| Online dating - a waste of time
Posted: 6/16/2008 6:04:28 PM | Hello all-
I just wanted to vent my frustration with websites like this one and the others out there. ie: match, eharmoney, etc... doesn't matter if you pay or not, dating and trying to find that right person for you shouldn't be this hard. Singles parties you say? haha, yeah, right, so a woman can line me up with other guys and compare me? no way, I'll pass, that's not a way to get to know a person either.
I have tried the online dating thing for the lst year or so, and all it has done is frustrate me. I've read hundreds of profiles, seen tons of photos, and while I wasn't attracted to alot of the women's profiles that I read, I did see one common theme, you all want a nice guy, somebody fun, somebody outgoing, somebody caring and so forth, but how come when a nice guy like myself comes along, takes the time to write you a nice email, you don't take the time to get to know me? I understand if you looked at my profile, and maybe you didn't find me attractive, and that's fine, everybody has the right to be picky, as I am also. But you know, there's more to a person than a few photo's and the little bit most people write in their profile. I tried to tell alot, my interests, hobbies, what I do for a living, etc... I had recent photos online, I am clean cut, dress nice and so forth. I am in good shape and I have been told I am attractive and a good looking guy (and not just by my mom...haha) So what's the problem?
I'm giving up, I think most of the women on these sites are searching for a guy or something that doesn't exist. | |
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| Online dating - a waste of time
Posted: 6/16/2008 7:20:41 PM | I know exactly how you feel OP. When you put ANY expectations at all in online dating .......you are in for a disappointment. The most you can expect is perhaps meeting a friend for lunch. I have been online dating for a couple of years and it hasn't worked for me for finding romance, but for finding friends it's great. I feel your pain ~Diana~ | |
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| Online dating - a waste of time
Posted: 6/17/2008 6:48:26 AM | We all have felt the same way you do BUT it sounds like you have some misconceptions about the whole dating scene..
You wont go to a singles party , like ones that are put on by POF hosts, because you are going to be compared to other guys.
Isn't that what the whole dating scene is about? Why would any female want to get into a relationship with someone that is so lacking in self confidence?
I am a Host and have been for two years and I have seen hundreds get together at POF events..They may not have all worked out but at least the opportunity was there.
POF events are also much safer for everyone, you are among your peers and you can talk to many people in one night..If it clicks, I dont care where you are ,it is a great thing.
If not then hey there is always the next event.
We are hosting a POF wedding reception next month..Yes they met at a POF event over a year ago and IT WAS THE FIRST EVENT THEY HAD EVER ATTENDED!!
So don't give up..keep rewriting your profile, be confident and above all add pics!!!
Colombo | |
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| Online dating - a waste of time
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:53:58 PM | Online dating I have not had many dates, but met some great people. I don't have many friends to set me up, I don't go to the bars, small church so not many singles. I bowl but with the ladies. This way you have a chance to meet so many more people. Trial and error any way you met people. I suggest you just chat and email all you see or read of interest to you and keep changing your profile until you attract the persons you are looking for it will happen. I am now starting a relationship with a man that I have been searching for, we have talked off and on for months. And we seem to come back to each other. Anyway It's up to you and how much you want to put into the search, I have things that I want and won't settle not to have. Like anything you have to do in life it is all up to you and what you want. I put it out there and finally think I have found a man who I want and wants me!     | |
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| Online dating - a waste of time
Posted: 6/18/2008 10:35:21 AM | Hi Lilly, Try to stay positive it won't happen over nite and if u want a lasting relationship it takes time. Its just like fishing if u don't like what u catch throw them back and try again. I have made many friends on here and I continue to hope that one day I will find that special fish that is a keeper. The best way to meet is to attend an event, they are alot of fun and could not be safer. I have been to many and will continue to go. The next KOI event is 7/13/o8 at the Back Porch in Hamilton Ohio. Look me up I am a co host with Columbo and Hapysnappy.
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| Online dating - a waste of time
Posted: 6/19/2008 12:04:55 AM | I know exactly how you feel, Mr. Topic Creator.
I've sent tens, perhaps hundreds of messages on here, and I can remember probably two times when I didn't get a "Read Deleted."
Makes you wonder what in tarnation is up. | |
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| Online dating - a waste of time
Posted: 6/24/2008 8:33:23 AM | I was reading the posts here and I really want to add my two cents.....
I think the online dating thing is a great way to meet new people...but just becasue we dont find someone that is to our liking doesnt mean that person isnt the right person for someone else. Dating can be a very emotional experience and I personally think that some people are very unrealistic in what they want in a person. Some have no clue what they do really want and some are so messed up and hurt that they cant seem to move past their last relationship. I have read some profiles from men that want a "Barbie" but they dont look anything like a "Ken". If you are fat and dont brush your teeth and have a scraggly beard, then you should expect to get someone of your same calibar. If you smoke, you are completely eliminating yourself from an entire group of people...those being the non smokers. I personally dont smoke and I wont date anyone that does smoke. This dating site is like everything else in life......you can only use it to your advantage if you are willing to be honest with yourself ...do some self assessments.....and know your limits. For me the biggest turn offs in a man is him not brushing his teeth and smoking. If you dont brush your teeth and you smoke .....then that is the sort of girl you are going to get. If you want a Barbie looking woman ...then you best be looking like Ken.
You get out what you put in......and sometimes you get a gold nugget....sometimes you don't......Cheers!!!! Happy | |
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| Online dating - a waste of time
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:37:16 AM | I happen to agree with Mary ... and it does go both ways. be true to who you are and what you are looking for and things will fall into place as they are meant to be ... and you might even make some nice friends along the way.
Kent | |
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| Online dating - a waste of time
Posted: 7/20/2008 12:28:17 PM | Let it happen when it is meant to happen.....a lil frustrating (indeed)...make some friends if anything....imagine what we'd be doing without the internet.....sitting in some smokey stinky bar or club somewhere....probably drinking (and don't forget holding the keys to the car you work hard for)...and maybe a one nite stand or two....for me...i will jus do this.....
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| Online dating - a waste of time
Posted: 7/21/2008 6:15:15 PM | | ppl actually go to these sites to find relationships wow i never knew i use these sites becuase there r no free chat sites anymore or there filled with sex bots. | |
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| Online dating - a waste of time
Posted: 8/4/2008 3:49:07 PM | I have to say that ive been coming to some of these dating sites for about 4 to 5 yrs. Ive vemet a few men off of them. 2 of which i dated for a while or longer. I thought that both of them would be my MR. Right. The first i dated for about 3 years then broke up for a year and weve tried to get back together. He said he would do anything to get me back yet isnt fullfilling his end of the deal . The second man i dated for a few months and although he claimed to be having feeling for me he ran into his ex gf and decided he didnt ahve feelings for me but has them for her and after she promised to date only him this time he took her back. What a blow to me.
So here i am again looking. There doesnt seem to be anyone in my hometown for me or if there is i cant seem to find him so the online dating opens up a new line up of men. Yeah i want a good honest man. The two men i was with both are good men and honest as far as i know but the first was "too buisywith work and all" to date me the right way, or at least call more then just once or twice a month when he got too horney to take things into his own hands. The second man well i told you went back to his cheating ex. He was more like what im wanting but had problem after problem with his car and whatever but i dealt with it. i even dove to him when he would let me. I always asked first. But i would have liked to have gone to see him more often, but at least we talked on the phone alot.
So where are all of these honest, single, good, dependable men that want to date a woman of the same and want a relationship not just sex? | |
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