| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:56:15 PM | Ok, this thought has been crossing my mind, and wondering if anyone else has had this experience.
I have found that if the kiss is wonderful, then normally the sex is too. If the kiss is fumbled, not on par, or out of sync, then so is the sex.
Is this your experience too? | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/16/2008 2:53:16 PM | OP,
A kiss is the inner depth of others senuality. If the kiss is of deep passion then they will give deep pasion. If a kiss is deep but, soft kisses then they are soft.
If a kiss is just a peck then well, should I say more?? If the 1st kiss is fumbled and not in sync then I would try again for the 1st time you are to impress but, some get freaked out and miss there "Q"! However, if you try and try again an no improvement then why try to make it to second base for a kiss is a deal breaker for myself.
If they can't kiss I have lost the passion to go any farther. Why is that?? I'm not sure perhaps the passion has to be up front in order to know we shair the same passion and could be a good fit to move on.
Now for your second question! Hummmm I'm not sure on how to answer this but, to only say.......If the kiss did not grab me then I would think perhaps it is not worth it to go any farther. Only you can answer from within if your attracted enouth to that paerson to know if you want to try again and then perhaps go farther. Good Luck in your choice!
Good post and I would like to hear what others have to say!
LL | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:11:37 AM | | The kiss is the start of all things possible - if it isn't right - no need to go futher. If you can't arrouse me with a kiss - you certainly aren't going any futher. Plus sometimes all I really want or need that day is the really good kiss. | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/17/2008 10:40:12 AM | ^^ ROFL...Sorry Lowadee!!
OK, her are my real thoughts on this subject! How can one define lovemaking or the perfect evening out without the kiss that defines the moment. I think a Lady could define in words what it's all about better than any male can. I think it goes beyond what's sensual (But, I'd admit...it's pretty dang close). One partner will definitely know if the person their with is "in" to them .
As the old song goes:
If you wanna know
If he loves you so
It's in his kiss!
(That's where it is!)
Oh, yeah! Its in his kiss!
(That's where it is!)
"It's In His Kiss"
(The Shoop Shoop Song)
~Aretha Franklin
~Sneaks | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:28:27 PM | Yes I agree .... The kiss will tell you alot about how the person is. Sense we are all in agreement on this; shoulding we be setting up more kissing boths to find out if were compaitable. This could know out those bad first dates !    | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:31:40 PM | | Yes I agree .... The kiss will tell you alot about how the person is. Sense we are all in agreement on this; shoulding we be setting up more kissing boths to find out if were compaitable. This could knock out those bad first dates ! | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:00:09 PM | No.
I've had great sex with bad kissing and vice-versa.
Keep in mind that maybe that on the first kiss, that the person may be stressed out from different reasons or merely nervous causing a bad kiss.
A great kisser may be lousy in bed, since maybe all they've done is kiss, but have had little experience in bed.
Um, I trust you get what I mean. | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:50:11 PM | The joys of conversation!
The man above wrote that he had had good sex with bad kissing.... did she agree? LOLOL Are you SURE? LOLOL (I am much older and am expecting a professional, experienced lover... well, if they weren't experienced.... I might wonder).....
I understand that you can have a clear miss on the very first time you kiss. But, I am not going to jump to bed after one kiss anyway. There is a far difference between the mechanics of sex and the emotion of sex. I think we all understand the mechanics (or at least I hope so), but the emotion as a void or inherent in the kiss, is what I am getting at specifically.
To me, passion, desire, lust, the wanting, should be relayed during kissing. I know we are all different but (at my age), if there is some kind of critical element (like want) missing in the kiss, then there will be something missing in bed - perhaps it is the connection, perhaps it is emotional/sensuality that can only be reciprocated if both are open to more, perhaps I am only wishful thinking.....
Frankly, this has only truly become an issue for me in the last few months. I have been surprised because I have heard about women who "lay there".... I have met some men that were the same.... and boy did that shock me!!! Strangley though, they were the "best looking" and said literally "all the right things" who, upon reflection, were looking to be "serviced". When we first kissed, we were out of sync. One man actually kept biting my tongue (and that hurt and I kept jerking it back) but he was certainly not what you would call dominant - more like passive in bed. In both instances, the men, I do truly believe, were great deceivers..... they said one thing, their actions indicated the same, but once the objective was accomplished (getting to bed), then there was something missing (but it was missing all along) and then they were long gone (gladly - bad is just bad...LOLOL).
They both were devoid of the emotion that allows us to actually be free to have a great connection in bed (or kissing). These experiences were unfulfilling - but then I am not after the physical, but the emotional connection. I think I should develop a litmus test... talk some, then meet and lay one on me... or me on you.... and then no need for further discussion - it is either there or it isn't.
