| Worse things about being single...
Posted: 6/16/2008 1:24:01 PM | What do u think are the worse things about being single??
Myself , for the most part I enjoy singlehood. But I am lucky , I have a "Friend"
that supplies all the needs of a relationship without the hassles.
Being a third wheel sucks .
Having no one to cook for sucks.
Having no one to curl up on the couch with and be lazy , talk , watch TV , sucks.
Not having the smell of a man on my pillow . | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 2:40:02 PM | oh get a bloody grip & grow up u silly silly girl!!!!!...if u have a "friend" who services u shall we say then u really dont deserve a partner if u are willing to give urself to someone just for the sex!!.....Girls like that are called where i come from.... | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 4:13:56 PM | Don't be so prudish! I think friends with benefits is just fine.. As long as its a mutual agreement that once 1 party starts a relationship the benefits of the friendship stop...
Maybe you should try it before you knock it! I believe the girls you are talking about are the ones who sleep with everything that has 3 legs :P
I miss the hand holding, the pillow talk, talking for hours on the phone, dates, and of course the foot rubs! | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 4:47:29 PM | 
Breathe deep is right LMAO!
girls like me eh ??  Your just jealous ! And silly girl .. nope. Passed that stage longggggggg ago .
I have a understanding with a guy , yes. Is he my boyfriend ? Nope. It is not all about the sex actually . Many times we spend nights together with NO sex! Imagine that . He is like my best friend that I happen to have sex with . I love him , as a friend . I am straight and upfront with him . He knows I do not love him that way . You cannot make yourself love someone. But we are both happy as things are now. It been working for 2 years!
Yet , I still consider myself single , yes I do . I see him once a week for a few hrs . That is no kind of relationship . There is no passion . No giddy phone calls, and butterflies in my stomach . I want all that . That would be a relationship . We have a comfort thing now. But by no means is he now , or will he ever be my boyfriend.
Regardless... I have needs too you know why shouldn't i have sex with someone whom cares about me and happens to be great in the sack ?? stupid I not . Least I sticking with the one partner not out banging everything that walks .
Though if I was.. none your da*n beeswax. Not hurting you or anyone else.. and to top it all off.. I having a orgasm every friday night , with a cuddle afterwards! What about you???
Ok , now we can get back to subjet .. what ya all miss about being part of a couple .. and the worse things about being single!
FYB | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 7:09:40 PM | ^^^^^ You turn girls into guys and vice versa, you have most guys dream!!!
Kudos!
The worst thing about being single is the loneliness at times. Everything else is great!! | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 7:14:56 PM | Hmmm. I've done the friends thing with benefits. It has it's place, for those who want it. But when I broke it off with my last "friend" it was because I could feel he didn't want anything too personal - no introductions to family, no interest in future, and he was afraid of the fact I had kids. So for me that didn't work, because I felt I didn't have all of him - leading me to the fact that at this point in my life I want more. We are still friends, but no romance or sexual elements. I got tired of hoping for some sort of feeling for him and frm him (so yes, I agree you can't make love happen).
WhatI find the worst about being single - no one to watch tv with and analize our fav. shows. No one to help when I just need a third hand. No one to do special things for - to give a massage to or plan a special surpirise for that I can anticipate them enjoying. :) Not having someone who might do the same for me. Sex. Simple kisses, warm hugs! | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 8:25:43 PM |
But when I broke it off with my last "friend" it was because I could feel he didn't want anything too personal - no introductions to family, no interest in future, and he was afraid of the fact I had kids.
But, isn't that what FWB's are supposed to be about....No emotional attachment? Wouldn't you have known that going in?
However, kudos to you for breaking it off instead of trying to convert him! | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 9:01:38 PM | | I see nothing but advantages being sinlge rather than being in a relationship. I do what I want and explain nothing to no one. Do what you need to fill the void, I rather relax with my dog and enjoy the silence that you can actually hear when you listen. It would be nice to have someone to help with the bills I guess but not necessary . | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 5:29:49 AM | But, isn't that what FWB's are supposed to be about....No emotional attachment? Wouldn't you have known that going in?
