| Silver haired "dancing machines" your thoughts.
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:03:29 AM | I know you have all met them. People ( for me old guys) that have gone to years of
ballroom dancing. Seems to be the midlife thing to do. Well, sometimes they ask you to dance, and decide that they need to give you lessons, counting each step, swinging you around and around like a disco king, banging into people, dipping you, twirling under his arm , wayyyy too much. I kind of find the whole thing annoying on a first dance. Do some people actually like this? . First , it seems a bit attention seeking, and I just don`t think it is appropriate for a first dance when they know that you aren`t ballroom broken. Anyone else have this happen? Or am I just being stuffy? | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:24:16 AM | I really dont like men like that either. To me its like they want everyone to stop and look at them. They should understand that not everyone shares the same passion for showing off as they do. Maybe if you accidentally stood on his foot he would slow down | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/23/2008 1:16:03 PM | Wow! I'd just be happy to have the time to go out dancing! Even meeting a guy that likes to dance would be great.
No matter where you go, you will run into the 'controllers'.....it could be that the dancing 'lessons' are the only things left they can brag about! So go easy on the poor fellas, just say "thanks", then go pick out your next dance partner. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/23/2008 3:04:25 PM | | My thoughts? My thought is that this thread is just another vehicle for broadcasting disdain.. two, three, four, dip, recover and back, two, three, four.... | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/23/2008 3:50:11 PM |
Anyone else have this happen? Or am I just being stuffy?
I think you are being too critical. You should watch people dancing and then you can tell which men dance the way you would like.
If this is your biggest problem in life, I'd say that things are pretty darn good for you. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/23/2008 3:56:06 PM | | I've never had it happen, but I sure would like for it to. Where do you find these "dancing machines" that don't require you pay a fortune to Arthur Murray Dance Studios? | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:23:26 PM | ...Hey, I have been seriously thinking about taking up some type of Latin dance this year. I think it would not only be fun but good for the waisline too...Now, I just need to find a victim, I mean partner.
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:29:11 PM | | ^^^^^^^^^^There`s usually plenty of eager lonely vitims - whoops partners available at the studios or at dance class.......shouldn`t be a prob for you! | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/23/2008 8:25:57 PM | Salsa.........................Mae, learn salsa........
I teach dancing and also teach dance manners. My dad who is a great dancer can't stand to dance the cha-cha anymore because every woman he asked to dance would '1-2-cha-cha-cha, 1-2-cha-cha-cha through the whole dance. After my mother died and I finally got him to go to the Sr Dance--I go as his partner--since he figured out, I am not a counter or a back/shoulder patter to keep rythmn--he is dancing again.
Some people are not good dancers and the lessons keep rolling around the head and out the mouth. Some folks are just so enamoured and excited with the new knowledge, they want to share with everyone and they don't see how they come across.
I broke several men of the habit by making small talk while we dance, they soon stop the counting and learn to enjoy themselves.  | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/23/2008 8:32:11 PM | I think the point is that sometimes when men ask you to dance, they figure out your
abilites and comfort zone and try to go with it. But then once in a while, you will get
twirly, showy dipper type that wants to drag you out on the floor when no one else is out there , to do a little show if his instructing ability. He makes sure he does a ton of moves you don`t know and will probably not be too coordinated at, to prove his prowess while keeping the upper hand. Sorry, I think sometimes it is an intentional power play to show off and make you feel uncomfortable. They usually have real aggressive personalities too. I guess they just need to feel superior in front of alot of people. Not my cup of tea. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/23/2008 8:49:54 PM | .. pick me... pick me.... I LOVE to dance...
I would consider myself to be a fairly good dancer, I was trained in Classical and Jazz Ballet and danced on stage for a few years. Then still won a few different dancing comps 'til my late 20's..
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/24/2008 4:02:06 AM | | In my 25 year marriage I tried to get my lady to do the ballroom classes at our little local college several times without luck. Being single I got asked to come to the classes for free, needed male bodies. I loved it and yeah aint bad, soooo I ride a motorcycle, a bit rough around the edges workin class kina guy yet to waltz with a lady u find attractive that moves with you is a beautiful thing. Just you an her in the moment, moving together gracefully across the floor. Not about showing off for me at all just a wonderful magic moment captured in dance with ur lady. If someone does not know how to do whatever dance ur doin of course u would try to help them along but even that should be fun, start over, talk them thru it and have a laugh and some fun with it. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/24/2008 4:23:47 AM | OP --
I agree with you somewhat.
It isn't actually DANCING if the partners aren't interacting together -- and on the same wave length.
To be a good leader, a man should first note the skill level and interactive abilites of his partner. And then lead her in a way that works well for them BOTH. Dancing -- like real LIFE -- is about all the players -- NOT just one of them.
Even worse is the dancer who executes all the moves perfectly, and is dancing happily away -- but not to the beat of the music! Can't hear it? Won't listen? Didn't know better because they only taught him to count steps at dance class? What?
I once danced with a guy who tried to make me jitter-bug -- in the middle of a line dance! Another time it was the guy who wanted to fox trot to top forties! The music could be in 3/4 time, 4/4 time, or whatever -- but the dancing that goes with it needs to be in REAL time!
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/24/2008 4:54:13 AM | Dancing is a vertical expression of horizontal desire.
Very few men can tango like Al Pacino in Scent of A Woman but give them credit for trying. Whenever a man has shown up at one of my dance classes, the women treat him like royalty and he has the time of his life.........especially the bellydancing class.  | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:10:06 AM |
banging into people That right there tells me they aren't as good as they think they are, lol.
While by no means schooled in dance, I can hold my own on the basic waltz and foxtrot, and know just enough to be aware that this is one of the number one no-nos.
As no-one has eyes in the back of their head and despite the best of planning, collisions with (eg) another couple who can't 'read the floor' can potentially occur.
At this point, each person has to 'steer' the other through their respective blind spots, via a split second, gentle pressure in the small of the back or on the shoulder in the direction you need to go is effective.
In tune with the music and attuned to your partner always makes for a nice dance, regardless of anyone's particular skill level.
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