Maybe I should set up a booth... much better than talking... testing sounds fun! Looking for my Soul Mate a kiss at a time..... LOLOLOL .... but then.... maybe I could tell a little about their heart! | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:24:45 PM | lookingfor,
Your thread is predicated on the "premonition of things to come" from the initial kissing.
Now you're changing the premise of your initial argument by making more than a judgment from a first kiss.
That should be for an entirely different thread, since it introduces all sorts of other variables than the initial kiss. | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/17/2008 5:04:40 PM | 1inamillion....If you open a booth can I be first in line ???  Actually I think it starts even before the first kiss. If you connect and can relax then the kiss will be more successful. If the kiss is relaxed then the sex..........well you get my drift. The problem is that usually the first date is a throw away in that it takes one date to find common ground and become relaxed. And my last comment is that I do think you can have great sex without great kissing..........but you can't make love that way.  | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/20/2008 9:43:46 PM | I learned very early from a Catholic red head girl the finer points of kissing with passion. Since then I've never had any complaints. I've kissed some women who were actually shocked that kisses were that way. It's like all facets of sexuality, some of us are taught one thing and some of us are taught something different. I put as much of me into the kiss as I intend to put into the rest of the relationship. So maybe some of the guys who don't impress with the kiss are subconciously trying to send a message. Or maybe they didn't have the right teachers.
To that end make the kisses be good enough to demand more or don't bother. | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/21/2008 12:28:48 AM | Kisses are great, if meant right. But as we all know, they can mean absolutely nothing. They can be tools to sucker you into a relationship that is built on lies. So what it feels gooood! So do DRUGS! But they sure do put you thorugh a living HELL getting away from them!
I think they are just a tool women use to manipulate us! As sonn as we give in, tney take half of what we have, then go kiss someone else! | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/21/2008 11:24:39 AM | I have found that if the kiss is wonderful, then normally the sex is too. If the kiss is fumbled, not on par, or out of sync, then so is the sex.
Is this your experience too? As a woman, my answer is yes.
From reading all of the posts above me plus giving it some careful thought, I believe the majority of the men "may" agree with Thunderscribe and the majority of the women may agree with us (You and I).
Now before I get slammed with some contradictory responses, please note that I used the words "may" and "majority". | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:19:44 PM | Well this man believes that a kiss tells you so much about a person, and how the "sex" will be. I agree you can have "ok" sex with out having feelings, but who wants that. I want GREAT SEX, and that you have to have emotions in that KISS. With that you can have PASSION too. I don't think it matters if the first is soft, short, long or wanting, all of those types of kisses can have passion in them. Plus it matters how he or she holds you and where he or she holds you during the kiss that matters too. By your hair at the back of your neck for a stong long kiss or with both hands at the sides of your head with a long moment as he looks in your eye before he kisses you softly around your lips.
But then again what the hell do I know...I am still single LOL | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:10:11 AM | some ppl just don't know how to kiss, and probably don't know how to please u in bed either. it's just inexperience and you may can teach him what you like.
but generally, the first kiss may be awkward because of nerves, or just the need to figure out how the two of you fit. the first time i kissed my ex bf, it wasn't any good. but i really liked him, so i kept at it. by the next day, it was enjoyable and by the third...awesome. we just had to work together to learn each other. and the sex was the best i've ever had. unfortunately the relationship didn't work out, but it was an awesome experience. | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/27/2008 4:05:51 AM | ^^^^^This coming from you Billy doesn't surprise me the least. Your always ready with a put down or insult (Typical Wolfie Troll Post) to lower anyone to your level of human existence.
A kiss means something to anyone ugly or not......insulting them based on looks is simply wrong on all levels.
~Sneaks | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/27/2008 5:03:54 AM | Good for you Sneaks...
My two cents...I think a kiss can tell you a lot about another person and how sexual/ passionate they may be. Has anyone noticed the difference of someone (male or female) who kisses because they feel it is expected--to get to the end result, versus the one who kisses because they want that intimate closeness to someone they are attracted to? I've had kisses that were I'm sure what HE thought were passionate, but to me was just a hard pressing, bruising kiss with no intimacy in it. Give me that soft kiss, that exploration of lips and actually tasting and feeling the other person--anytime. Those are the ones who want the full pleasure out of the experience. And, for me, this doesn't mean the wetter the better...I don't want to have to wipe my face afterwards. | |
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| The Power of the Kiss - Premonition of things to come?
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:43:44 AM | | Who says I was referring to you? I didn't think you were referring to me when you made the high school comment. I been out of high school many years now. Sorry if you thought I was directing my comment towards you. I would never do that | |
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