| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/6/2005 2:11:31 PM | | I keep meeting all these great guys and we really connect, next thing they're pouring their heart and soul out to me about the chick they're interested in! How come that chick is never me??? If I'm so easy to get close to or whatever, why does nothing come out of it? I'm not at all bothered by it, I'm not looking for a boyfriend, I'm just confused! Another thing... whenever I get chatting to someone and they find out I'm single they always tell me they're really surprised by that. Any ideas on why? | |
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lil8t
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/6/2005 2:36:40 PM | | They are intimidated by you I am willing to bet. You're a beautiful girl. Perhaps they think it will help them to get closer to you...you know, get you involved in their life story. Otherwise I'd have to ask if you have a really squeaky voice??? | |
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lil8t
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Joined: 4/18/2005
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/6/2005 3:14:13 PM | Daamn this is a new breed of beauty that has the best sence of reality or love as we call it... Personaly i believe not to be mean that u need to hook up wit me lol
Or u need to be more forward wit the ones u want
not so shy..U are the best catch i have seen so far so girl i HOPE SOMEONE MAKES U HAPPY give it some time or msg me lovely 
OOPS got of task i have the same problem im 19 an i have issues with girls loving me dont know why but i love being the friend cause they cant cheat on me lol or maybe u just need to find someone WHO ISNT BLIND baby girl fa sho u are what they should be looking for.. P.S what i said about msg me aint a lie if u want    | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/6/2005 4:04:52 PM |
I keep meeting all these great guys and we really connect, next thing they're pouring their heart and soul out to me about the chick they're interested in! How come that chick is never me??? If I'm so easy to get close to or whatever, why does nothing come out of it? I'm not at all bothered by it, I'm not looking for a boyfriend, I'm just confused! Another thing... whenever I get chatting to someone and they find out I'm single they always tell me they're really surprised by that. Any ideas on why?
This is the story of my life!!! I always end up being the "cool chick" to hang out with and get advice from over being the girlfriend! It is sooooooooooo frustrating! I haven't a clue how to change this whole scenario, but I hope one of these days someone will see me as more than just a "cool chick." I hope for you also Punk.!  | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/6/2005 4:04:54 PM | First, I'd agree, ask the guy.
Generally, let me take a stab at this one. First, I'm always the best friend, not the boyfriend. I sympathise, just the other way around. The guys say they're surprised about how you're single because you're really pretty and if things are going well on that date, they like your personality too. Good looking girl + good personality = guys pursuing the girl very frequently.
My problem with dates may explain your problem. For me, I come home and unless there's a kiss at the end (I am not really a kiss on the first date kind of guy, unless the date is really freakin amazing), it seems ambiguous about what happens after. They probably go looking after that date with you because they're not sure what to do.
Of course, I'm not suggesting you go and kiss him at the end if you don't want to. But at the end maybe a "I had a really fantastic time tonight. I look forward to taking to you again soon" may string him in a bit tighter. I know it would do that for me, at least more than a "Call me or I'll call you". | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/6/2005 4:26:22 PM |
I think they'd more than freak
Why don't you simply ask?
I would find that sexy AND if I felt that it was wierd would tell you in a super nice way..probably with a hug..and let it die at that. (and continue to be your bud)
I know this, because it has happened...both ways matter of fact. | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/6/2005 4:34:45 PM | | My male friends always come to me talking bout other girls so if at the end of all that I leant in for a kiss... hmmm I don't think it would go down too well. I'm anticipating them saying "have you not been listening to a word I've been saying for the last hour??? I'm intersted in someone!" | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/6/2005 4:38:31 PM | You mean that they ALWAYS talk you about other girls. Like THAT is...like..your role?
*scratches head* You're right..not good.
*shrugs* You'll find someone ya know. DO not worry too much k?
Girls like you are Gold.
(though you may want romance, or even sex; right now; you will find so very so much more)
Hang in there kiddo. ;) | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/6/2005 5:03:14 PM | | Lol, t,d&h your comment made me laugh! I WISH guys would make up imaginary girls to get close to me!!! I guess it is kinda cool being the friend though. I'd rather be the friend than be nothing at all! And I guess it's cool that my guy friends do respect me enough to come to me for advice... I was just starting to get a tad worried that I just don't have "that thing" that attracts guys! | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/6/2005 7:29:30 PM | | Well, do you act like a tomboy or do you act like you're someone a guy could be with? Maybe you're giving off the wrong signals. Maybe people are surprised you're single becuase you're giving off "I'm taken" vibes. | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/6/2005 7:47:37 PM | | Hahaha. No, I don't act like a tomboy, not anymore than I look like one! I do have a bit of attitude, but I like to think that it's a good thing. Giving off "I'm taken" vibes... Not too sure about that, don't see why I would be! Thanks for your advice anyway! | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/6/2005 7:56:34 PM | It's the same for me, only....Why am I always the best friend and never the boyfriend? I seem to befriend lots of women....but never anything beyond friendship. Really now...am I so horrid that women don't consider me worth that extra thought? All my life has been that way. I even dared to ask a girl in my class back in my college days (whom I was very good friends with) if she would ever to date me seriously....she said "I wouldn't want to destroy the friendship."
Man. You know that does nothing for a guys ego if a woman flatly rejects him...even a friend. | |
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| Why am I always the best friend and never the girlfriend...
Posted: 6/6/2005 10:42:39 PM | | Damn if they are just being friends with you madam, they'd better be dating super models cuz your dead sexy. Any person who wouldn't be stoked about having you as their girlfriend has got to be an idiot. Maybe your fishing in the wrong pond. Try hanging out with different types of guys | |
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