I thought about taking the trash out, but.." LoL But the little things you said about touching fingers just because... are pretty powerful in the eyes & hearts of women. Keep it up young man!!
...& GO for it! Best wishes on you n your fishes! | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 9:22:14 AM | | Girls are a lot less complicated then men makes us out to be if Im into u I cant get you out of my head and Im just hoping u will call so pick up the damn phone and ask her out. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 12:50:29 PM | | You should contact her to let her know you had fun within the next day. Ask her out again 3 or 4 days later I'd imagine. If you get into a routine of asking her out the next day, you may seem pushy. But don't lose contact, just don't be over-eager. It's hard to strike that balance when you really like someone. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 8:22:12 AM | You should contact her to let her know you had fun within the next day. Ask her out again 3 or 4 days later I'd imagine. If you get into a routine of asking her out the next day, you may seem pushy. But don't lose contact, just don't be over-eager. It's hard to strike that balance when you really like someone
if you lose her because you want to talk to her everydaty then she is not for you. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 9:15:40 AM | | I would call and say I really enjoyed her company and I hope she felt as good about being with me. If her response is positive I would say that I would like to ask if we could do such and such over the weekend, but then again I would hate to even wait that long to see you again, (even just to hang out again). If she likes you enough she will opt for an earlier meeting. If not she can avoid the hint and take things at her own pace. Either way you win as long as you stay cool and be yourself. That seems to have worked so far | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 9:18:57 AM | | Do it as soon as possible; before someone else grabs your chick !!! Chances are she wants you to call her back ASAP. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 9:24:59 AM | Here's a questions for you Steve, do you like it when people play games with you?
True, don't lose your head and say something like you can tell she is the absolute love of your life, and you can picture having children with her in her eyes...That would scare the hell out of anyone sane...
Like everyone else said, give her a call tell you had a great time, and wonder if she'd like to go out again perhaps this weekend if she isn't busy...
Good luck and have fun, it is only dating...
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Posted: 6/14/2008 11:08:50 AM | Forget all these dysfunctional rules and wait 2 days to call, blah blah blah. No games.
Tell her the next day that you loved spending time with her and that you look forward to doing it more in the near future. A day or so later then ask her to see you when you have time.
Go slow. Internet daters move faster than rabbits. For some reason they feel that there is this huge connection. Remember you are only meeting someone for a short time; It takes time to see their faults and their issues. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 12:02:36 PM | If date #1 goes well, get date 2 scheduled while on that date. Usually towards teh end of it.
If she says no, well,,,,, you know.
I'd say she likes you if she held you hand, stayed for a few hours, and kissed you. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 1:56:15 PM | | she is confusing me. I took your advice and I emailed her complimenting her and also told her I had a lot of fun. At the end of the date she told me to call her the next day. I called her the next day at 9pm cause i didnt have time until then. I havnt heard from her since. So I am not going to call her and just wait it out. But.......If she likes me....then freakin call me for cryin out loud! lol | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 4:26:31 PM | If she likes me....then freakin call me for cryin out loud! lol
Now you know how we women feel when guys say they'll call and then they don't...ever! | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 12:47:00 AM | | Don't be too worried yet. It's only been a day after all. She might have had something come up. If you haven't heard from her in a few days, then she might not be interested. Give her some time though. | |
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