| | repeated attempts to remove someone from favoritesPage 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | I have tried over and over again to remove this guy from my favorites. I "cleaned house" not too long ago and remove eveyone I wanted. I don't want to block him neccessarily because we do message from time to time, but I don't want him on my favorites list anymore. Every time I remove him, he's back the next time I log in...? He's the only one that has done this and I thought only we had control over who was on our list. Once I remove him..that should be it, right? | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 9:20:36 PM | I had someone doing this to me over and over again. Do you really want to know how I solved the problem?? I wrote him a nice testimonial on his profile. He never added himself again. He can't write one about you unless you have added him to your favorites which I hardly doubt you have. It is a pain that sometimes you have to do things like that but some people just need the crap back. It is the only thing that will stop them. Stand up to them or you can ignore him. I ignored it for a while but I couldn't stand his stalkerish butt ugly picture everyday.
As for part of your question
No once you delete him that doesn't mean he can't add himself again. He can. I think lol pretty sure. He could on mine lol
Good luck with the schmuck | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 9:25:33 PM | I wrote him a nice testimonial on his profile. He never added himself again.
Yup, that should get him to remove you rather quickly. You could just write a Testimonial how he is an obsessive 'Fav Adder' and tell other People to do the same if he incessantly adds them too.
That Favourite Addition should disappear in a Jiffy ...
I don't want to block him neccessarily because we do message from time to time, but I don't want him on my favorites list anymore.
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Posted: 6/21/2008 9:27:51 PM |
Nope you cannot control who adds you - you can however, stop him by email blocking him.
If you do not want to go that route - you could email me or any of the other Moderators and we can "strongly suggest" they stop that practice if you do not wish to be on his list.
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Posted: 6/22/2008 3:28:34 PM | MSG1,beege75 wrote:I have tried over and over again to remove this guy from my favorites. I take it your really meaning that "THEY" adding you to "HIS" favorites list? I'm sure thats what your meaning. Because no one can add themselves to "YOUR" favorites list. But they can add "YOU" to "THEIR" favorites. Yes you can click on "your" Favorites an that list is people you clicked to add.Then at the top of that list there's a few options such as "fav updates" and then "Who's added you to their favorites" You can go in and remove yourself off their list but still they can add you back the next day. I'm thinking you didn't quite word your post like you intended.
Actually I don't know what the big deal is if someone adds you or not. I've had people add me to theirs in the past and it didn't bother me in the least bit.
I add people sometimes if they happen to post in topics thats of interest to me. That doesn't mean I like or dislike them.It simply means that things they find interesting is interesting to me. It just makes its easier to find topics that are interesting. Kind of like letting them do all the brousing and find the interesting topics for you. lol. I know there's a couple on my list that likes to post in threads I find interesting and it doesn't bother me a bit. One even debaits with me in the forums once in a while and it doesn't bother me a bit that they have added me. Doesn't hurt a bit. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 1:17:43 PM | | Actually, no. What I meant was I added HIM to MY FAVORITES list once and have since then tried to remove him, but I can't. I removed others from my list and they stayed gone. He comes back. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2008 4:12:20 PM | For me, the Favorites list doubles as a 'contact list'.
It doubles as like a phone book, where I have easy access to those of whom I want to send messages with.
And, when I go though the Search lists, I never send messages then, If someone is of interest, then I will add them to my favorites list, just to remind me later that I want to send a message to this person.
This helps me focus on the search, so I can just search and search for more and more.
It would be nice if Plenty of fish could have the favorites list done in three distinct folders or directories like...
--My Favorites list
--My Contacts list
--I could be interested in, to contact perhaps later.
I hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2008 4:28:08 PM |
then I will add them to my favorites list, just to remind me later that I want to send a message to this person.
It's been suggested somewhere along the line - an easier suggestion for "would be prospects" is to set up a Browser Favourites Folder and have it readily accessable from one of your Browser Menu bars .. just drag and drop the profile URL to it - done.
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Posted: 10/24/2008 4:46:11 PM | Thanks for that tip, I shall look into that with thanks.
