| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 5:39:47 AM | | I seemed to make a connection with a nurse that was caring for a family member at the hospital recently but I never really found the right time to ask for her number or ask her out before discharge. I've been thinking about going back and saying we forgot something in hopes of running into her but that's really a crap shoot because I don't know her schedule. Any suggestions ??? | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 6:23:30 AM | | Call the hospital, ask for her hours or ask to speak with her. Tell her who you are (if she will remember you) Tell her that you are thrilled that *insert family member and name* is better but you really miss getting to see/talk/spend time with her (word according to contact you've made with her) | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 6:24:42 AM | Guys and nurses! I'm merely a care aide, yet an almost 92 year old man has taken a bit of a liking to me. Why? Because I genuinely care for him.
Is it because the nurse is nurturing in her ways that attracts you? Firstly you need to find out if she is 'available' and secondly you need analyse her connection to you. Did she give off any signals that she was interested in you or was she merely doing her job with your relative? | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 6:58:42 AM | I was very attracted to a patient of mine years ago. I waited until the day of discharge and walked him out of the hospital. Outside, I gave him my phone number and asked him to call if he wanted to get together. We were married 7 months later.
Go to the hospital with your business card or your phone number on a piece of paper, and tell her you would like to speak with her, in private, for a moment. Tell her you would enjoy getting to know her and if she feels the same, to please give you a call and give her your number. That way it's in her hands and she doesn't feel pressured. Good luck! | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 8:00:54 AM |
I'm merely a care aide, yet an almost 92 year old man has taken a bit of a liking to me.
I can hardly wait to be that old guy in the nursing home that all the nurses are afraid to go give a sponge bath too! | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 8:43:06 AM |
Call the hospital, ask for her hours or ask to speak with her.
Go to the hospital with your business card or your phone number on a piece of paper, and tell her you would like to speak with her, in private, for a moment. I don't think they'd give me her hours if I just called and asked, which makes going to see her difficult unless I go around shift change time, which might increase my chances of seeing her. Would it better to take my chances going around shift change or to call and ask to speak with her? | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 10:39:12 AM | I'd be curious what this connection was! Many men read things that just
arn't there! Myself included! If she was a kind caring person, she's
probably friendly too! This would be in stark contrast to many women
in public who have their shields up!
I wouldn't bother! Just learn from it, and learn to approach and get a
phone number right away! (Still doesn't mean they are interested, by
the way! lol) | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 11:11:57 AM |
Would it better to take my chances going around shift change or to call and ask to speak with her?
Personally...Even though it's not the same as going to see her in person. I'd call and ask to talk to her. If you are lucky, she won't be there, and you can ask them when she works next. The nurse will probably tell you that. Than you can go in when you know she's going to be there. If not you can talk to her on the phone. Either way 
Good luck | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 11:30:54 AM | I am a nurse... I have been asked out by men who thought that there was some kind of "connection" when in reality I am just being who I am and doing my job...
Not trying to make you doubt this connection you speak of.. maybe there really was... all I am saying is that there is a possibility (as I am sure you know) that there wasn't...
No harm in going back to say you forgot something or to offer up your business card... just read the signs.. they're always there.. beyond whatever it is you may want to see ;) | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 11:40:39 AM | You had a really strong connection but you didn't pay attention to what time it was when she was around?
What are you considering shift change? Are you aware of the hospitals time and shifts? I know at our hospital - many nurses work odd hours, long shifts and all over the hospital depending on where they are needed.
The rest of my message pertains to how my hospital operates and I'm going to assume it is the same for most.
No, it is against most all hospitals policies to give out any personal information about employees.. to the point of not even acknowledging if they work there. If you know them, you already know when they work and when they are at home. This is to protect the employees from angry and stalkerish customers (patients, family of patients). Not that you are in either group.. but you can see why such a policy would exist. It is common for people to misinterpret the kindness, caring and concern for genuine personal/sexual interest.
If you do just show up, where do you plan on hanging out in hopes of meeting her? Waiting on the floor will cause concern among the other employees which could and should garner a call to Hospital security, waiting in the parking lot will just seem weird and waiting all day in the hospital cafeteria ( may net you zero results. Although, all will be considered sweet and romantic if and only if she reciprocates your interest, otherwise not so much.
They usually check the rooms and double check that everything is taken care of when a patient leaves. Most will call if something really is left behind. That's a pretty obvious ploy but again, if the interest is reciprocated it will ok.
