| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 4:51:33 PM | I have been writing a few women who have local profiles. I try to look for things that are unique in their profile or something that we have in common. Often times they don't put much of anything in their profile except the basics. All they might say is something like"I am giving this online thing a try, if you are interested hit me up" or something along those lines, just a very basic sentence.
All I can really say in response to this is something basic, like "how has your summer been so far?" or "what do you like to do for fun around here?" . Very generic openers but I don't know what else to say, so I probably sound like the 50 million other guys she has received emails from. Or does it even matter? Do people just go by looks here so it doesn't even matter what I say in my email? | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:03:07 PM | | If they don't have a lot in their profile, there's a good chance there's not a lot to them period. There are exceptions of course but ask yourself this. Why bother to go through all the trouble of making a profile in the first place if all you have to say is, "I am giving this online thing a try, if you are interested hit me up"? | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:03:59 PM | Well, if you are responding to a profile that essentially has nothing in it to go on, then you have answered your own question because you are going by looks alone.
A couple of suggestions:
You could try saying something along the lines of... "Good evening, You caught my eye and was wondering if you could share something about yourself to see if we have any common interests. I would be interested in hearing from you."
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Do you really want to get to know someone who cannot take the time to write a bit about themselves? You could use it as a weeding tool and move on to the next fishy that does actually have something in the way of a decent profile.
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:11:11 PM | I myself don't really have much about myself in my profile to be honest. but what's even more 'annoying' is when someone msg's you and you go to see their profile and all they have is a bunch of gibberish letters that spread across your monitor making their profile huge. so you scroll sideways thinking maybe, JUST maybe, this person has something intelligent and nope not a damn thing except more guikweuggjshgjsheksg crap  so if people want responses, look smart, not like a 2 yr old played on the keyboard :P lol | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:18:28 PM | I am quite sure that any woman who is above avg in looks and has next to nothing in her profile is a fake designed to lure male customers.
Otherwise, if they can't be bothered then I can't - regardless how gawjus they may know they are.
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:21:24 PM |
Well, if you are responding to a profile that essentially has nothing in it to go on, then you have answered your own question because you are going by looks alone.
I have certain types that I am physically attracted to. I don't feel guilty because I know women on here do it too. Of course I want a person I can relate to in a relationship, but I have to be physically attracted to them in the first place.
I also want to give them the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps they don't know any better or just haven't gotten around to finishing up their profile yet, or they may be interesting people but just are too shy to convey it online. The majority of the profiles in my area that are like this, not just a few.
They don't have to write a novel length autobiography, just give guys something to respond to if they don't want a bunch of generic responses. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:33:16 PM |
I have certain types that I am physically attracted to. I don't feel guilty because I know women on here do it too.
Of course you shouldn't feel guilty for knowing your preferences, and I apologize if my post came off sounding b*tchy... it was not intended to be like that.
I hear you on giving the benefit of the doubt.... I just think that if a person really hopes to meet someone on here, they will take the time to at least write something more than "Hit me up"!
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:36:17 PM | I think Spongebob 75 said it perfectly. That's why I think putting a photo up is just stupid, and dangerous. I want a man to read my profile and reply to my ad because we have things in common. He'll put some effort into his reply and he'll be more sincere, I believe. If I want dorks trying to pick me up for my looks, I'll go to the bar. The same goes for men, if they want to meet someone who's interested in them , not just their looks, they should put a lot in their profile, their work, hobbies, bad habits and good ones, kids, how long single, the whole nine yards. It's easier to be truthful and tell more if there's no picture, because no one you know can see you on here and you can say as much as you want. You then have more chance of meeting someone who's compatible with you, pictures can be sent later if you both feel there's some potential. You'd be surprized how much stress and frustration this eliminates.
Good Luck fishing,everyone. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:52:47 PM | Markthegreat: I like a profile where a man does not divulge much information about himself. I believe it states from the beginning that he has boundaries, which can be very good. I also look at it like...if I met this man in person without the aid of POF then I would know very little about him and certainly would not request a resume from him. The basics are in the profile and whether people want to admit it or not....they are going for the looks that suit their personal preference.
