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Posted: 6/20/2008 4:26:53 AM | Hi, new to the forum, wow I sure have learned a lot from your posts!
I had a lover that introduced me to anal and we had sex about once a week, both vaginally and anally for about a year. I found it very pleasurable. nuff said about that.
Here's the question. I know I'm going to probably get bashed, but I like to please my partner. I wanted this to be really nice for him. I was always concerned about poo in the colon. So two days before, I would eat very light, the day before I would eat only fruits and vegetables. A couple of hours before we'd meet, I would give myself a fleet enema, take a shower etc.
My new bf is local, and I am assuming we will be seeing each other more often. I really hated the enema thing. But from what I read here, as long as you "go" at least 6 hours before, there's notheing left in there. Is that correct?
Thanks!
Oh, and also, I am a little concerned about the size of my new bf. He is very big around. I haven't been with many people so I'm a little apprehansive about how much I will be able to stretch before I would tear something. Thanks- Jojo | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 5:22:04 AM | | Gawd... the lengths some women go to to please their man. Not eating for 2 days, enimas... lemme ask you something... What's HE doin for you? Nothing. He comes over, sticks his d i c k in your a s s and goes home. I don't understand what women get from the whole anal thing anyway. There is no prostate on a woman... it is painful and not pleasurable at all in my opinion. And your question about "as long as you go 6 hours before, there's nothing left in there" Not sure where you got that little piece of info but not true. I take at least 3 consecutive dumps every morning and a couple more throughout the day. Only eating fruits and vegitables will make it worse as they are high in fibre. Happy fudge packing! | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 5:37:11 AM | Yikes...a little bitter I see.
I didn't say I went without eating, come on now. I'm not a huge eater to begin with. I like being slender and active. I said I eat lighter , than fruits and veggies the day before, because they go through your system quickly. I didn't say I ate a bushel of them either... I do this to please me as well. Sorry you don't enjoy it. To each their own. I enjoy seeing someone enjoy themselves as well. You don't think he wouldn't go to any lengths to please me? He was incredible...ever had a 6 hour orgasm? I didn't think so. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 5:37:14 AM | | None of that is necessary unless his penis is 1 1/2 feet long. And a little "poo" wont kill him. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 5:38:40 AM | Thanks flamingo freek. That's what I needed to know.
Jojo | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 6:08:55 AM | So long as your diet is balanced and your bowel healthy your poo should be fairly firm so even if there is any contact with it it wont make too much mess, especially if there is lube involved. You cant guarantee going will leave you clear for x hours, your body doesnt work like that. Really I think if you like anal you need to be prepared for a few little surprises, not often really but just laugh it it, tough s*it as they say!
I think you will soon know if you can handle the size, start with smaller things before sex so you are relaxed down there, if you go to redtube and look up "huge" "anal" "co*k" you will be surprised what will fit up there with practice. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 8:24:38 AM | OP - you were going way overboard in your preparation for anal sex; there's no need to do all of that. I've had a lot of anal sex and none of my GFs ever did any prep, except for using the bathroom before playing. If you do that, you will be empty, as the lower area is NOT a storage place. A small enema can help if you want, and you know what - they can even be part of the fun with the right partner.  I've only had one or two instances of a little 'mess' - its no big deal. Basically, if you are playing in the sandbox, you have to accept a little sand sometime. 
If your BF is 'larger' then just take it easy and go slow. Start with fingers, then toys and do it over a number of days to get used to stretching more. He has to be patient and listen to you as you try AND be completely willing to BACK OFF if you tell him. Trust and communication (and lube ) are key. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 9:24:06 AM | Check out www.puckerup dot com
and anal advisor in the main menu | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 10:58:12 AM | enemas are actually kind of bad for you... especially if you do them often.
And completely unnecessary... as the person above said, it's way more prep than needed. This isn't a porno movie. Using the bathroom, washing throughly should be sufficient, but you are really freaked... get an anal douche bulb thing from an adult store. It washes just the lower part and doesn't go high into the colon... but again, it's really unnecessary. Washing and using your finger and wash just inside (wear a glove if you're grossed out about putting your finger in your a$$, although if you're having anal - you shouldn't be.) This should help relax you as well if it's close to the time of play. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 11:18:03 AM | I'm am really glad that I took a bite of my lunch as I read this post...I think if you intend to do anal play regularly, I agree with doing enemas on a regular basis may not be best for you. I can't see changing eating habits doing much of anything for you either.