It would be easier to just have a button in the profile, like the favorites one where I just click the button and it is done. Later just click on the 'would be prospects' button and I get the whole list sent to me. | |
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Posted: 10/25/2008 6:01:45 PM | i have been added to somones favorites list many times. and think its so funny and immature how when u turn a guy down for some reason they take u out of there favorites the next day how immature . | |
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Posted: 10/25/2008 7:23:15 PM |
i have been added to somones favorites list many times.
Send them a nice inviting email that asks a question, nothing confrontational, something to just get the conversation started and when they reply - eMail block them, they won't be able to put you on their favourites anymore - problem solved.
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Posted: 10/29/2008 2:56:58 PM |
its so funny and immature how when u turn a guy down for some reason they take u out of there favorites the next day how immature
Do you really expect him to continue liking you after you have turned him down | |
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Posted: 10/30/2008 11:28:56 AM | ^^ No kidding! 
Message 11 is one of the funniest things I've ever read on here!
This was happening to me a while back. The ones I removed from faves (MY faves, just like the OP) weren't coming off my list. Removing cookings & temporary internet files worked, just like stated in msg 7 | |
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Posted: 10/30/2008 3:16:11 PM | ^^
if you could figure out how to remove cooking from my life i'd be forever grateful
that being said, a long time ago there was a glitch that stopped us all from deleting people, etc - i wonder if your problem was just temporary - did you delete your cookies and try again lately? | |
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Posted: 11/28/2008 4:09:12 PM | Great thread. Such a useful advice.
I delete the favorites unless they're friends just like one of the above posters.
I'll try the "testimonial route" for the few vermin I have trouble with - LOL
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| repeated attempts to remove someone from favorites
Posted: 1/16/2009 4:56:20 PM | What's the problem with someone being on your favorites anyway?
I'm new to the site and have added a few with one removing me. But I never was offended by it, but just wondered why it would bother someone that someone added them.
I just seen today that someone added me to their list. I have no intention of getting in touch with this person, but it doesn't really bother me that they are there. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2009 8:13:03 PM | | I have a question, ..why does it bother people that they are on a persons favorites list that they arent interested in? i look at it as just as its your right not to want to be on a persons favorites list, it s also their right to add you, after all it IS their favorites list, not yours. I think a solution is if you dont like it dont look at whos favorites lists you are on . JMHO | |
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Posted: 3/20/2009 8:32:33 PM | ^^^
I can answer that question.
Easy answers.
Many people on POF look at the number of people that have you on their favs list and make decisions about you based on that - such as... .oh no one has them on their favs so they must be a looser or there are sooo many people that have them on their favs list that either they are real slutty or just too darn popular to have time to talk to someone new, etc.
That being said, I know I routinely remove people off my favs list so my number will be low - because I know that is more inviting for new men to contact me.
Additionally a lot of people don't like being on favs lists because it allows users to track when they are online.
In closing, I'd like to point out its no ones right to do anything on here. Its merely a priviledge. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2009 8:40:13 PM | " there are sooo many people that have them on their favs list that either they are real slutty or just too darn popular to have time to talk to someone new, etc.
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Yes i understand that answer for sure since ive seen women with being on like hundreds of favorites list and thought to myself they are way too popular to even read my email | |
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Posted: 3/21/2009 4:50:52 AM | "Favourites" can be used in several ways, and different users do different things. For many, it's an "address book," so someone putting you on their list has a way of keeping track of you even as you change photos or even names. If you want someone to keep in touch, don't kill their selection of you.
Some people use "Favourites" as an expression of interest, or a marker while they prepare a message. Removing a Favourite is a low-tension way to indicate lack of responsive interest.
This is the ONLY way you can signal a person if you don't meet their mail restrictions.
I like seeing the count on a profile - it indicates a bit about how long the user's been there, and how many fish you are trying to swim through. :)
There's not much point in removing a person from your own Favourites unless you literally
never want to see their face again.
ED BEAR | |
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| repeated attempts to remove someone from favorites
Posted: 3/21/2009 4:52:42 AM | Oh - forgot to add...
A Favourite listing seems to be the only way to initiate an IM unless you've found the person in one of the multi-photo listings. Starting chats with Fishpals really requires a Fave listing.
ED BEAR | |
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