| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 8:27:09 AM | Not finding what your looking for is one of lifes cruel jokes, not allowing oneself to experience something new because of preconceived ideas is a cruel joke on yourself. Not every wolf is on his way to grandmas' house(some of us are just out for a walk). Having said that, are you, or others, too picky on this site? | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:12:20 AM | Of course I am picky...who wants to listen about the ex who apparently was sooooo bad? And yes , appearance is a great factor on my picky list as well, who wants to be met by someone wearing a tracksuit and slippers , dirty fingernails,teeth falling out at any minute..."oh yes do have that crunchy chocolate bar the tooth will come out painlessly",lol, just think of the $ 97.00 you save on an extraction, and then there are the whiners,oh how depressing. Life is what you make of it and I AM PICKY, darn right | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 11:46:49 AM | I'd rather be picky - hold out for what I want - than be unhappy with those that don't meet my expectations.
I'm happy being picky.
Accepting people that aren't up to your standards is selling yourself short. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 11:53:43 AM | | roll things back about 60 or 70 years, a woman couldn't be single into her 30's without whispers and gossip, even worse if she was *gasp* divorced! men were expected to settle down, find themselves a little june cleaver homemaker and be the respectable bread-winner. it was the way things were, appearances, and living up to that social expectation was everything. then along came the free love and protest era of the 60's, people started to value individuality and explore other ways of living and perceiving. and so we came to the somewhat hedonistic "me generation" of the present...nothing wrong with it, just a different way of thinking. people are secure enough in themselves not to settle out of an irrational fear of being alone, we're choosier certainly...but why shouldn't we be? that's not to say we should be so snobbish that we never give anyone a chance, there is such a thing as being self-centered and aloof. but there's nothing wrong with knowing what you want and holding out til you find it. i guess it just comes down to priorities and what we want most from life and a partner. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 12:04:22 PM | People picky on pof??
people are picky everywhere ..and they you should be...why settle??
if you settle that will make you both unhappy sooner or later..
be unhappy now or be uhappy later...its your choice ....LOL | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 12:45:25 PM | We spend too much time trying to find the perfect lover
instead of making the perfect love.......
It's not what you show on the outside that makes you beautiful
it is what shines from within that makes you appealing....
Though there is always having pride in what you present inside and out.... | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 12:56:45 PM | People only seem WAYYY TOOOO picky. 
Actually most'd rather sit at home in comfort on the computer. Most of us have very little interest in meeting a real person -- so we're not actually being picky at all.
Typing in forums and searching through the profiles and pics of people who are just WAY OUT OF OUR LEAGUE, is a preferred SUBSTITUTE for real intimacy which is far too "dangerous".
After all if one actually did some fishing one might catch something -- eeeewwww  | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 12:56:53 PM | its safe to say, instead of looking for the perfect women...try being the perfect man..
most people spend way to much time on pof... and on their pc's in general....
i hope your day is exactly what you wanted it to be....picky picky pick me pick me...lol | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:15:20 PM | ^^^^ get off the computer and go play.....your far too young to be picky picky.....oh wait...maybe you are suppose to be picky and its us old Ninny Goats that are not suppose to be so picky
CC | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:50:01 PM | Yes, they expect YOU to be the person they want you to be. They cant accept you as you are.
Yeah, I had someone ask me to give up metal music and then they might think about talking to me. Pretty sad.
Picky! That dont even cover it!
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Xavery
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:05:51 PM | Splendid is beginning to sound wise. Perhaps it was because he had all those Birthdays this year. At least, I think it was Splendid. Still, he is sounding wise.
I agree with HaloKItty.
It may be that just some of the fish in POF are too picky. I think those of us who post in the forums regularly might be among the picky crowd or just not looking. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:13:50 PM | I'm not that picky, I don't think...  am I??
I am just here to read the forums and learn new things.
I'd like to know just what this is though: freelance obotulistics engineer
sounds interesting. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 3:33:09 PM | I think you need to be picky...why settel for some thing that you dont really want....In the past going back years ago i wasnt that picky at all i just wanted to see what was out there...that gave me alook into what i really want from some one. Alot of the girls i dated had some of the things i wanted but some of the things i didnt want. But of course no one is perfect im not going to find a girl that likes to play x box in her "G" string while shot gunning beers with my buddies while eating pizza and talking about how cool we are....am I? but i think people that are not picky are the people that dont have that many options and that have trouble meeting finding or keeping some one......and the people that have alot to offer and are exciting creataive and adventerous are the ones that are picky cause we know we have alot to offer.....So cheers to being picky!!! and if people think that " oh people are too picky...wa wa wa" they are just jelious! or have no luck finding some one!  | |
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Xavery
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Joined: 4/22/2007
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:31:06 PM | | ^ I even agree with your reaction about people agreeing with you. I am picky, too. I agreed with you on 3 accounts today. (I have a feeling many posters agree with you also.) | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 8:00:59 PM | I don't believe that POF people are any pickier than anybody else. We are all looking for our princess/prince to sweep us of our feet and fairytales have nothing to do with it.....
