| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:35:19 PM | Question to the guys out there/
What causes an inability to ejacualte - consistently. I am talking about someone who has no problem getting and maintaining an erection (sometimes for a couple of hours), not having drunk any alcohol and not taking Viagra.
hilst som4 may comment lucky me - it does beg the question of why?
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Zee | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:42:40 PM | Zee,
I have had that problem in the past. The good thing was I could go all night if I wanted too. The bad thing was that I could hardley ever have an orgasm. At the time I had just went through a bad divorce and my job was stressing me. The doctor had put me on Zoloft for a few months until things got better. After being on it a cpl weeks I started having issues. Stopped taking it and things got back to normal. So I would say to answer your question it could be from some type of medication or maybe just stress. | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:45:22 PM | | Ask him how long it takes to do it in private. If he can do it noticeably quicker he has mental issues. Have him stop any sex for one week including masturbation and see if it improves. I believe ever other day sex will allow the maximum amount of sperm to accumulate though that is only 5 percent of the total volume of seminal fluid. He needs sensitivity or to fix his mental problem with having an orgasm in front of another. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 8:50:12 PM | Inability to ejaculate
Scruffy screams like Ned Flanders and covers his ears.......LA LA LA LA LA LA..not listening!!! 
No problem about getting a woody but can't cum? most likely means he's really excited
and is so jacked up on the fact that he's having sex he can't cum. keep working at it sooner or later it's gonna happen.
don't focus on it ......it will only make matters worse. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 9:07:44 PM | | I work with a guy that had that problem due to meds. Turned out it can be an uncommon side effect of some meds and he was one of the unlucky ones affected. On the plus side he thought his wife enjoyed the super-extended sessions, but he had to see his doc about an Rx switch before it got to be a big problem for him. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 11:15:15 PM | Medication would be the most likely answer. There are quite a few, especially anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications, that have this side effect.
On an interesting note, they are going to be releasing medication like this that is shorter lasting for men who have problems with premature ejaculation. So for some, this will be a good thing. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 11:29:22 PM | As mentioned, most commonly medication. This is a side effect of the most common mental illness prescribed medications and appears in all the forums like this I frequent all the time.
The problem is that the person with the problem will often not admit that they are on medication- obviously they do not want to tell most people they are mentally ill. In addition, they will often not tell their partner if it is a new relationship. This can make finding the source of the problem difficult. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 3:40:37 AM |
As mentioned, most commonly medication. This is a side effect of the most common mental illness prescribed medications and appears in all the forums like this I frequent all the time.
The problem is that the person with the problem will often not admit that they are on medication- obviously they do not want to tell most people they are mentally ill. In addition, they will often not tell their partner if it is a new relationship. This can make finding the source of the problem difficult.
I wouldn't describe someone with anxiety or depression as being mentally ill. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 3:54:40 AM |
Originally posted by twofeetremoved
I wouldn't describe someone with anxiety or depression as being mentally ill.
I would. Mind you, I do not tend to go for political correctness much and tend to base myself in reality instead of fantasy land, so I can see where we differ in perspectives.
Oddly enough, every resource I checked seems to agree with my real world perspective on depression being a mental illness. What does Merriam-Webster have to say? Oh look...
"2): a psychoneurotic or psychotic disorder marked especially by sadness, inactivity, difficulty in thinking and concentration, a significant increase or decrease in appetite and time spent sleeping, feelings of dejection and hopelessness, and sometimes suicidal tendencies "
Political correctness and ignorance does not aid in medical treatment. | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/18/2008 8:45:29 AM | OK OK****eads, take your flames and run along now. The inability to ejaculate is the topic.
Is he having non-ejaculatory orgasms? I believe that could be described as Tantric sex. There are lots of information on that in these forums.
If he is not having orgasms at all, it could be something that he needs to see a doctor about. Can he ejaculate through masturbation? | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 9:11:53 AM | | If it's a continuing problem, I would drag my tail into the doctor's office and get it checked out. Could be a number of things. Could be something simple, could me something psychological or it could be medical. Best to seek a professional's opinion as soon as possible. If it is a medical issue, should be treated right away. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 9:35:47 AM | | Maybe he needs more mental stimulation then he is getting. I am not saying you are doing something wrong, but maybe HE hasn't communicated to YOU those freaky little things that he NEEDS to be able to have an orgasm. I used to have the same problem until I began to be honest with myself and my partner that I NEEDED something a whole lot more then just regular sex. Vanilla sex doesn't cut it for me, and my imagination/interest has to be involved in what I am doing or I can have a hard on all night and not be able to cum. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 11:09:44 AM |
try slamming it in a door if it's such a hassel......
