| "Looking For Attractive"... What Does "Attractive" Mean To You?
Posted: 6/20/2008 10:08:32 PM | Hi Guys,
I have taken the time to read many profiles on this site. Basically trying to find out what guys are into or looking for... etc.
The top main thing I see men asking for is an "attractive" woman.
Now, I think I am somewhat pretty. I take care of myself the best I can. BUT... Being aware of what the magazines say is "attractive" has made me leary about making first contact with men when I read "Looking for an attractive woman". I often wonder if they have an ideal look they are going for.... or something else.
So... I am here asking for a man's (or woman's) view point....
What exactly does "Attractive" mean to you? | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/20/2008 10:18:13 PM | | It's gonna vary from person to person, I know I don't have any one set "profile" that I look for, but saying you're looking for an attractive person is kind of a moot point since you wouldn't date someone you didn't find attractive in the first place. | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/20/2008 10:27:20 PM |
saying you're looking for an attractive person is kind of a moot point since you wouldn't date someone you didn't find attractive in the first place.
I agree! We all date people we, personally, find attractive. What *I* find attractive, the next person may see as horribly ugly. One man may find a woman beautiful and the other man may see her as not worth touching with a ten foot pole.
It reminds me of the Planters commercial where that girl with the unibrow has men all over her.
I just read it on so many men's profiles, I was wondering if there was a set "rulse" of attraction or something. | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/21/2008 12:21:50 AM | A lot of people write directly to the questions they read in the instructions.
Therefore they read "describe what you are looking for in a potential partner/date/mate/etc.." they then list what they want to say in their head, and that in turn is transferred directly into what they type.
You can generally tell the difference between someone that has simply formulated a personal ad in their head and ejaculated it onto their profile and those (who have probably been around longer) that have edited, corrected, and actually took the time to write something that is meant for the reader rather than the writer. One just throws any ol' thing out there and sits back in hopes of a response, the other is actually making an attempt to show who they are.
In the latter instance it would be best to ask the person what their standards or idea of attraction is as it will vary within the spectrum of looks and personality and their answer will give you a better idea of who they are as a person. Each person will have their own ideas of attraction. You will only understand the connotations of the words they choose when you have a conversation with them about it. Otherwise it is simply your interpretation of their subjective views and determinant on how they express them self. | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/21/2008 12:37:55 AM |
The top main thing I see men asking for is an "attractive" woman.
It may be the "top main thing" , but it is just one of the stupid things we write in our profiles.
The list is long. I'll wager it means nothing except that most do not have a clue what to say
on those damn questionnaires. (" I like to have fun with fun people doing fun things! I want to
find a fun person to do fun things with! Doesn't that sound like fun to you ?") | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/21/2008 1:13:58 AM | | i'm pretty sure when a guy puts that he is looking for an "attractive" woman, he means a woman that just about everyone finds attractive. either way, it is a pretty redundant comment because i doubt people are looking to date people they aren't attracted to in the first place. | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/21/2008 6:16:10 AM |
i'm pretty sure when a guy puts that he is looking for an "attractive" woman, he means a woman that just about everyone finds attractive.
Okay.... so what is it that "just about everyone finds attractive"?
I am not asking if people don't date what they are not attracted to. I am just wondering why so many men add it without pointing out what THEY find attractive so that women know they will be wasting each others time contacting them. | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/21/2008 6:43:08 AM | There's no easy way to explain it. Some women might not be what you'd see in the magazines or on TV, but can still light up a room when they walk in. I think that's attractive. Another woman might be plain or something but has a personality that draws you in until all the plain things become, uh, not plain.
I am just wondering why so many men add it without pointing out what THEY find attractive so that women know they will be wasting each others time contacting them.
The same reason why so many women add that they're looking for someone attractive. It's something to put in your profile to fill up space. Also someone who's not confident might go 'oh no I'm not attractive I give up!', so it weeds them out. | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/21/2008 10:56:13 AM | There is no standard definition for what is attractive. If you asked me, I'd say:
Tall
Red hair or brunette
Thick to slender
Smart
Saved
Conservative
Artistic
Classy
Blue or green eyes
You get the idea. Ask the next guy and it'd be a totally different list. | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/23/2008 5:45:33 AM | | I would be very wary of any guy (or girl for that matter) who said they were looking for an 'attractive' partner. It sounds to me as if how they look is all thats important. Profiles etc are all important on this site as its all we have to go on when we first 'see' someone. I for one will pass anyones profile up if they list anywhere in thier interests in a partner 'money' anything relating to looks as I think it sounds a warning bell....but its only MO...after all I have said and for what its worth, I find red hair and pale skin MASSIVELY ATTRACTIVE (LOL) shame you live so far away... | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/23/2008 6:15:23 AM | If you're honest with yourself, you know whether you're 'attractive' or not to the majority of men. I think all women do really.
Everyone wants something different, but if someone writes in their profile that they want someone 'attractive', you can probably safely say that's going to be pretty close to what will appeal to the majority.
If you think someone's shallow, just write to someone else. | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:39:52 AM |
If you're honest with yourself, you know whether you're 'attractive' or not to the majority of men. I think all women do really.