You can try to call but most hospitals won't direct you to a nurses station, only a patient room if and only if a particular patient has signed a waiver saying it is ok to say they are in the hospital and are taking calls. Asking for a particular floors nursing station will get you transferred to HR.
You can always try. | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 11:51:05 AM |
How to approach a nurse after discharge
What kind of discharge was it? Runny or oozing? Was it greenish? Did this nurse treat your discharge? If so, I would think she wouldn't want to see you again, ick. | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 12:00:05 PM | I have worked in a hospitial and some of the nurses did go out with paitience .....
one guy sent flowers and his number and when she called to thank him he asked her out
one guy came by and left a gift and his card and when she recieved them she called
and if you feel a connection it is worth checking out.
I have worked as a teck not a nurse but people appreciate the caring and it can be missunderstood.....often I was just busy being there and present for all that I needed to be to really pay attention to anything else but I might have responded to some one if I noticed them fondly.....mostly it was guys who would sell them selves and that is uncomfortable start for me . mostly I tried to remain professional and mostly I was | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 12:04:40 PM |
I have worked in a hospitial and some of the nurses did go out with paitience .....
Well I would hope that most women go out with patience as guys are idiots and they take a lot of patience to deal with ... oh wait, you meant PATIENTS!
I have worked as a teck
I thought Teck was a town in germany ... you worked there? WOW | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 12:11:52 PM | I would take a totally different approach. I would send her a bouquet under the guise of thanking her for the compassionate care she gave to your relative.
Since you know what department she was working in and when... You can go to the florist and hand write a note to be attached with flowers sent to her. Include your phone number in the note, I am sure she will call you and thank you for the flowers. This will give you an "in" to expand on the conversation outside of the situation that involves a patient. Try not to be perverted and creepy when she responds.
You do need to remember that nurses are just doing their job. People often mistake the caring that they have to put into their job for other things. Compassion is part of the job description for a good nurse. | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 7:17:13 PM | If you can't get her interested before your discharge.. not much hope.
Discharges can prove to be the end of it..
HEh... discharges... | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 7:28:45 PM |
Call the hospital, ask for her hours or ask to speak with her
the hosp. won`t give out any staff members home fone #`s or addresses.. its all confidential.. | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 8:41:17 PM | I'm going to be honest with you about how this might play out.
You can do your best to get in touch without it seemimg like you are stalking her but don't have any expectations.
And not necessarily because she's not interested.
There are some very specific rules about dating or having a relationship (even a friendship) with a patient, and sometimes by those limits could extend to the patients' family.
Here in Ontario, for example, the College of Nurses is very explicit about this.
The dynamics involved in providing care for someone and how that person and their family respond to you can get tricky. In order to avoid any confusion or to ensure that someone is not taken advantage of, as there is a lot of emotion involved with illness and recover that can be misunderstood, rules like this keep everything above board.
When it's the patient who is expressing interest in you it's straightforward - NO , but you won't know how the nurse you have met interprets all of the above unless you ask.
Good luck ( and with lots of modesty and a little bias .... nurse ARE wonderful!!)  | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 8:47:53 PM | I would be very surprised if she agreed to go out with you ..........As nurses we are strongly discouraged from having any kind of romantic relationship with a patient or a family member, it is not considered professional. It could also lead to some potential problems at the hospital where your family member was treated because of the privacy and Hippa regulations governing patient confidentiality. Personally, I would never consider dating any of my patients or their family members, it violates the nurse/patient relationship and can create many problems if the relationship turns sour................
JMO........... | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 9:56:41 PM | if there was such a connection why didn't SHE do anything about it?
I like the thought about running into her but (hey it's how I read), but really, you have to be careful in trying to locate a woman as she might get creeped out - women find all sorts of reasons preventing romance - don't ask me why! | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 10:40:07 PM | Ummmm Discharge.......hmmmm erectile discharge......how to approach a nurse after an erectile discharge.....Walk up to her tell her to get on her knees, close her eyes, and open her mouth and stick her tongue out......She'll definately talk to you then 
Wait that might have been a porn | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/20/2008 11:30:46 PM |
the hosp. won`t give out any staff members home fone #`s or addresses.. its all confidential..
Obviously. I think what that poster, as well as I, was thinking is something like at my hospital. You can call and be directed to the nurses station on any given floor. You can than ask to speak to a specific nurse. I've had to do this on mulitple occassions (over the years) to get a hold of my mom. I didn't have to give specifics of who or why I was calling though, so it could work for the OP as well (if that hospital is similar).
The suggestion of sending flowers was even better though, IMO. | |
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