| .....is there such a thing as invisible ink that someone used to tattoo "EASY" on my forhead
Posted: 6/20/2008 4:58:42 AM | | I met a guy, and done the right thing, waited for a few weeks before having sex with him, then as soon as he got he went and met another girl from PoF and i never heard from him again...it appears all the guy i have met from internet sites or in public places are just after one thing.....is there such a thing as invisible ink that someone used to tattoo "EASY" on my forhead that only a guy can see???? help pls | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 5:15:23 AM | It's not ink.
Was waiting 'a few weeks' really the right thing? I'm guessing not because it sounds like you wanted a long term relationship and maybe he didn't. I'm not trying to chastize you or anything, but if all the dudes you meet on the internet or just being out and about don't really take the time to get to know you or just want you for sex, maybe you should present yourself in a different manner or slow down so you can really judge their intentions so you won't end up feeling used. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 6:48:40 AM | Use the appropriate bait for the fish you want. Photos in skimpy clothing are going to get you the kind of guy who wants a f*ck and ditch. If that's not what you want as well, then maybe it's time to change the photos. Waiting "a few weeks" because "it's the right thing" seems to be a problem as well. A few weeks is not exactly holding out is it? But the right thing is what feels like the right moment in the relationship, when you KNOW how he feels about you - whether that is one day or one year.
And they do make 'invisible' ink for tattoos that can be seen under blacklights. I doubt however, that someone could have tattooed you without you knowing... | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 6:50:05 AM | It doesn't matter how long you wait. All that matters is the man you're with.
Just because you made him wait, doesn't make him any less of a player.
This is why trying to play games with relationships will always lead to heartache. You can't just set time limits on things.
If you're going to make love to someone, make sure that your feelings for them are true... and that you know their feelings are just as genuine. Don't rush into it. Just take your time, and you'll know when the time is right.
If not, well, you'll just keep getting hurt until eventually you'll learn what to look for.
If all the men you're getting together with only want one thing... maybe you need to re-examine the type of guy you're going after. Have you considered that?
There are plenty of players out there. Men and women. And they can only play you if you let them.
And I agree with dosomething.
You seem to be doing the same thing so many people do. You put up a provocative or seductive picture... or some nice "boob shot"... and you're surprised that the men contacting you are only interested in sex.
Maybe if you put up pictures that didn't advertise, you'd run into less of those?
If someone's going to put up sexy pictures... then naturally 99% of the people contacting are going to want sex. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 6:58:43 AM |
waited for a few weeks before having sex with him, then as soon as he got he went and met another girl from PoF and i never heard from him again...it appears all the guy i have met from internet sites or in public places are just after one thing.
Well, a "few weeks" is probably too soon to be jumping into a sexual relationship then. One of my friends has a 3 month rule. She weeds out a lot of players that way.
Seriously, learn a little self-control. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 7:56:48 AM |
And they do make 'invisible' ink for tattoos that can be seen under blacklights.
REALLY!!! Oh damn. Gotta go, I'm hitting the nearest tattoo shop. What do you think ... should I get a nice little butterfly in the small of my back or maybe just above my crotch I should put "If you can see this, you are f'ed"? | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 8:09:47 AM |
And they do make 'invisible' ink for tattoos that can be seen under blacklights. I doubt however, that someone could have tattooed you without you knowing...
God I remember going on a date with a woman who had one of those tattoos.
It was across her back and shoulders... and said "Sperm Bank".
Add to her outfit and general personality in person (which was quite different than online)... I was so out of there. LOL! | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 8:51:52 AM |
Use the appropriate bait for the fish you want. Photos in skimpy clothing are going to get you the kind of guy who wants a f*ck and ditch.
Agreed, it's nice to see someone point that out. It also gives the impression, abeit perhaps inadvertantly, that the "f*ck and ditch" is all the girl is really after anyway. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 8:55:32 AM | I wouldn't consider "a few weeks" to be "EASY".
Especially if she plausibly looks like she's "asking for it".
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Posted: 6/20/2008 9:20:02 AM |
Well, a "few weeks" is probably too soon to be jumping into a sexual relationship then. One of my friends has a 3 month rule. She weeds out a lot of players that way.
Seriously, learn a little self-control.
well if there was chemistry and you made me wait for 3 months you probably would be waiting by yourself ....me would be thinking you didnt want to progress any farther ...a little seceret here ..the invisible ink is there.... and it says this woman is baiting me with sex ...any man can see it ...the keepers have it to but it says this woman cant keep her hands off me... no mater what she thinks im after....change the message your sending and it wont matter when you give it up | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 10:25:48 AM | It isn't invisible ink. It is your attitude, the way you dress, your body language, how you interact with people, etc that are dooming you. I said this in another post but it needs to be said again, what you put out there you will get back. You have control of what you attract and it sounds like you don't know what signals you are putting out there and as a result you don't know what kind of guys you are attracting.
You need to figure that out. Ask friends, ask others but you need to figure that out and make changes or you will just continue to attract the same crap you have been attracting. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 3:10:05 PM | | well thank you for your replies, but i dont believe that i act like a slut or whore, i have a very bubbly personality and can talk to people easily, yes i get alot of remarks like nice tits, but those are easily dealt with using the delete button. i simply asked a question, i didnt expect to be judged | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 3:31:03 PM |
i simply asked a question, i didnt expect to be judged
But that IS what happens here. That DOES come with the territory when you start a thread. They'll rip your profile to bits, read between the lines, make assumptions and judge you...simply cause you started a thread. When you open yourself up to asking a question in a public forum, you have to be able to take the lumps...sorry. :( Just ignore all the crap and remain focused on what YOU asked.