Yes, I did know that - I guess that is what I am pointing out - that it became not enough, and that it became easy to recognize when it wasn't enough. We are still friends and that right there tells me there was no love involved. :) As for not converting him - I figure when he finds someone that he wants to have more with - that is the only time he would be converted, lol. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 12:02:50 PM | oh get a bloody grip & grow up u silly silly girl!!!!!...if u have a "friend" who services u shall we say then u really dont deserve a partner if u are willing to give urself to someone just for the sex!!.....Girls like that are called where i come from....
Well, since I couldn't msg you privately, I'll have to do this publicly!
Who the hell are you to pass judgement on someone you do not know????
I like swtchick's description of you being prudish. It makes you sound so English....oh wait, you are from England. Which makes me wonder why the f#ck you are posting here. I sure wouldn't post any derogatory comments about someone in your local forum because what happens in your locale is of no interest to me.
Why don't you stick to the Global Forums? A lot of posters in our little local forum know each other via attending POF events. And thus, we make ourselves responsible for what we say by putting ourselves out in the public instead of just being "brave" in front of our computer!
Yes, you can post anywhere you want, but I just can't understand why people feel the need to be shit disturbers outside their own locale. That's what the Global Forums are for. The local ones are suppose to be for people in that area to discuss local events, happenings, etc..
I know I don't have to stick up for lovevampy, because if you knew her, you would know she can take care of herself quite well as was portrayed in her response. I'm just wondering how the hell all these people from different countries end up in our forum as I'm sure some don't even know where the hell Nova Scotia is. lol!!!
And to top it off, you never responded to the topic...that could qualify as trolling!
There, I had to wait a while before I posted that as it could have been worse.  | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 12:19:03 PM | ..If u care about each other so much WHY AINT U A COUPLE???.I thought that if u do genually care about someone & vise versa & had sex together then it meant u ARE in a relationship???.
I honestly think u are degrading urself.Dont get me wrong i hvae been there myself,been tempted but i never did anything...Im not any sort of prude at all i just dont see how girls can just have sex willy nilly"pardon the pun" with anyone.
Dont u feel ur worth so much more than just casual sex with a so called friend??????. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 12:50:48 PM | & in reply to...........maple59
Firstly who the hell do u think u are...Swearing at people???...I AM ENGLISH...I live in cheshire & have done all my life..Im a single mum who works bloody hard...yes im SINGLE....I DONT have a "friend" nor do i feel the need for one..If u are complete as a person why the hell would u.
(Which makes me wonder why the f#ck you are posting here. I sure wouldn't post any derogatory comments about someone in your local forum because what happens in your locale is of no interest to me.)
Why cant i comment on a forum???...If a person lived in the same town as me i would voice my opinion...Of which everyone is entitled to & also isnt that the POINT of a forum????...
Maybe i have come across quite prudish...How very far off the mark u are!!!!.
If i met someone who had had a "friend" i wouldnt look at him twice...Not only do i feel like that girl is degrading herself but that the "friend" is also treating her like crap..using her like a cheap piece of meat...Mind u..Thats what 90% of men seem to be doing nowadays isnt it???..
That is also a point i was trying to make....If women allow people to treat them this will they ever find a decent man to be with??....By decent i mean,treating them with respect....Men seem to have none at all for women...But then again if we let men treat us in this way & allow them to use us are we to blame in the long run???.
I didnt reply to the topic as i was actually commenting on the post NOT the question.
In answer to the post........I miss absolutly nothing!..
I have freedom,space,I can do waht i want when i want,im surrounded by love,friendship & family...So no i dont miss a thing.
What i defo DONT miss......Having to ask a partner "Is it ok with u if i go ..........?.
