| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:01:48 PM | | I find when i am on a date that I like to make contact with the other person by touching their hand after talking a while if I feel comfortable. There is something in a touch that can almost send a signal if you like the person or not. Have you found that to be true? | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:12:33 PM | | I can not answer that. I helped a lady into her car after a date. Of course, i had to touch her. It was very icey. Her had was very soft, and it felt good. But i never saw her again. She told me the next day she did not feel anything between us, and that was that. Another time a lady was all over me touching. On the first date. I did not like that at all. I barely knew her. And certainly felt nothing for her. So i guess a touch is not exactly a barometer or signal for something more. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:14:32 PM | | It all depends. If the first date is dinner or coffee, it might be a bit forward to be reaching over and touching the person. If you're whitewater rafting, you're probably gonna be helping the person tighten up the life vest, which involves touching. And I certainly hope you'd touch them if they fell overboard and needed to be hauled back into the raft! | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:24:31 PM | | They say when you are attracted/interested in someone, natural body language leads you to touch them in some way. Along with leaning towards the person when you are talking. I have found that to be true. I have a tendency to touch the person's arm and I have had many reach across the table and touch my hand. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:46:15 PM | | I touch people when I like them, but I feel uncomfortable being touched when I don't. I had a coffee date with a guy who I did not care for and he hugged me when I did not want him to. He was married and I never saw him again, but it did bother me a bit that he grabbed at me like that. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:57:09 PM | Depends on the situation. One of the guys I met we had talked a lot but when we met and the quick hug would have been appropriate he was already seated in a booth and we both told each other later that we wanted to reach over and hold hands but we weren't sure it was appropriate for a first meeting.
I think if it feels comfortable and you click it is fairly normal but when things are a bit uncomfortable and you know you are probably not going to see the guy again, it would be weird probably bordering on ookie. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:22:19 PM | | I try not to touch people the first dates. I would find it a bit odd if my date was touching me a lot. I think thats kind of an intimate gesture unless you know each other well. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:45:57 PM | | kind of. I think it happened to me to one of my dates when we met for the first time.We talked for a month over the phone then we decided to meet in person.In our first meeting we went for a coffe ... he took my right hand and his left hand reached each other --our hands ignited--that was a great feeling. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/22/2008 11:41:36 PM | I'm still trying to live down my first date with my fellow. (why DO guys hold onto this stuff?) It wasn't my fault...
He was wearing this highly tactile shirt that just screamed touch me. My hand kept creeping out to touch him and I'd notice the sneaky, errant thing at the last second and snatch it back. Then the other one would start up. It was exhausting, I tell ya. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/23/2008 12:28:46 AM | | I'd think it was just as odd for someone to avoid touching me, as I would if they were hanging all over me. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/23/2008 1:19:28 AM | Touch on the first date.
I'd feel funny if I didn't. I mean you don't have to be all over someone or rubbing their back but laying your hand
briefly on her knee shouldn't set her to DEFCON 1
Think about it ..if so many women are focused on feeling some sort of chemistry on the first date then if you touch them
and they are repulsed in any way it's safe to assume a 2nd date isn't coming. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/23/2008 2:27:33 AM | i know ask before a meeting as to wether its ok for a small hug and a peck on the cheek is acceptable on first meeting
i normally greet female friends like that but one date really took offence and said it offended her as we didnt know each other that well despite 2 weeks of phone calls
a lot of people will say they are touchy feely but that tends to be after the first date but i've had numerous dates where the woman has wanted to stroke my bald head within a few minutes of meeting but i dont mind that | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/23/2008 4:23:37 AM | | Thanks for the all the interesting responses. I honestly think there are magnetic fields or what ever you want to call them between people that have a bond without even knowing it through a touch. I am not talking about mauling the person lol. I am talking about a soft touch on the hand or arm just to afirm our interest and see if there is any electricity flowing from one body to the other. I have felt it on severl occasions while on others nothing. So there has to be something to it. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/23/2008 4:47:33 AM | If there was no touching, there was never a second or third date. Probably a little different in my demographic, but if there is not enough comfort/attraction for some kind of natural contact to be made than that meeting was as far as it was going.
I developed some kind of perception of when it was appropiate. I started off at do not touch unlessed touched but realised this would not count in my favour. Understanding signs of wanting to be touched is a better approach, it unfortunately is something that comes with experience more than anything else. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date?
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:02:50 AM | | In general, I would say no. It makes it very awkward for the other person if you are truing to touch them and they're not quite "there" yet. The first POF date I went on, I really didn't click with the guy, and he kept kept reaching for my hands the whole time. It got to be very uncomfortable for me, since I felt I had to keep my hands out of his reach. Another date I went on, I actually did hold hands with the guy. We were walking to the car and it was cold out, so he took my hand in his - but not so tightly that I couldn't remove it if I wanted to. That was fine. I guess I would say it is better not to touch someone, unless very briefly on a first date. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date response
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:53:38 AM | | it depends on the person you're with. just sit with them for a bit and if you think you both will be ok them go for it. making contact on a first date should happen because you leave your mark on that person and so they would remember you because first date is just seeing how compatible you two and chemistry added by touchin would boost your chances ;however, don't go too far obviously. I myself always like to hold hands but nothing more because comfortability matters most to me....her comfortability because if she is comfortable in the place and with the person she is with then she'll be happy and if she is happy....we'll i don't need to tell you the readers the rest of what can happen next....lol. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date response
Posted: 6/23/2008 8:04:08 AM | I need to touch someone to know if there is that "spark" between us. It's either there or it isn't for me.
Now, that does not mean I'm going to be all over the person either... it is usually as simple as a handshake or a quick hug and if the connection is there, then great! If not, I may touch again... briefly... just to make sure I didn't miss it.
Not everyone is so tactile though, and some get nothing from a touch in regards to attraction.
JMHO
P.S. Yes, Yarimela..... that gave me quite the giggle too!! | |
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| Do you touch on the first date response
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:26:23 AM | I do not think there is anything wrong with the simple thing of holding hands on a first date especially if you are sitting in a park or where ever to see if there might be that spark. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date response
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:36:55 AM | | Touching is a major form of communication to me. Reactions to being touched are real indication of what type of person you are. If I touch a man and he pulls away, he is not the person for me. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date response
Posted: 6/23/2008 12:05:36 PM | | If I like him a lot and want to show him that I do, I initiate touch at the end of the date. This will take the form of a kiss and a hug, and crucially eye to eye contact. This is an indication that I like him a lot, it serves it's purpose because he picks up on it and always calls me afterwards. If however I don't like him - I don't initiate touch, if he goes to touch me I move away. | |
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| Do you touch on the first date response
Posted: 6/23/2008 12:06:20 PM | I don't particularly care to be touched by strangers, however, if I'm auditioning someone who may become a lover (dating, that is), then I feel it is necessary to see what type of reaction I/they have to touching.
I like to start out slow & carefully; gently touching their hand to make a point, or laying a hand on their shoulder in sympathy or compassion...if there's a spark, then perhaps handholding will kick in. Occasionally I'll be attracted enough to have a satisfying kiss/grope goodnight. If I'm immediately revolted by their touch, I try to give subtle signals that I don't care to be fondled...if they don't get it & start to paw me, I leave! | |
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