| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 10:41:38 AM | | My boyfriend and I have a very active sex life. I was a virgin when i met him, and for some reason it hurt more than anything i imagined when i finally decided i was ready. I have been having sex with him on a regular basis. climaxing most of the time, even up to three times a day for six months, but i still experience pain. I am certainly wet enough, he is really gentle, but when he enters " ouch!" still. I dont know why, everyone says " your not wet enough" but i know i am, because well, i know how i work and how i feel. We even tried t make foreplay go on a lot longer, but i still have that painful stretching for the first 10 thrusts or so. There have been times HE has experienced pain while entering, but it was only once or twice. is there something wrong with me? | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 10:53:46 AM | this is more a question for your GYN, and i suggest you go visit one to make sure everythings functioning right.
I question how you say he feels pain, that almost sounds like a size ration issue. As much as we would like it to be a perfect fit everytime not all of us are built right. His yang might be too big for your ying etc. It happens. Try different positions and see if any are slightly better. Some positions have shallower penetration than others. Another thign that can happen is having ur cervix bumped. not all women enjoy that and for some it is painful.
But overall the key would be making sure everything checks out alright. If you've ever had a speculum used and it didnt hurt then i'd think it had more to do with him than you. | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 11:05:43 AM | well since you were a virgin, then I'd assume you were/are really tight. If your bf is big and thick then he's gonna stretch you out and it'll hurt until you get used to it.
now you also said you've been doing it 3 times a day for six months, so that's 360 times which is a lot of ****ing, so maybe it's friction burn that can cause the vagina to become swollen and very sore.Or perhaps an irritation to the latex(if you're using rubber) or spermacide.
maybe stop ****ing like a rabbit for a couple of weeks and see if it gets better. | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 11:07:01 AM | | It is possible that you are anticipating the pain and are not as relaxed as you need to be. Also you might want to introduce a toy about the size of your BF into your foreplay. | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 11:20:06 AM | | No. Because I would never put myself thru something that hurts. Selfdestructive and just pure wrong. And I dont know any sane man that would be capable of doing that to his woman if he knows shes in pain. | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 11:30:53 AM | I had this problem for a long, long time. At first, I think it was because I was very inexperienced, but then I came to expect the pain so I think it became more of a mental issue for me. I would orgasm once, twice, numerous times before even attempting penetration, but still....it hurt bigtime at first.
I used to have to tell my partners to 'be gentle' at first, but now it's fine. I never did ask my doctor about it, but that was stupid on my part. I definitely would if that were the case now. | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 11:35:51 AM | It doesn't hurt the whole time, i enjoy sex once the initial pain stops. it is only for the first thrusts, then it is fine and comfortable. If we have sex let's say on a monday, if we do it again the same day, i don't have that pain again..let's say if we dont do it again until thursday..the pain is there at the beginning again. like today for instance, everything was fine, i was definitly in the mood, ready as can be..then " oww" burns like a mother trucker..but then it goes away
oh and by the way, i had we have had sex three times a day often, not everyday..lol.
I do want to go see a GYN but i am almost scared there is something wrong with me. he wants to come with me if i go to the doctor about it. | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 12:13:45 PM | i find missionary it more painful really. For me, on top isnt as bad, because i think it is i can control it..but it doesnt make since to me, because it will go deeper. He isnt forcefully entering either..he does it slow..and i can tell it bothers him that i have pain at first..but i cant help it
I cant post again because there isnt 1- posts yet..
No he is not pierced | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 2:20:44 PM | | No, nothing is wrong with you. My ex-husband was my first and I experienced the samething that you are experiencing with your boyfriend, until I had my first child. It's because you are a virgin and and your insides have not accustomed themselves to the size of his penis. | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 2:58:00 PM | This sounds very much like the pain when beginning anal, that initial fight to relax the muscles that are used to being tightly closed. I would say your muscles are tight at the beginning of sex and then you adjust to the shape of your man. I get very tight down there sometimes, usually if I'm really turned on. If you are naturally small down there and really turned on that might explain it.
You could try working up to it like people do for anal, like starting with tongues, then fingers and penetration last, this way the muscles adjust more slowly to the size of "thing" stretching them. | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:34:09 PM | Go to an ObGyn to get your answers. It could be any number of things, including STD's or infections. (especially since he has also had pain) These symptoms seem to suggest something along those lines:
then " oww" burns like a mother trucker..but then it goes away
You should go anyway, all ladies should after their first sexual experience; for vaccinations (gardisil? for HPV) and wellness check ups.
Also, you can check your symptoms on webmd dot com. | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:38:59 PM | I know it isnt an STD. I know that alot of people say that, but we were both checked and only had sex with each other, and with the time we spend with eachother..i know there is nobody else. I think alot of others may be right, it could just be that i am not accusomted yet, and that i need to relax and maybe see a GYN soon.
thanks everyone for your advice and your thoughts. | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:43:24 PM | No sexual history needed to have an infection, for you or him. But yes, go to a gyno to make sure. I hope you feel better soon :) The reason a lot of people seem to be saying that, is because that's what the symptoms sound like, sorry.
The alternate theory would also make sense, but only a physician would be able to tell how completely (or not) your hymen was ruptured, or if something else is interfering (cervix, relaxation, etc). | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:49:46 PM | Thanks everyone. Some people said they have experinced the same thing, so i am not as worried. I enjoy intimacy, and pain won't deter me  I never thought that maybe my hymen didn't break all the way, but it was a long time ago, and i never gave it a second thought. | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 4:23:53 PM | | I experienced pain in the top of my head from smacking it into the headboard, during penetration. Then I heard laughter, and felt convulsive wiggling underneath me. I'm not complaining. The remedy that worked for me was to wear my motorcycle helmet during sex. | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:22:15 PM | | Op, there shouldn't be any burning, get checked with your doc soon in case you have STD. If it hurts he could be too big for ya but soon you'll stretch out to fit. When I was younger I found bigger penises hurt if they rammed right in & hit the cervix specially if I'd only had average size ones for a while but now I stretch out to fit any size, it'll get better for ya. | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:28:30 PM | | Know there's nothing wrong it just may be some women especially since you waited so long to began having sex your hymen "cherry" may have grown thicker and harder for him to get through and some women are not as deep as others I would just suggest mentioning it if it continues to your gynecologist or just ride on top do all you can tolerate because if it's hurting it's definitely not pleasurable but it's not uncommon I was with the girl when I was in high school and I could hardly get in and when I did it was only maybe 5 inches just do what's comfortable I hope this helps | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:40:52 PM |
You need to have a baby, then it will rattle around like a car in a tunnel !
You need to have a baby, then it will rattle around like a car in a tunnel !
You need to have a baby, then it will rattle around like a car in a tunnel !
You need to have a baby, then it will rattle around like a car in a tunnel !
You need to have a baby, then it will rattle around like a car in a tunnel !
You need to have a baby, then it will rattle around like a car in a tunnel !
You need to have a baby, then it will rattle around like a car in a tunnel !
Obviously the ramblings of someone left behind at the Charlie Harper school of silly ass behavior!! | |
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| Experiencing pain during penetration..anyone else?
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:49:00 PM | | sounds like your vagina is spasming. It happens when you are not totally relaxed during penentration. I know, it use to happen to me. Even though the sex was awesome that initial penentration brought me to tears. You really do need to see a gyn, but try to relax. | |
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