I would avoid a heavy meal though prior to playing (if you know you are going to). Maybe save food for after sex. Having a nice bath prior to, should do the trick. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 11:24:26 AM | yeah... wear a condom... lots of lube and take your time...
there are other things to do than just anal... enjoy it all... | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 11:42:37 AM |
And a little "poo" wont kill him.
no it wont...and neither would rolling around in it, but i wouldn't do that either.
it's shit, feces, toxic anal waste....I don't understand some people's fascnination with their ***holes and what goes in and comes out of it. Bunch of ****in' primates. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 1:07:41 PM |
whatyourmammawarneduabout said:
Gawd... the lengths some women go to to please their man. Not eating for 2 days, enimas... lemme ask you something... What's HE doin for you? Nothing. He comes over, sticks his d i c k in your a s s and goes home. I don't understand what women get from the whole anal thing anyway. There is no prostate on a woman... it is painful and not pleasurable at all in my opinion. And your question about "as long as you go 6 hours before, there's nothing left in there" Not sure where you got that little piece of info but not true. I take at least 3 consecutive dumps every morning and a couple more throughout the day. Only eating fruits and vegitables will make it worse as they are high in fibre. Happy fudge packing!
i completly agree with you an everything you said,, PLUS anal is painful an non pleasureable...not to mention the s hit factor ewww.. but to each thier own!!
And a little "poo" wont kill him.
that anit right that's just nasty. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 1:25:49 PM | people do different things.... some people just make sure they have gone to the bathroom shortly before hand, then showered .... even sticking a soapy finger up there.
some women will do an enema(those little disposable ones) prior to all that just to make sure... I've heard that is common practice in the porn industry....
regarding tightness.... you need to go slow.... start with a lubed finger... then two... some people have several anal toys of various sizes they use to get used to accomodating larger ....
Whatever you do.. dont let him just ram it in there ... even with lube
good luck and have fun
DK | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 1:35:25 PM | JOJO...you've gotten plenty of good advice here already but I just want to aplaude you and a few of the other beautiful women here who are comfortable with themseleves and free thinking enough to try different things with a trusting partner. It amazes me some people are still close minded about things sexual...how could something be nasty between 2 clean trusting adults who both enjoy it?
To all your bashers...sit down. Let me join some of the other lucky guys who have women like you for a STANDING OVATION! | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 2:14:40 PM | | Anal sex is straight road for infections. Make sure don't do anal sex and vaginal sex at the same time. Don't do ass to mouth and if possible, use a condom!! Size of penis would not matter after a messy anal, vaginal or or penile infection! The fun stops here lol | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 9:05:15 PM | | jojo the most important thing is to never ever force things and use plenty of lubs. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2008 3:10:27 PM | K, a little local enema douche in the shower before "the" event won't hurt. About an hour or more before will clean you out well and also let your insides be a little more receptive. You really don't have to go a couple of days eating fruits and nuts. As for "Big" just have him be patient with you and relax into you. If it feels uncomfortable just ask him to "stand by" (don't have him pull out). Then ease yourself slowly onto him. Once you are comfortable and your anus relaxes (it's a muscle) you can start to experiment with length of stroke and how fast you want it. First time for him I would suggest you on top as you would have more control of the situation. That way you can push yourself down and then back up as you feel comfortable. After a while the initial feelings of discomfort goes away as the anus is lubricated from your natural juices (yes, the ass does have those). Then go at your own speed.
Someone mentioned http://www.puckerup.com with Tristan Taormino as a possible link. Go there and review some of her stories.
Oh, the above information also works with guys in regards to "girls with tools" doing ya in. Get over the Social Taboos if you think it's just a guy on girl thing to all you boys reading this post. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2008 3:17:15 PM | | If your concerned about size the most important thing is to practice. If hes too big, dont push it. You might want to invest in a butt plug roughly about the same size as him or a little bigger and practice until it dosnt hurt anymore. Lube is also very important, make sure you have plenty of lubrication. I would suggest while your at your local sex shop to ask some questions about the most reccomended lubrication to purchase for anal sex. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2008 3:40:18 PM | All these answers and we haven't established whether the new b/f even likes anal sex. What happens if he has Boricua Papi's attitude? What if he IS Boricua Papi ?  Lotsa guys think the act is perverted, filthy, degrading .... ALL completely true but when has that ever stopped most men? He may think it's "gay" too. If that's the case I'd seriously think about returning to the 1st b/f. If a guy can look at a woman's butt and think doing anything to / with that is "gay" he either needs thick glasses or overall he'll be about as much fun in bed as a case of crabs. | |
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