| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/20/2008 5:44:12 PM | To all men, when you see a woman that you would like to get to know, how do you approch her? And how does she need to be to attract your attention?
Can you tell me when it happened in your experience? Where did you meet a woman you liked to talk to? How do you court a woman? | |
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/20/2008 6:30:29 PM | ^Pray that aliens kidnap you both and force you to spend some time together to get to know one another.
You can't just pick a girl out of the crowd and approach her in an everyday setting. There's no way to know how she'll take it. If you see her at the same bus stop, day in , day out, then sooner or later you two might start talking. Or maybe circumstance throws you a bone and gives you both something to discuss. Otherwise, the prudent man (and woman for that matter) doesn't do much of anything over the sight of any particular member of the opposite sex. Well, certainly nothing beyond trying to find a reason to strike up a conversation. If you've got nothing to talk about then you've got nothing to talk about. I suppose you could light your hair on fire but...well, you get the idea.
Depends where you are of course and it depends on the situation. If you can instantly see something that you could both discuss and you need a reason to engage her in conversation then there you go. You're trying not to "scare" her away though so you have to be pretty conscious of your surroundings. It's just the way we are that we would prefer to keep to ourselvse rather than risk making a scene or putting a total stranger we're interested in on the spot.
Edit : Sorry, the poster above me wrote his at the same time I was writing my post. What he says is true too. I was basing my comments on the assumption that no eye contact had been made though. | |
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/20/2008 6:55:07 PM | Depends on the woman, I guess.
If I see some interest coming from her, and I'm interested in her, then I'll go over and say hello and introduce myself. Hopefully, it will be with something appropriate and charming.  Eye contact can tell you a lot about how a woman feels about you, and is seldom wrong.
That's something that used to scare the hell out of me not so long ago, but after my divorce it just vanished after I spent a lot of time dating for the first time in my life. Getting "shot down" by a stranger is really nothing, since they know nothing about you anyway. | |
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/20/2008 7:00:15 PM | | I dance around like a monkey and swing from the nearest tree, if a tree isn't available I just do cartwheels while singing Guns N Roses "I used to love her, but I had to kill her". As for her, she just needs to have a pulse ... oh, and a sense of humor. I know I'll find my match when she starts dancing like a monkey also! | |
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/20/2008 9:22:38 PM | I casually stroll up to her, look her in the eye, and simply state, "Ummmm, he he he, ah, ah, mmmmm, errrrrrr, ah like yeah, ahhhh he he he, ahem, so, do you have the time? ah ok, thanks, bye. "
For some reason, it doesn't work. Women are so picky these days  | |
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/20/2008 9:45:52 PM | I look at her. I say to myself, "Wow! She's cute. Why ask her out, she'll just say no." Then I go about my business. Maybe that's why I'm still single huh??  | |
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/20/2008 9:48:12 PM | Usually it involves trying a one-liner and seeing if there is any response. I suppose if there was an ulterior motive, then there would be disappointment at a rebuff. Yet, since there is some hope of a longer-term connection, it doesn't seem to me that there should be much disappointment, when things don't click.
For me most of the substantive people I have dated have been referrals through mutual acquaintances, or group get-togethers. For me simple questions like whether their work or family situations are busy and when do they have some down-time and what it would involve. Usually, the style of their answer is the biggest indication whether there would be a mutual interest.
You asked for specifics. When I was a summer intern in Munich a while back, there was a gathering place for evening socials for the interns. I sat next to a couple of gentleman and talked, but I noticed a lady that seemed very interesting to me. After what I deemed an appropriate amount of time, I waltzed over to the person sitting next to her, whom I knew and asked how he was doing. He had been talking to the person on the other side of him, so I asked him if he had made her acquaintance yet, such that she could hear. He hadn't so the three of us started a conversation. In the end, I the American, he the Belgian, and she the Deutsche ended up doing quite a few things together. She eventually went out to a play together, met at cafes and I finally visited her at her parents house and then her apartment a few years later. It was always great conversation about each other's world that drew us together. Platonic though folks. Still, I dreamed about things we did together for years afterwards. | |
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/20/2008 9:51:51 PM | | I beat my fist against my chest like a gorilla, then let out a scream like Tarzan. This usually gets their attention. I have only had the Police called on me twice. I am still single, I’m thinking about changing my tactic. | |
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/23/2008 6:28:47 AM | Eye contact for sure Jane...you lock eyes across a room or wherever, your belly tightens and you hold the eye contct just long enough to let you both know there is something there...then perhaps go ask one of the girls she is there with if she is single etc etc...or, if she doesnt look too 'unapproachable' walk staright up to her and go from there....does that help at all?
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/23/2008 6:50:06 AM | I'm old school and I mean REALLY old.
First my brows become furrowed and my nose widens another inch or two.
I grow hair all over my body instantly and suddenly there's a club in my hand.
I waddle over to the unsuspecting woman that has captured my attention and I give
her a sharp wrap on the back of the noggin. Then I grab her hair and drag her off
to my cave. | |
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:26:05 AM | There have been a couple of times when I was standing right next to a woman I wanted to get to know, what did I do? Stupid me couldn't open my mouth to say something...anything just to break the ice.
But then there are other times when I've summoned the courage and opened my mouth, sometimes been blown off, sometimes they make a casual remark about having a boyfriend or husband, but sometimes the conversation gets going and eventually the answer was 'yes' to 'can I call you sometime?'
Doesn't matter what you say, you just have to get those first words out.
Where do you meet a woman? The pool of candidates is very much diminished where I am at the moment, but if I was still home in Australia they're everywhere, the cafe, the supermarket, the bus stop, they're even right here on POF.
It's not over once the ice is broken either, you have to get through the first couple of dates without getting the 'no chemistry' email. You get past that and the relationship develops, at least that's how I've always done it. | |
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:29:45 AM | I use to always use the friendly approach, find something in common or when first saying good morning ask them how their weekend went and start a conversation from there. If you can find an interest of theirs, start commenting on it and keep a conversation going, usually helps to have a sense of humour.
Then I would proceed by being friends, giving advice and letting them get to know you. This way atleast they get a sense of what you are really like before asking them out on a date. It is a longer slow process but might work out in the end for you, it did for me :) | |
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:31:56 AM | I look at her, eye her up and think to my self..."wow she is pretty hott"
then I just walk away .....
35, single, no kids, and never married.....
whoo hooo....ITS WORKING!!!!!...
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:44:25 AM | I hand her a copy of the Sexual Harassment Consent Form (http://laughnet.net/sexual-harassment-consent-form-p-413.html) with my name filled in on the line down near the bottom and ask her to get it back to me signed and notarized. After that, it depends on which boxes she's checked as to how I proceed from there.
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/23/2008 8:24:01 AM | | In all honestly, I never say anything at all. There's a girl here at work who I've known for 7 years and we started talking on yahoo messenger and I finally told her that I liked her. But she's been with someone in the long term now, so that's how it goes. If anything I just try to be their friend, because of past experience if you try anything more they think I am trying to get in their pants. So my experience has been to just float along and exist, and hope some woman has the guts to approach me first. | |
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| When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/27/2008 4:51:57 PM | | Does it mean that that many men would expect the woman to approch them? What do you think if a woman is friendly with you and talks to you in places like at work/at school/in a pub or local/anywhere else? | |
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