| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/13/2008 7:47:43 PM | "A Buffalo woman told police she was raped Wednesday by a man she met on an online dating Web site, according to Buffalo police reports.
The woman said she invited the man she met on the “Plenty of Fish” Web site to her home for coffee on Wednesday. After he arrived about noon, she said, he hugged her and then began to kiss her.
When she resisted the kiss, she told police, the man grabbed her by the shoulders and led her to the bedroom where he forced her onto the bed and raped her. "
Are people really inviting total strangers to their home???????? | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/13/2008 7:54:52 PM | | Some people have no common sense. I would never meet anyone at their home or mine. Very public place. I hate that happen to her. You can't trust people like that, you never know what might happen. | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/13/2008 7:58:22 PM | She wasn't thinking at all, merely blinded by her own wishful thinking. Evidently some people are inviting total strangers to their home. She's paying a high price for that choice and has a long road ahead of her healing on multiple levels - if she ever does.
P.S. This probably belongs in the news/current events forum - maybe | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/13/2008 8:19:27 PM | | i know i wouldnt want to rape a woman Buffalo. I wouldnt even know where to start | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/13/2008 8:25:18 PM | | She obviously felt a false sense of security there when she invited him over. My heart goes out to her! Nobody deserves that, even if she did invite him over. Who here hasn't gone on a date with someone they met in a bar or another sketchy place? You never know when this will happen. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 8:32:14 PM | | a chick cant exactly get raped on the bar. the woman is obviously a dimwit and darwin is probably rolling over in his grave | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/13/2008 8:33:56 PM | If she was truly sexually assaulted then my heart goes out to her. I hope that she can get therapy and I hope she has a great support group around her. I hope the justice system works for her.
But the sad thing is that there are a percentage of women who lie about being sexually assaulted. They do so, out of revenge, of already being pregnant and do not want to be in trouble for it so they say someone raped them.
I think we need to know the whole story to determine if he did it or not.
That being said, no woman deserves to be sexually assaulted but really, one can one expect allowing a stranger into your home. Again, it was not her fault but she ought to know better.
~Carrie | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/13/2008 8:35:25 PM | If you read some of the Forums,you'll see that YES,women do indeed invite men to their home on the FIRST date.....!
Some women even pose Q's here,asking if they should trust having their date over to their home on the 1st date,& the responses here are usually a resounding NO !!!
I just shake my head when i read these coz i honestly dont know how anyone could do such a thing ?......
Naive?
Trusting?
Stupid?...................?? | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/13/2008 8:36:56 PM |
I think we need to know the whole story to determine if he did it or not.
That's for a jury to decide, not us. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 10:17:02 PM | This is an amazing thread. If we're to believe the article, two people did something obviously wrong. The woman invited a stranger to her house. The man raped someone. Okay, let's continue to persecute the woman. | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/13/2008 11:07:40 PM | I read a woman's profile on here the other evening wherein she had narrowed down her choice to 11 favourites and would be choosing shortly who would be the one to:
Knock on her door pretending to be a delivery person, she would then turn her back to him in order to go for a pen to sign for the delivery ~ wherein he would attack her in her hallway.. rip her clothing off and then have his way with her rough enough to leave her bleeding. No names were to be exchanged.. he was to leave her in a heap on the hall floor.. he was to leave the house and not say a word to her.
When I read that.. My first thought was that this woman wants to cry rape for some unfathomable reason.. I wondered why she would have 11 men lining up to do it and trusting her not to get them into some heavy duty trouble.
I'm not saying that's what happend to the poor woman in Buffalo.. but the timing is just so coincedental to the profile I had just read. | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/13/2008 11:33:52 PM |
I read a woman's profile on here the other evening wherein she had narrowed down her choice to 11 favourites and would be choosing shortly who would be the one to:
Knock on her door pretending to be a delivery person, she would then turn her back to him in order to go for a pen to sign for the delivery ~ wherein he would attack her in her hallway.. rip her clothing off and then have his way with her rough enough to leave her bleeding. No names were to be exchanged.. he was to leave her in a heap on the hall floor.. he was to leave the house and not say a word to her.
This was taken directly from a CSI Special Victims Unit episode. The catch was that the person that placed the ad wasn't the victim of the actual rape. Don't believe everything you read. | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/13/2008 11:45:05 PM | ^^^ To reinact it as a dating profile and have a man/men respond could be rather dangerous for her or who she may meet in any event.
Don't believe everything you read. At the risk of sounding insensitive.. I suppose one could say the same thing about the woman in Buffalo. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 11:49:57 PM | | You missed the point--she didn't write the profile. Someone else did and sent the "pretend" attacker to her house. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 12:11:27 AM | OP Are you saying that you never had an indiscretion with a woman??????????? PLS
90% of rape are date rapes by a man that the woman knows and is friends with "whom she feels comfortable"!!!! So who is to say that this woman made a poor decision. If you take the statistics, you are safer doing a one night stand with a stranger in your house then the date rape statitics. Women don't even report when they are raped in almost all cases. How would you know? You are a man. You have never been to an abuse or rape clinic. Leave the poor lady alone. The man should have his ballz dragged on the pavement until he dies. | |
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| The Adventures of Buckaroo Banzai Across the 8th Dimensionn
Posted: 6/14/2008 6:42:06 AM | "A Buffalo woman told police she was raped Wednesday by a man she met on an online dating Web site, according to Buffalo police reports.Sounds Like DATE RAPE to me..