"Can i have some money please to pay whatever bill"?.....What would u like for ur tea???...Im sorry i havent had the time to iron ur best shirt so u can go out with the lads as i have been workin 12hrs then i came home cooked tea,bathed OUR son,did the dishes,put our son to bed....& so on.
SOD THAT!!!!!!......My life is far better without a man thank u!.
To end this discussion with urself....Nova scotia??????????. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 12:51:03 PM | ..Im not any sort of prude at all i just dont see how girls can just have sex willy nilly"pardon the pun" with anyone.
Actually, I think that does make you a prude!!
First off, just because you don't see it, doesn't make it wrong. Only wrong in your 1950's outlook on life.
Secondly, we all have sexual urges, well most people do, you might be an exception, and if both parties are able to accept that all they want is to relieve those urges then more power to them. They're both adults. And, I think lovevampy explained her relationship with her "friend" quite well. I also think Pixie put in a lot of perspective herself in the sense that once one party wants to take it further then those type of "friend" relationships then it's best to go looking elsewhere for a more committed relationship. To each his/her own!!
Dont u feel ur worth so much more than just casual sex with a so called friend??????.
I don't see how a person should feel degraded in that situation. Maybe you should read what was actually being said in the posts!
And again, you have yet to reply to the original topic! I have to think you are very single.
Edit: Since you were typing the same time as myself. Who the hell is maple28? I'm assuming me, but it's 59 my dear. Which is obviously a sign that you may have trouble reading as the crap about mistreatment of women cannot be interpreted by what was posted.
I think you and Moedee would hit it off. Mind you, it would be a long distance relationship! lol!
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Posted: 6/17/2008 1:03:01 PM | I did reply to the post but it didnt go on the bottom for some reason..
To be honest i dont miss one little thing!..Im 31,a single mum who works full time to provide for my child...so i dont need anyone for that reason....I have all the love cuddles,affection,friendship i need & have time for in my life so i dont need that.....I can do what i want when i want,,go where i want with who i want..I do have alot of male friends,some single some married who i go out with...We have a bloody good laugh & good dance & lots of beer but it ends there...I personaly feel that sex should be between a couple,a couple who actually care & love each other.Im sorry if that makes me a prude but hey,at least im happy..& as for the 1950 attitude...Maybe if more people thought like me there wouldnt be all the divorces/broken homes etc etc...I think the older generation had it right.Courtship.marrige,kids & lived long & happy lives..What is wrong with that????.... | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 5:49:57 PM | I think the older generation had it right.Courtship.marrige,kids & lived long & happy lives..What is wrong with that????....
Absolutely nothing is wrong with that... whats wrong is you feel you have the right to judge other people just because they live their life differently than you. LoveVampy is my best friend, and we get along great her situation is not for me.. but it works for her and it doesn't effect any aspect of her life.. if anything she is making better choices than some people who hook up with someone new every damn weekend..
you are a single mum??? that means you had pre marital sex or heaven forbid you got divorced... In your last post you said people like you don't divorce.. so you should make up your mind before you go around judging strangers you don't know or will never know...if you can't be polite stick to the topic.. and ignore everything else.. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 7:25:40 PM | [ you are a single mum??? that means you had pre marital sex or heaven forbid you got divorced.]/
haaaaa. Touché! | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 10:04:42 PM | | Why would you think that her and I would hit it off maple ? I dont understand why you would name me in your lil flame war . Whats your problem ? | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 11:41:47 AM | For your information my husband died when our son was 6mnths old...He died in a car crash.I have been on my own ever since,,which will be 2yrs in august...& before anyone comments on that NO im not some sad person who is still pining after the husband she lost...He was a bully & to be honest im happy being on my own with our son....THAT IS THE REASON IM A BLOODY SINGLE PARENT THANK U VERY SODDING MUCH!!!!!!!....
Im NOT saying im a bloody born again virgin,,yes i was a few relationships before i got married & maybe i did sleep with a few....but i didnt agree with sex buddies...I never have.I was brought up to belive that sex was something special between two people who love each other & are in a relationship...Its just something i can not & will not ever do....
