| Love at work?
Posted: 6/15/2008 1:34:09 PM | I begin to have feelings for the president of my association. By the way I am just a technician.
I am not in love but we have lots of common points and I would like a lot to know more about him.
I just saw him 2 times and he is very busy and doesn't even work in the same office...so haaaard !
Then how can I talk to him? Which opportunity can I find to say hello I'm here? | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/15/2008 1:46:14 PM | I dated a guy I somewhat worked with once. When we got together it was weird cause we had to hide it. When everyone found out it was weird because we were constantly watched because people needed gossip. When we broke up it was weird because it made it awkward and uncomfortable for all. If you guys can work around that and you see it not being a problem, good! If you foresee problems such as this, AVOID.
As to how to talk to him. Bump into him (literally) and be all cute and apoligetic and just start a conversation. Smile at him. Try finding him on a break and speaking to him... I wish I could give you more ideas but I get bad feelings about dating someone at work simply because of where it can lead... Best of luck! | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/15/2008 1:51:31 PM | | dating someone at work is not in your good interest, i am not going to write what i really wanted to say, but take some good advice from someone who has seen this, it is not usually a good thing to do. i have not and will never date someone from i work with. | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/15/2008 2:09:19 PM | I am always... ALWAYS amazed how people want to date others from work. Or develop feelings for someone at work. WHY would you do that to yourself? Rarely anything good comes out of that.
Make it easier on yourself and don't date someone from work. There's other ways to meet people. Shoot.. I barely have friends at work. I work with them 40 hours a week plus -- why would I want to spend more time with them outside of work? JMO. I may be in the minority. | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/15/2008 2:44:47 PM |
I begin to have feelings for the president of my association. By the way I am just a technician.
I am not in love but we have lots of common points and I would like a lot to know more about him.
You describe a person with whom you seem to be impressed with his position. I'm guessing that is the case based on the way you view yourself as "just a technician".
Keep in mind, people in higher positions do get those position to a degree, based on their personality, aura and overall likeability. Be sure that is not the case because, if it is, in the end your coworkers will be in fear of you becoming manipulative. It's a tough position to be in if you choose to date senior administration at your place of employment.
As well, I'd be a little alarmed at what he would offer and what you are impressed with, given the following:
I just saw him 2 times and he is very busy | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/15/2008 2:59:34 PM | If he worked at a convenience store would you be as interested?
You may feel attraction for him only because he is sitting at the top of where you spend most of your time.
I don't think you should look forward to a relationship with a person based on that. Getting to know him better would certainly not be a bad thing, don't let your fantasies take over your rationale. Worst case scenario you could lose your job.
Judging people by their class has never been a good thing. Though people don't seem to know it doesn't only apply to negative criticism. For all you know this guy could snore, fart, leave pubes on the bar of soap like anybody else could.
My advice: Don't let yourself fall in love with him unless it's mutual. This could really hurt you. | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:04:32 PM |
You may feel attraction for him only because he is sitting at the top of where you spend most of your time.
I agree with the koala. Being a biologist, the OP should be able to easily analyze her attraction to this particular man, as well as the potential consequences of trying to make her fantasies a reality. Think about having a crush on a professor or someone else in a similar position of authority and what it would be like to try to have a relationship with that person. In general, it's just not a good idea. Sorry OP. | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:10:18 PM | Hmm,how can you have feelings for someone you have only seen two times...................
in case you didn`t know ,you are supposed to get to know someone and then start to have feelings for them.
What do I know. | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:32:03 PM | | I have heard of some people getting married after meeting at work, though they worked at diff. departments | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 10:09:55 AM | | It's really not a good idea. There have been tons of negative stories in contrast to the small percentage of success stories. The odds are not in one's favor to do so. Not to mention, it could jeopardize a person's career and promotion potential. | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 10:59:53 AM | | it would be best not to get your meat where you make your bread | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 11:04:00 AM | | You'lllllllllllllllllllllllll regret it..... sorry for you... Not a good idea... | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 11:16:29 AM |
I begin to have feelings for the president of my association. By the way I am just a technician.
I am not in love but we have lots of common points and I would like a lot to know more about him.
I just saw him 2 times and he is very busy and doesn't even work in the same office...so haaaard !
Then how can I talk to him? Which opportunity can I find to say hello I'm here?
I think you are dreaming; love at work never works out. You are playing with fire. | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 11:22:17 AM |
I think you are dreaming; love at work never works out. You are playing with fire.
Wow...Half the people I work with met their spouses at work. I'm sure they'll beg to differ!!
Think about it. You spend 1/3 to 1/2 your day with these people. Frankly, you have better luck at work than you will here.
I've dated people I worked with a number of times and it always turned out ok. Parted as friends and associates. | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 11:29:33 AM | You might as well start looking for a back up plan as far as employment if your going to start relationships with co-workers or boss's unless your really good.Then you might get a promotion  | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:15:39 PM | | work for me has always been the number 1 spot to get girls. if you are a hard worker with a good attitude and you see someone that like that on a consistent basis, then i think its pretty hard for things not to develop from there. Although it really isnt a good idea but hey there are plenty of jobs out there and none of us are getting any younger. | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:24:52 PM | I juggled three women where I worked, a long time ago when I was a civilian puke. I found out the hard way, that the Chinese have a saying for this situation “Do not take a dump where you eat.” I broke a few hearts and lost my job. | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:37:16 PM | "I begin to have feelings for the president"
Little power and influence and you get the girl... Women are all the same..... | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:38:13 PM | | sounds like someones wife got plowed by the boss! | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:50:06 PM | DON'T DO IT!! very bad idea...
just keep things at a friend level an nothing more.. | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 1:40:25 PM | | a big no no...no matter how much u like him don't do it!!! find another job then try | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 1:53:44 PM |
I begin to have feelings for the president of my association. By the way I am just a technician.
I am not in love but we have lots of common points and I would like a lot to know more about him.
I just saw him 2 times and he is very busy and doesn't even work in the same office...so haaaard !
Then how can I talk to him? Which opportunity can I find to say hello I'm here?
Your post is hard to read, I hope your job doesn't include communication  But I'm guessing you confuse love and obsession and fantasy quite a lot, this isn't even crush material because you don't even know the guy beyond drooling over him like a pre-teen. This has nothing to do with love at work and a lot to do with immature behavior at work. This is one of the reasons most companies have a no dating rule for their employees, they want you there to work not trying to find a fantasy to live out. If the man ever shows you any interest and he doesn't have the ability to fire you and you are allowed to date other employees, then by all means go on a date with him. but what you are describing makes me wonder about your actual age, this is silly behavior for an adult.  I'm sure I sound harsh but really I would like you to not make a fool of yourself over all this and start dating for real with men who are interested in you...this fantasy stuff while fun can put you in a position you may live to regret. | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:13:16 PM | | Ive often fallen for some at my work places.....ahrd to even get the first hello or hi out. Just have to try and get him alone...or get a oppurunity and take full advantage of it. Might take a while....but its sure to happen. | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:21:06 PM | | There are many professionals who are briefed on NO FRATERNIZATION POLICIES. In other words, some companies tell the "higher ups", they had better keep their peters in the their drawers, when it comes to "f##cking " the help". Be careful of associating with anyone outside of your "social class" at work. Are you sure there isn't someone a little more your age, so you can spare the grief and aggravation you may cause this man? | |
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| Love at work?
Posted: 6/16/2008 4:09:15 PM | | It's good for him bad for you ? When he's done with you, you mysteriously lose your job . | |
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