That is all,
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 9:16:36 PM | | The way I look at it. If a womans picky to begin with its better off that I don't even meet her. Because then your just wasting eachothers time if u do meet. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 9:21:39 PM | I don't think for a minute people on here are too picky, I know some are, and unrealistic.
I'm pretty confident in stating that too many have wishlists that themselves can't deliever, Like I said in a previous post, you'b better be able to bring as much to the table as your asking, in every regard,.......tons don't,not even close, POF will be around for a long long time..... | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 9:52:39 PM |
We spend too much time trying to find the perfect lover instead of making the perfect love.......
^^^so much truth in those words!!!
Too picky? Meh......one person's picky is another person's settle. Who really cares what someone has on their wishlist.....we should only worry about what works for us. Who would really want to be hanging out with someone who was just killing time until something closer to their "pick of the litter" comes along?
I know that I for one find my time and energy too much of a hot commodity to squander it on anyone who values it less than I do. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:13:13 PM | I think people are too picky in life!!
Everyone deserves the best that they can get. But sometimes people have a false image of what they deserve. They quest for the unnattainable, or they wallow in self pity and take whatever they can get. Some people who want to drive Ferarri's need to realise that they'll never have one on a Ford budget!
I'm not saying that people should "settle". I'm just saying that you need to think realisticly about this. Ferarris are nice to look at, and I'm sure they're great for a "ride", but the maintenance to keep one running would be crazy!!!
Maybe you should just find a nice Ford that's been taken care of, and give it regular tune ups to keep it happy!
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:18:19 PM | It depends on what people are 'picky' about. Being picky about things like musical tastes, level of education, or favorite foods doesn't make sense to me, because those sorts of things don't really matter, people can and should have their own interests as well as things you do as a couple. Looks don't even really matter to me, for the most part. What I am picky about is a person's values and BEHAVIOR (very important). I don't see a point in bothering with someone who's personality is one that I am at odds with, I don't have room in my life for drama. Internet dating is not only for the desperate or needy and I am quite happy to never get a date from here, it's not that crucial to my well being. It would be great if it happened, but I certainly won't be crying about it if it doesn't.
The behaviour thing is huge. I can get a pretty good idea of how a person treats others by talking to them online a little bit, and if they are pushy or self centered or I notice certain 'warning signs', well then I've saved myself a ton of hassle. I do not want to date people with chips on their shoulder, loads of unresolved baggage (we all have baggage but if a person hasn't come to terms with it, it becomes the elephant in the relationship), things like that.
Relationships, for me anyway, are supposed to be between two people who have taken care of their lives, and are at a good place in their life, at least emotionally. It's about having something to offer someone, sharing experiences and time, happinesses. It isn't about being someone's therapist, financial advisor, hookup, or a provider of stability. You should be stable BEFORE making a choice to share your life with someone else, not expect them to make your life what you want it to be.
I have encountered quite a few people on online dating sites who were very... how do you say it nicely? Delusional. Actually the word creepy also comes to mind. I can only speculate that I might not be the only one who may appear picky, but a possible reason why- is to avoid those who are living in a different reality than I am.
Not sure if that was what you were looking for, but it's what I've got for ya. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:44:16 PM | To a Shiny...DR,
You have entered the core of mental thought with your post.
Like other creatures, we are cautious from square one.
Breaking through is done all the time and are added to your safety zone.
Work, Shopping, etc. are examples.
This site gives a great way to leave fears aside and 'be' something and somone that is not the real you . Perhaps a quantum amount, sometimes an enormous amount.
I would say everyone has felt somewhat different by being on this site.... I have.
BREAK THROUGH Enough to Contact others, to Those that take the time to ensure their message to you is appropriate as the person can make it.
Even a nice 'not at this time' is appreciated, and who knows if another connection may occur by a friend, or ? To quote someone; 'Love knows no boundaries". I can prove that true all by myself! Lots say, ..'and if we don't 'clik' we always need friends' .. .
I am not quoting anyone, just a general item example.
Does this really happen? Do people use 'flexability' when they look at profiles?
Is there a real 'female' reason for not saying "hi, but no', to Anyone?
I am sure there will be lots of 'we get lots of BAD replies', however, what is the percent, and is that enough to stop all replying?
Personally, I study a profile, and attempt to custom write it to fit with info.
So................what is the general thought train...? | |
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