& in reply that its "none of my business".& that i am judgeing people who i dont know........This is a forum,,,thousands upon thousands of people can read all what everyone puts on here...If people dont want to judged & have personal comments made about them then they should keep personal things private & not tell the whole bloody world!!!!!!....Or have i got the totally worng idea of a forum??????. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 11:47:16 AM | (Why would you think that her and I would hit it off maple ? I dont understand why you would name me in your lil flame war . Whats your problem ?)
EXACTLY.....Hey maybe hes the "friend" or wishes he was?????.....
If u can get really nasty then so can i u stupid old p***k!.......
I have explained myself to the girl in question i first commented about...If she wants to reply i will gladly answer her & listen/read what she has to say...
As for the rest of u......Like i give a s*** what u think about me!!!!!.... | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 1:06:54 PM | Well, I'm done.
But to clarify. I mentioned you Moedee because the both of you had the same view on the subject. Which come to think of it, was no view on "Worse things about being single..." because neither of you have no worse things about being single. 
Oh and forever....you might want to check this out with regards to posting in local forums that are not your local:
# Local Forums noun, (discussion board term)
1. National Forums. Those Countries with a large User Base are broken into Sub-Hierarchies by State or Province. The Canada Forum, USA Forums, UK Forums and Australia Forums are all Local Forums. Posting Restrictions apply. For Example, a California Resident should post in the California Local Forum, etc. as indicated in User's Profile, not in other Local Forums other than his own.
Here's a link with regards to the Posting Restrictions:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts8386242.aspx#8395417
Not my rules! | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 1:52:45 PM | You need to back off misses.
seriously .. your making this way too personal. Not to mention off topic. Seems you need to spend more time worrying about your own lack of sex life, spend more time with your son(it is obvious you have too much time on your hands if you are on here so much) and learn to get off the high horse you are perched on and head on back to your own forums. The pity train moved on long ago woman . And while I am sorry your son has to grow up without his father .. by no means does any of what you posted have to do with this thread .
And sorry , no need to be swearing on people just because they do not like your posts . I think YOU need to grow up . No one was calling you swear names. So take a chill pill and go back to where you came from . Enough shit disturbers around as it is .. maybe that why you can't post on your own counties forums eh ?
So can we get back to the original post people?
FYB | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 5:41:55 PM |
I was brought up to belive that sex was something special between two people who love each other & are in a relationship...Its just something i can not & will not ever do....
Thats correct... thats your way of things. Everyone is different, some people like vanilla sex others like it a bit more spicy. Just because you will never do what others do, doesn't mean what others do is wrong, as if you think that then you have a very narrow point of view. we as creatures of emotions have feelings and soem of us need to express and share them.
"To deny our own impulses is to deny the very thing that makes us Human"- Mouse
"Judge not what others do till you have judged yourself on all past actions without bias"
Tim
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Posted: 6/18/2008 6:22:36 PM | ******* I was brought up to belive that sex was something special between two people who love each other & are in a relationship...Its just something i can not & will not ever do.... *******
I was brought up to "know" that what you described is "making love" not sex...... Sex... nawww thats just an all around good time. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 7:56:53 PM | How do we have the same views maple ? She believes in relationships, I dont, I rather the casual fling , one night stands, sleeping buddies and so on. Unlike you I do not need pof to find a woman, I have never dated a woman I met from the pond and I doubt I would, I do fine on my own. Like I said it would be nice to have someone to help with the bills, thats my worse thing about being single. Did you actually read my post or are you that much of an idiot ? Read my profile, do I actually look like I`m fishing ? No, but it looks like you are and dont have the right bait If you need some pointers Brian, I can help. Just dont involve me in your you drama. I`m single and loving it, it`s not my fault you cant hook up.
Actually maple, I`m gonna hook up with my friend tonight and she is cool with things, who are you hooking up with or is it another night alone ? If anything you should be putting me down for having friends with benefits because I doubt you have any. | |
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