All I can offer is that you need a better picker. These are hard times for men and women seeking a relationship. The waters are so muddier than ever...so really, the best you can do is to do what is right for you, and for the right reasons. Communicate how you feel and what you expect in a direct manner. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want.
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Amen, UniqueMan! | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 3:34:03 PM | If not the vibe you give off OP, then look at what drew you to these guys in the 1st place. Since YOU are selecting the wrong guys for what you say you want.
Some guys just want to play, some want a relationship but will play in the right situation, and some are interested in only a relationship...... So why is it you are attracted exclusively to the ones that just want to play? | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 3:42:41 PM |
But that IS what happens here. That DOES come with the territory when you start a thread. They'll rip your profile to bits, read between the lines, make assumptions and judge you...simply cause you started a thread. When you open yourself up to asking a question in a public forum, you have to be able to take the lumps... Really? I never noticed... 
OP... it's not that you have invisible ink, you are making poor choices in whom you are socializing with - to resolve this, get to know the person more as a friend.
Personally, I wouldn't date someone I didn't truly admire in the form of friendship first... | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 3:47:07 PM | | I would have to agree with, Psst's advice.....it's all about choice..... | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 7:03:11 PM | | Honestly, I am not interested in being in the Friend Zone. The person I want to be with will be someone who's got a good mind and can keep up with me. She will be sweet and funny... someone I can built a strong emotional bond with... and she will be someone who I find physically attractive and who enjoys sex as much as I do. A woman who would wait 3 months probably doesn't enjoy sex as much as I do, so... bye. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 10:38:51 PM | | Don't have sex with someone unless you are prepared to enjoy it for the sex. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 12:11:15 AM |
I met a guy, and done the right thing, waited for a few weeks before having sex with him, then as soon as he got he went and met another girl from PoF and i never heard from him again..
Why do so many people assume that guys leave after they get sex because of some Master Plan ?
“ As soon as i get laid, i am outta here !” IF “guys are just after one thing” then why would
they leave they get it just once ?
OP, no insult intended , but:
1) Could it be that the two of you were not sexually compatible ?
2) Might the fact that you had sex and the fact that he left be a coincidence ?
You assume there is a connection, so any time any guy leaves you after you
have sex it reinforces the connection in your mind. Are two people linked
for life after sex ?
( We slept together and he left me ! Sure i ran over his dog, started wearing
a leather wedding dress 24/7, stopped showering, and revealed my
secret fascination with David Hasslehoff, but it HAD to be the fact that we had sex !
Those other things couldn’t possibly had anything to do with him leaving !)
.it appears all the guy i have met from internet sites or in public places are just after one thing...
All that your statements reveals is that they are NOT after one thing: YOU.
As to why that is the case, who knows ? Why do you pick the same type of guy over and over ?
What is is about the guys you pick that leads to this kind of behavior ?
Why not pick a different kind of guy next time around ? It couldn't turn out
worse that what has happened in your past, yes ? | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 10:55:25 AM |
A woman who would wait 3 months probably doesn't enjoy sex as much as I do, so... bye.
I just love how naive some of you are.
It might be she enjoys sex so much that she doesn't want to have sex with just anybody...
You don't see Wine lovers down at the Liquour store knocking back bottles of cheap Red plonk because it's available now do you? No, they look for something they can savour and remember...
I've known women who've waited a lot longer than 3 months who were just fabulous in bed. I've been in bed with women after only 24 hours of knowing them, and quite frankly, they were bloody awful. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 2:00:57 PM | | i have come to the conclusion that guys just say what i want to hear to get me into bed, so it doesnt matter which guy i choose, they are all game players and users, if you can point out a nice guy who wont say what i want to hear for the purpose of sex, then i would be interested....until then i feel all guys are the same.....only takes a few to make it bad for all | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 2:08:00 PM |
only takes a few to make it bad for all You're under the impression that this is going to affect men? 
Wrong... the only person such an attitude will affect, is you. The men will move on and find someone who isn't bitter and jaded and be blissfully unaware of you...
Such is life... | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 2:09:48 PM |
until then i feel all guys are the same.....only takes a few to make it bad for all
That is stinkin' thinkin' lady. But until you expect and only accept men who want something more then maybe taking yourself out is a good thing. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 2:16:55 PM | I am after only one thing.
It isn't sex, 'course...that's just a part of the package. A very pleasant part, but just part.
I think you are not finding the right person, just the right nowperson.
I hope you take your time and really get to know the next man before deciding you want to share your body with him.
Good luck,
Annudder | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 4:49:49 PM | This is a familiar story. And this is the TRUE story about the vast majority of these dates.
1/ When he first asks her out she knocks him back because the girlfriends (who have hopeless love lives thenselves) have told her "don't say yes the first time or he wont respect you. But she does more than knock him back, She's downright rude about it.
2/ If he asks again she accepts but then spends the entire date grizzling at him About his state of dress, about his car, about his income etc.
3/ The third date involves meeting her girlfriends, or her parents and once again hes subjected to this tirade of grizzling
4/ By the forth date he's had enough. He tells her he's breaking up with her and she rips her clothes off and hauls him into the bed in order to keeep him
Fact is it doen'st work. He's made up his mind, BEFORE that fourth date that you arent the girl for him. So he's not going to turn down the sudden offer of sex. But he's not going to call back either. | |
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