Ahhh hell.... men keep surprizing me. I know what is attractive to other women and what magazines and tv shows. But men... once ya think you are not attractive enough for them.... they are all over ya.
It's a constant guessing game. | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/23/2008 8:03:59 AM |
you know whether you're 'attractive' or not to the majority of men. I think all women do really.
I agree entirely. I used to run a small, free website which allowed women to input their age, height, weight, and measurements, and have the calculation done which would tell them where they are on the 1-10 bodily beauty scale, using what we know from evolutionary science.
I was also curious to test the common claim made by the OP and feminists that TV and magazines are constantly trashing women's self-esteem by holding up an impossible image of female beauty, so I had them input where they thought they were on the scale -- before they saw the calculated result.
Long story short... on average, women over-estimate slightly where they are (1/2 - 1 point), and it's more or less independent of their age. In other words, by the time they're entering high school they pretty much know where they are relative to the really hot girls and the all-out uglies. Lots of women were pretty much dead on, suggesting social interactions allow them to calibrate themselves quite well.
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Posted: 6/23/2008 8:10:47 AM | Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It's different for everyone. I may find someone attractive but they may not be attractive to others. It's all perspective. Plus there are some very "beautiful" looking girls, but the personality can totally shatter my opinion of them.
Attractive physically, it's the initial "look"
Attraction in the long run, it's the total package.
There is someone for everyone but not everyone is for someone.  | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:04:27 AM | I think it's a pretty meaningless cliche word. Both men and women often say they want it, and they often say they have it, but it's not really clear what it means. It probably depends on how attractive they say think they are themselves.
In any case, who cares? If you want to contact someone, just do it. If they don't think you're attractive enough, they'll either not respond of tell you they're not interested. | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:43:58 AM | But men... once ya think you are not attractive enough for them.... they are all over ya.
What type of 'attractive'? Some people (men AND women) will have a one night stand w/ somebody they wouldn't date long term.
Basically, the closer you get to your own level of attractiveness in those you seek to date, the higher the possiblility that you will find somebody truely attracted to you. Sure, there is always the possiblility of pulling a hottie from 'out of your league' for a little fun, but that probably won't last too long unless there is a mitigating factor like money or age.
Like the poster above said, most women know exactly where they are on the physical attractiveness scale.
Online dating is weird for women.....don't think that you will automatically find a hot young hunk that treats you well just because there are alot of them willing to talk/sleep with you. | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:39:41 PM |
What exactly does "Attractive" mean to you?
Well, I have nothing against a pretty face, but I'd like it to be coupled with a nice butt and a generous bustline, thanks. Keira Knightley has lovely face, but like too many movie-star types, she's a stick.
Mind you, I'd not kick her out for eating crackers in bed, but she'd not be my first choice either... | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:05:28 PM | | my son is tall 6'3 and his girl is tall and he hates it he sais its like dating a man diffrent hey he likes girls smaller than him and not so tall and dark hair spanish look who is to tell what is attractive? | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:41:00 PM | When a man finds a woman attractive that means he would have sex with her. Some people will have sex with someone they do not find attractive but that is different subject.
Attractive to me means I look into her face and I like what I see looking back at me. It also means when she has a nice booty. Of course it also includes their personality, behavior etc. For example: I know this one girl, physically she's very much my type. A pretty brunette with blue eyes and a nice body. But she is a loud, obnoxious, dumb, drunken lush. And she is a ****. And a slut. She's just a big mess.
I think she is a good looking woman, but I don't want to **** her at all. | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/24/2008 12:13:46 AM | Attractive question, yippie a easy one. What one views as attractive is in the "eyes of the beholder" What may be a 10 to me could be a 4 to my best friend and visa versa.
And btw pay no attention to mags and media they only lye to us to tell us what is beautiful. I mean I don't know how any woman would find the guy off of some of these heavy metal groups attractive nor how any guy would find Amy Winehouse attractive but I'm sure there are.
Best of luck to everyone  | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/24/2008 12:22:22 AM | Unlike those critters on a dairy farm more like those critters on a ovine ranch.
Unlike Ma Kent and more like Lois Lane.
Unlike Ethel and more like Lucy.
Less like Ugly Betty and more like Old Christine
Unlike American Gladiator's Helga and more like Venom. | |
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| Looking For Attractive... What Does Attractive Mean To You?
Posted: 6/24/2008 8:54:52 AM | This is all so very facinating! The different answers and takes on what is attractive or not.
A guy friend and I were discussing this a while back as well. Here is an example of what some find atrtactive and others not....
*I* find Sarah Jessica Parker to bestunningly beautiful. She isn't the "typical" beautiful, but she has that little bit of zing... imperfect beauty. (I see myself on this level of attractiveness... not typical, but still something that just... zings) My guy friend finds Sarah Jessica Parker to be very ugly... not even on the attractive measuring stick.
That blows my mind!
*I* find well built men attractive (this doesn't mean I don't find other men attractive, it's just an example). Most women hate too many muscles. I was more attracted to Marlon Brando after he broke his nose. Some people find it too imperfect to see as attractive.
I am just very intrigued by the direction this thread has taken. LOL! | |
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