| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/17/2008 6:18:46 AM | Do you still believe in real, passionate and romantic love? I'm in my 50's and most people I talk to about this tell me no. This is my first every posting of any kind but I'd really like to hear what people like to say about this. | |
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/17/2008 6:38:35 AM | YES YES YES YES YES !!
Does that answer your question....??
Ive discovered im more than capable of experiencing that euphoric,all consuming feeling of lurve............
Im in my 40's -- more in-tune,responsive & not afraid to show my passion.
Sooo much better in every regard now im older...............
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/17/2008 7:35:10 AM | ^^^^ what strawbs08 said, times two!
Not only do I believe in it, I was completely taken aback by it! When I met my SO (I am 45, he is 50) we had an open and frank discussion about just that- expectations, compatability and companionship vs. burning passion, etc. . . what started out as the former, has developed into the latter. And we couldn't be happier!
What is funny is, I was perfectly happy to 'settle' for companionship - but was thankfully blessed with the most fulfilling love of my life! Wow - just wow!
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:20:22 AM | Great question, Artistame.
I believe the danger we all run, as we become older, is becoming “too single”. We all work very hard to become independent and self-sufficient as singles and are very proud (and should be) of our success. Then we meet someone and they see this totally independent and self-sufficient person and wonder, “Where can I fit in this person’s life because it seems so complete without me?” I find many people are merely looking for an accessory to their already complete life, whereas many of us are looking for a person that is willing to create a new life together. That means sacrificing some (not all) of that independence and self-sufficiency in order to combine the two lives into one. I recently asked someone out and she said, “But that is when I usually go to the pool.” We rescheduled, but that response spoke volumes, beyond the words, about her priorities.
As justwant2no points out, a frank discussion is very important because I believe most relationship problems find their basis in unspoken, unrealistic expectations of the other person. We just assume the other person wants the same thing that we want and that just isn’t the case quite often. Especially as we become older. | |
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:56:57 PM | YES !!!! I will always believe in real, passionate and romantic love. Unfortunately, at our age, a lot of the men we meet are just looking for the passionate sex. So I will continue to look knowing one day I will one day meet the man of my dream, who will be able to keep up and fulfill the real, passionate and romantic love I so much desire.       | |
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:35:03 PM | That means sacrificing some (not all) of that independence and self-sufficiency in order to combine the two lives into one.
I heard it said this way: I am independent until I find the woman with which I want to spend the rest of my life and then I want move from ME against the world to US against the world with MY independence becoming OUR dependence on each other and hence our independence from all else.
As for the OPs question. Yes, I do believe in the passionate love but passionate love is blind so I choose, on occasion, to peek!  | |
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/17/2008 5:53:01 PM | Yes I do still believe in passionate love, it can happen. But that being said, I don't rely on instant feelings. I've heard and I've felt the fireworks, bells ringing, upon meeting a person - but that's lust - that's going gaga over the wrapping paper and not what's inside.
Real passionate love to me is when you're together for a number of years, know eachother inside and out and yet when you see him, he still takes your breath away. | |
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:40:00 PM | | I'm a firm believer in love and it has been rather upsetting to date someone ( more than once) who's told me virtually, to get over it and it's for teenagers. It's wonderful to hear everyone talking so positively! I've been told to find a man and just settle because it just doesn't happen anymore. I'd rather be alone if that's the case. | |
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/17/2008 11:12:22 PM |
I've been told to find a man and just settle because it just doesn't happen anymore.
I think you need to find different people to talk to. | |
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/18/2008 2:00:29 PM | I believe in passionate kisses ,passionate sex ,but when it comes to love it has to be love ,just strait up love ,passion can fade at times ,but if you truly love something its forever babe .....nice post | |
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/19/2008 9:52:12 AM | Yes I totally believe in passionate love and will not give up on finding it.
I crave that emotional intimacy that only two people completely in love can have and create together.
I will not settle for anything less!
I hope we all find it sooner than later!
TC
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/20/2008 8:16:10 PM | Thanks Arlie,
It's wonderful to hear a man say that! Thanks everyone.
It's been nice to hear all of your affirmations and to know that I'm not alone in the way I feel.
I consider myself to me a romantic and loving person but not unrealistically so and to be told that I'm looking for something that doesn't exist by more than 1 person was rather disheartening. I'm certainly not waiting for a prince on a white charger to come riding up out here in the Estates. But I mostly feel depressed for these people who go thru life with this attitude but then again I suppose they have no expectations.
As for myself: I'd rather be alone than settle.
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/21/2008 5:39:37 AM | thats exactly right hun,my feelings are that I would rather be alone ,than with someone and lonely......never settle,you will regret it | |
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/21/2008 7:36:34 AM | | I believe in it. I just haven't yet seen it. BUt I agree I would rather be alone then not have that passion. I think it also begins harder for a woman who has children. The children are your priority and whole life. I think because of that its hard to make the time to find that one passionate person. | |
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/21/2008 3:44:19 PM | Hey Shell, I understand.
I raised 4 children and they have to be your priority. Make time for you, too tho. Don't settle for anything but the best for you and your children because they need a role model and you need a good help mate and good lover. It is difficult but my daughter found someone wonderful right around the corner to help with her children and love her so hang in there. Now they have a 2 yr old after 10 yrs together, along with the others, lol!
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/22/2008 11:55:58 AM | | Thanks sandra. Gives me something to hope for. Sometimes I cry myself to sleep thinking that there is noone out there for me. Hugs Shell | |
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:34:28 PM | No, I don't believe any longer... That ship set sail years ago and at the time I was sad about it but have since changed my mind. I've had opportunities in life that I otherwise could have never got had I been tied down...
Maybe had I been born in another time when people actually had a certain amount of respect, decency and knew the meaning of love, I might have but in this day and age that is lost. People think love can be obtained and thrown away as easily as a soda can and thats not love in my opinion. | |
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 6/22/2008 9:27:30 PM | | Yes,I believe,but what justifys passionate love? to me,it has to be a combination of emotional,mental,spiritual almost,the physical is a function,but with the connection with someone you feel right with,makes good passion,my 2 cents.. | |
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| Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:54:57 AM | Yes, call me young, call me nieve, at least in my little bubble of bliss I know I'm happy believing in true love, and passion, and romance. Relationships of opportunity as even a concept to me are just a real downer. It's like settling for what you can get cause you lack the drive to pursue what you want.
Like I said I maybe young and/or nieve, but I'm happy here, and don't you say a word about Santa clause! ;) | |
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