Conversation starters should not be hesitant and guessing and I, for one, am perfectly happy with..."Hi, I read your profile and I like it. Would you like to chat sometime?" If they are not a great conversationalist and drab then you really wouldn't know that until after you chat with them anyway. JMO | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 6:00:01 PM |
If they don't have a lot in their profile, there's a good chance there's not a lot to them period.
Exactly! This applies to men too.
I want a man to read my profile and reply to my ad because we have things in common. He'll put some effort into his reply and he'll be more sincere, I believe.
When I first came on this site, I intentionally did not post a picture as I wanted men to read my profile. I added a clause that stated that if they were intrigued by the content of my character, then I would be happy to provide a picture. Many enjoyed what I had to write and some would  after seeing what I look like. I now have a picture, some read, and some still do not. It just goes with the territory.  | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 6:43:39 PM | After getting used to the (un)read/deleted, I quickly reached a few conclusions:
- A profile with minimal text but several photos means that you will probably be filtered by photo. What you say in your email likely does not matter.
- A profile with no photo and mininal text probably means that the user has set up a profile for purpose of window shopping. Again, what you say in your email will generally not matter.
- Well written profiles with/without photos are the ones where you may have a chance of a reply. Compose email with care, but never invest more than 3-4 minutes of your life lest you turn excessively bitter about the outcome.
In response to your title question - there's not much you can say. Best to skip such profiles. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 7:32:08 PM |
Very generic openers but I don't know what else to say, so I probably sound like the 50 million other guys she has received emails from. Or does it even matter? Do people just go by looks here so it doesn't even matter what I say in my email?
Well, not everyone but obviously you do, or you wouldn't be e-mailing (or wanting to know what to say in an e-mail) to women who say nothing in their profile, would you? | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 7:35:23 PM | | I guess you would say the same thing that you would say to men who don't put anything in their profiles......not bloody much because obviously they aren't communicators...like,What's up?.,..that gives them plenty of leeway and usually pisses them off...or ask them if they get bored easily... | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 7:50:16 PM | I've noticed a lot of women write a short paragraph with nothing of substance in it, and to top it off only list a few interests. I guess they assume they are so hot that guys will fall all over themselves rushing to send out emails. The strange thing is that for the most part, the women are very average looking and you would think they would want to demonstrate that they have brains or a personality, but perhaps they don't. If this is all they are willing to put into an effort to meet a guy, then they won't be putting much effort into keeping one either.
I am beginning to think women are just lazy these days when it comes to relationships. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 8:11:39 PM | | Games, it's all about games. Libra and others have it kind of right. Why respond to a picture? Cause it turns you on? Shallow, just shallow. Yeah I got a few years on you, but substance will carry the day. If your seeing your hearts desire through your eyes, then you are blind, and probably will never see. A woman or man is more than the sum and substance of their photo. What's inside is more important, if you don't understand that, then you are truly lost. Good luck,Bob. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 8:14:52 PM |
If they don't have a lot in their profile, there's a good chance there's not a lot to them period. There are exceptions of course but ask yourself this. Why bother to go through all the trouble of making a profile in the first place if all you have to say is, "I am giving this online thing a try, if you are interested hit me up"?
I had my profile up for several months and took most of the stuff about me off since I was only here for the forums for a little while (I just needed a break). When I recently put it back up that I wasn't here just for the forums, I ended up not putting a whole lot on it simply because in the past, I found most guys weren't actually reading my profile. I list very basic things about myself and my interests but I wasn't going to write much stuff about myself since I thought it would fall on blind eyes.
OP, you can mention that you noticed there wasn't a lot of information in the profile and try asking them about what they're interested in... Oh and don't forget a salutation :-)
Good luck. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 8:16:23 PM |
I also look at it like...if I met this man in person without the aid of POF then I would know very little about him and certainly would not request a resume from him.
Well, this is partially true, but if you were to meet someone in person without the aid of POF, you'd at least have to know *something* about him more substantial than a couple of pictures and a paragraph about his interests, whether you met him through work, activities, a mutual friend, etc. Not many of us will approach a random stranger off the street simply because of how they look. I try to keep this in mind when a handsome face turns my head. The outer appearance tells you next to nothing about the whole package.