I wonder who raised that ANIMAL to do those kind of horrible things??
I Value my FREEDOM my Respect towards women, to even think of doing that to a WOMAN
PS: DO i need a hair cut,eh??
I was just wondering;you hear a lot of guys who date rape women,but do you really ever hear of a WOMAN Date raping a guy??
WoW you should go check out the WOMEN IN the 8th Dimension | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/14/2008 7:11:11 AM | | you know ive been meeting guys online on and off for the past 7 years and ive not had one bad experience many good experiences this is so sad I also dont take them to my house on the first date. | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/14/2008 7:14:19 AM | I also got to thinking about how easy it is for people to find out where u live even if u dont invite them over there..
If u have there first and last name it take me 5 mins knowing your city to find out where you live.
Were not safe either way. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 7:17:44 AM | | I dont invite people I dont know to my house nor do I go to theres, for obviousl reasons. But its almost expected nowadays, that if someone is going to be driving some distance to meet, then they will be staying over. I've had guys say something about staying, and I just politely say I'll gladly make their hotel arrangements for them, and they are shocked, lol. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 8:02:55 AM | Unfortunately, common sense doesn't seem to be all that common. I've read countless threads here where women very proudly bragged about having met a guy from there, for the first time, at his home or hers.........or how she and the guy "spent the weekend together" - their first time meeting.........and all this crap about how she was "so sure" he was a good guy and someone she could trust. Absolute stupidity. I've even read posts from women who have children; who will invite the guy over to her house (for their first time meeting) - and her children are there. Now to me, that's someone who sucks at being a parent; to take such risks and expose her children to a complete stranger who could be "anything!"
Nobody deserves to be raped.............but think what kind of message you send to a guy when you invite him over to your house for the first time. If he just happens to be "the wrong guy" and he finds out he's not getting what he expected to be getting...........well there's trouble.
And like Carrie said, yes - sadly there are vindictive women out there who make false rape claims because maybe things didn't work out and the guy rejected her.........or he chose someone else...or whatever.
Women need to use their brains and not put themselves into potentially disasterous situations. Should be a no-brainer. Apparently it's not. | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:15:05 AM |
OP Are you saying that you never had an indiscretion with a woman??????????? PLS If I get your implication, no, I never raped a woman before. So before your issues get the best of you, I posted this here to help some females from making this mistake. | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:22:18 AM | | Jim - it was good of you to post, as a reminder to women that they need to use a bit of common sense and caution -- that bad things can happen. there are a lot of predators online and what better place to find their next victim than a free dating site. | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:37:27 AM | We don't really know what happened to this woman based on the information from the news report. All it said was that the woman invited a man over to her home whom she met on "POF". We don't know if this was a first meeting or if they had known each other for a while.
The question seems to be "How long must we know someone before we meet at each other's homes?". Should we wait a week? a month?
Years ago when we met people we wanted to date, we met people at school, church and various other social functions. People knew each other's families via friends, neighbors, etc. The world we walked in was considerably smaller.
We need to be careful and watchful. I don't believe it hurts to try and remain anonymous for a while. We need to go by our gut instincts and be smart. We should not ignore our natural intuition.
I am glad that this horrible thing was reported and that we have this forum to open up discussion. Maybe knowledge of this will help someone in the future.
This is a great dating site. Just have fun with it and enjoy the benefits this site has to offer. | |
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| WTF was she thinking?
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:43:04 AM | | Before you all get up on a high horse thinking this woman was dense, I grew up at a time when a man saw a woman going about her business shopping or doing something else and would ask for her number then ask her on a date. When time for the date came, the man came to pick her up to go to the movies or whatever the date was. If she lived with her folks, he came in to meet them and it was considered bad form and manners if he honked the horn and waited for her in the car,let alone asked her to meet some place. It was perfectly safe and acceptable for years for strangers to come meet your parents and family to take you out on a date. Anything else was unthinkable and showed the man did not think too much of you and did not respect you if he did not meet you at home and came to meet your folks. It is still very much that way in Puerto Rico where I grew up. So what was she thinking? She was probably thinking with old values. As for me, times have changed and I see the need for caution but folks lets not be hasty and judge/blame the woman for what happened to her. Asking someone to your house or dressing a certain way does not mean you want or deserve to be raped.As a matter of fact, nothing a person does should give license to another to commit rape. Period. So long as we continue to think people deserve it when they act in a way which we don't understand,we continue to condone the true criminals. The real question should be, what was this man(and I use the term lightly) thinking to rape someone who was nice and trusting enough to open her home like in the old days? Now, that is a good question. | |
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