Nooooooooooooo .... that hurt way too much last time!
she did everything but do chin ups off of it.
Who's bragging now? Tent pole anyone? | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 11:54:49 AM | also known as "Baldy syndrome"..........
Zee,...
you'd be surprised what you can find on google about this subject everything from whats known as "retarded ejaculation to medication side effects"
.......Most often, the man who is sexually aroused but is unable to ejaculate intravaginally is suffering from retarded ejaculation, now officially called Male Orgasmic Disorder. This condition has been called by many names, such as inhibited male orgasm, delayed ejaculation, and ejaculatory over-control, to name a few .(1, 2, 3) Surprisingly, many medical professionals have not heard of this disorder.
Joseph Marzucco, PA, PhD | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/18/2008 12:05:28 PM | I have had this problem in the past, even quite recently. Particularly with a new partner, someone maybe I found attractive and sexy but just didn't know that well. Nothing to do with meds in my case either. Sometimes I would have the urge to cum after about 10 minutes, not let it happen because I knew she was nowhere near yet, and then find I couldn't get to "the point" again. Other times, it just wouldn't want to happen at all.
Best thing was just not to worry about it too much and carry on having a good time - practice makes perfect.
I think it's basically about knowing someone well enough, familiarity and trust. Also, condoms don't help much. Got past both those issues then everything was OK. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 12:08:52 PM | | Normally its a non atraction thing in most cases. Speaking from my own sex. If i dont get hard its because im not attracted to the women. Put porn on that helps alot | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 4:04:40 PM | | Too much masturbation, another woman, or psychological issue.. something might just be on his mind. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 4:28:22 PM |
Low blood pressure is the usual reason.
Low blood pressure is the usual reason.
Low blood pressure is the usual reason.
Low blood pressure is the usual reason.
Low blood pressure is the usual reason.
Low blood pressure is the usual reason.
Low blood pressure is the usual reason.
Low blood pressure is the usual reason.
Low blood pressure is the usual reason.
Low blood pressure is the usual reason.
Low blood pressure is the usual reason.
He has inflation, but no ejaculation...
He has inflation, but no ejaculation...
He has inflation, but no ejaculation...
He has inflation, but no ejaculation...
He has inflation, but no ejaculation...
He has inflation, but no ejaculation...
He has inflation, but no ejaculation...
He has inflation, but no ejaculation...
He has inflation, but no ejaculation...
He has inflation, but no ejaculation...
Is that a banjo in your hand? | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 4:43:18 PM | | Seems not being able to ejaculate isn't the only problem we're experiencing...did slamming it in the doors cause people to stutter? | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 4:47:59 PM | Medication does affect this, so does stress, and a million other things.
Heck, I'm actually thinking of getting a low-dose scrip of effexor just for the occasions when I know I'd like to go a bit longer than normal ;) | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 5:05:03 PM | Re the Opost
ejaculatory over-control?
I kind like this term.
And it keeps her coming again and again and again. Wearing a condom contributes to the LP. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 10:00:25 PM | Thank you to everyone that responded - some very helpfully other - well not somuch but thaks anyways/
As for self satisfaction - that is an issue also - it took an hour and a half the last time he did it.
There is no condom issue - we have been together for about nine months - and to my knowledge not on any meds other than pain killers for a shoulder injury.
It wasn not an issue orignally - and it seems the closest response is he waits and holds back and then loses sensitivity. Oral sex helps regain it but then it goes again/
He is wearing me out -- lol.
So I guess we will just hope it rectifies itself - I am out of tricks and energy
Thanks again
Zee | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/20/2008 10:04:59 PM | | All I know is I do not know how you guys walk around with those things. And soooo many problems. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 11:07:15 PM | Re post 24
"As for self satisfaction - that is an issue also - it took an hour and a half the last time he did it."
It took him 90 minutes of masturbation to come?
Maybe very low sperm production? The man needs to have sperm to come. | |
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