As for you guys who have said you aren't impressed by pretty faces with scant profiles -- thank you. It's always refreshing to see a guy who thinks with the *other* organ.  | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 8:41:54 PM | Mark
Why are you wasting time trying to open the lines of communication with lifeless females who obviously have nothing interresting to place into their dull profiles?
Can you imagine having to go out on a date with one of these "winners" and trying to have them open up during a date?
Flush them & widen your search scope.
We do live in an era where travel is relatively easy to manage. You could hop on a plane & visit an interresting female in her home town miles from your residence. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/25/2008 4:08:54 AM |
I've noticed a lot of women write a short paragraph with nothing of substance in it, and to top it off only list a few interests. I guess they assume they are so hot that guys will fall all over themselves rushing to send out emails. The strange thing is that for the most part, the women are very average looking and you would think they would want to demonstrate that they have brains or a personality, but perhaps they don't. If this is all they are willing to put into an effort to meet a guy, then they won't be putting much effort into keeping one either.
I am beginning to think women are just lazy these days when it comes to relationships.
If there was such a thing as the POF lottery, this guy would win it and retire rich. I can't tell you how many times I have run into this situation. I've been concluding that a large number of women are just boring, and that generally women don't know how to advertise themselves. In any case, if I see nice pics and a brainless or boring profile, I don't write. If I'm frustrated or bored at this point, a date would be like being stretched on the rack. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/25/2008 11:30:36 AM | I put lots of info on my profile because:
1. I have nothing to hide.
2. I would rather someone kinda know who I am before they message me, instead of finding out and disapearing.
3. I want a conversation, not 20 messages back and forth about nothing.
I hate it when I check my inbox and some guy with no picture has left me a four word message like "Wanna chat/msn/email?" and then you check the profile and it says, looking for cute girl, message me if you want more info. Yah I want more info, who are you? Why should I waste my time telling you about me when all I get back is: Fine, you? Or some genaric info like I like the outdoors and listening to music. Yep, thats everyone, that even discribes my cat! I will answer faceless guy, but in responce I expect info. Not just a scentence, asking me once again how I am doing. I want info, what type of music do you like? Why? What's important to you?
And why no picture. I have mine up, yah I don't think I am the cutest/hotest/ect.est girl but I would rather someone know who I am / what I look like before investing time and maybe emotions. Don't worry I understand, I hate every single one of the pictures I have ever taken of myself. But I know it is important to have them. Why hide who you are just to reveal it later, you risk the very real possibility of not being what that person is looking for. Even my friends and I have different tastes in attractivness, sometimes we just don't agree. It has nothing to do with the guy and everything to do with us, and what we prefer. For example in American Idol, Kimmie liked David A. while I liked David Cook. She really didn't like my David's hair while I though her David looked like a 14 year old boy. Both were perfectly fine, just given the choice I would go with someone who looked like a grown up. So why lead me on thinking I am talking to a David, scratch that if I am gonna imagine someone lets use....... Shia LaBouf, plus two Davids is confusing. Ok, so why lead me on thinking I am talking to Shia when in fact, I am talking to that nerd from Die Hard 3. Now both are fine, and I actually like the guy from Die Hard/Mac Comercial. They are two different hotnesses, Action vs. Smarts, and each has pro's and con's. But sometimes when you don't know what someone looks like you use an ideal that could be totally off. Maybe for no face man I used Shia when in fact he is a Mac guy. If I knew right away I would probly be fine with it but the sudden "SURPRISE" could leave a bad taste.
Now imagine writing a message half this length, and the only response was. "Fine. You?"
**Note not ment toward/for any faceless person, just the lot in general. Some of you I actually think are quite nice. Please send a picture.** | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/25/2008 2:26:09 PM | | I am of the mind that it is impossible to really know someone through nothing more than an online profile. But you guys may be right, perhaps most of these women really are quite boring. BTW the ones with these types of profiles have so far not even bothered to return my emails. Maybe they read this thread hehe. | |
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