| What's "equality" in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:40:46 PM | | This guy I know on here insists he wants "equality" in a woman. That sounds like some kind of 70's women's lib cry to me. What the heck does it mean? That she doe her share of the work around the house (because I always had to do the housework and dishes when he was around). Or does it mean that I make the same amount of money he does? He insists that it's the reason why he likes women who use power tools. I think that wanting a woman who uses power tools is hardly equality. It's rather effeminate. IMHO | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:51:51 PM | IMO people are trying to sort out what equality means to them. One of the great things about the times we live in is that there is such openness and creativity possible in defining what is the appropriate relationship and roles for each person. A woman today can pick up power tools and enjoy the creativity of building or fixing something without it being a reflection on her femininity.
Equality does not mean "the same". Men and women are very different, each individual has their own strengths and weaknesses. The goal is about finding someone who is compatible with who you are and the life you want to create. | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 1:15:51 PM | | OK, that is what a woman would say, but what would a guy call equality? Also, I noticed that this man used to say in his profile, "Looking for my Equal." Maybe a guy can explain it to me? Does it mean salary or work around the house, or someone who is NOT submissive but rather a little dominant in nature? (Likes to "wear the pants"). | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:03:58 PM | | OK, just my 2 cents. To me equality means the give and take in a relationship. Someone who isn't always thinking of themselves. Basically a "me me" type of person. I can care less if she can use power tools lol. If she can thats great, if not who cares. | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:45:27 PM | I would have to say read his profile. There should be something in the profile that describes him, then break it down from there. He could have a higher form of education and looking for a woman that has one as well. He could be into hunting, and looking for a woman that also hunts, yes there are women that hunt. So to him he is probably looking for someone of his counter.
I would say to re-read his profile, and if it is not clear on his behalf, then ask him. nothing wrong with a woman taking the first step.There are some of us men that do not base relationships on money, job, car or even looks. We are trying to find that special someone that we would like to be with.
Just on the funnier side. Now if I or some one was to say in there headline " looking for my other half" Does that mean they only have half a body?....
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:14:10 PM | I just wrote on another thread that I'm looking for my equal. Basically, what I'm looking for is someone who's on the same page as me emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically. There's more of course, but that's it in a nutshell.
In my opinion OP, you should be asking him what he means - not us. To him, equal could mean something entirely different than anyone else on here. Individuality is a wonderful thing:)
JMO
Edit at post below: You mean you can't start a new thread? Maybe your " starting new threads" privileges have been revoked? | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:45:28 PM |
I think if you ask 100 guys you'll get 100 different opinions. But I'm also curious how guys define this.
I say just that each person should make a real effort to sustain the relationship by doing whatever is necessary in their particular situation. It could be as simple as the woman taking the guy out or the guy remembering anniversaries. | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:51:46 PM | OP,
ItsMargo:
Equality does not mean "the same". Men and women are very different, each individual has their own strengths and weaknesses. The goal is about finding someone who is compatible with who you are and the life you want to create.
For this man, that is accurate summary of what I consider "equality." I liken it to American Football. A good QB recognizes she wouldn't have success without the offensive line (the guys blocking for her). If she doesn't have success, the team doesn't have success. Every player on the team, offense and defense, depends on every other player optimizing their individual strengths to achieve success for the team. I view it as a symbiotic relationship. [like my lil twist on that analogy?] hehehe
Your second post requests a definition to "Looking for my equal." IMO that gets considerably more subjective and would hinge, foremost, on how an individual defines themselves. It could refer to someone that can keep up with them physically, spiritually, monetarily, intellectually, etc. Or they might just have a burr under their saddle. I think it's a question better answered by the individual.
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:07:58 PM | Everybody's definition of equality is different. I begin to define mine as an absence of a sense of entitlement and a presence of mutual respect. Preconceived roles in a relationship based on gender are sure to create strife these days. Work to your strengths and weaknesses.
I love to cook but really don't enjoy doing dishes. So if I shop for the grocery's and then cook a fine dinner, I am not expecting her to say, "Well, you made the mess, you clean it up." And vice versa.
While I don't really enjoy housework I can build the damn house. I don't expect my partner to stand toe to toe with me hammering nails. If she enjoys it she's welcome to join me, but I have no right to expect that. Now if she wants to decorate the house that I've built and I'm not up for hours and hours of roaming the aisles of home deco stores, should she have an expectation that I do so? And if I choose not to do so do I have a right to criticize her choices?
It's all about give and take. | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:23:18 PM | Equality in men AND women. I guess there is a line one that one will draw.
Most like women to plan and take THEM out on a date and pay for the date.. and he will plan and take her out on a date and HE pays for the date.
Another equality is she can mow the lawn while he whips up a mean steak & salad dinner for her when she is done...(great exercise gals!).
I have been know to fix a screen, sharpen a lawn mower blade ...but when it comes down to cleaning the gutters..pruning the trees. I leave that up to a guy.
Each person can compromise but draw the line when your not sure what you are doing. | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:36:50 PM |
Or does it mean that I make the same amount of money he does?
Bingo! (Or more maybe.....?????)
He insists that it's the reason why he likes women who use power tools. I think that wanting a woman who uses power tools is hardly equality. It's rather effeminate.
LMFAO ~ oh sure. I'm with you OP ~ just because I own and know how to use a Makita doesn't mean that men/women will ever be equal, and that includes me. Sigh!!!
~OT~ This is such an age-old debate, I do really wonder when those close to my own age will just remember the reality: it's a couple by couple situation. Equality may exist somewhat in the home, if both parties are attempting that environment, but out in the "real world" it's not likely going to happen in my lifetime. JMO  | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:50:37 PM | > He insists that it's the reason why he likes women who use power tools.
He's just biding his time until he tells you he likes to go around in women's underwear. It's well known that women who use power tools are the only ones likely to be half-way tolerant on this.
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e·qual
–adjective
1. as great as; the same as...
For those of you who say "equal" doesn't mean "the same as", I want some of whatever you're smokin'.
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:54:39 PM | This guy I know on here insists he wants "equality" in a woman.
The men I know who use this line mean:
They want you to take the trash out
Make as much money as them or more
Pay for all your expenses on trips and sometimes cover theirs
Never expect them to carry your groceries from the car to the kitchen for you
Have sex with them whenever they feel like it
Don't expect an expensive(or inexpensive) birthday/christmas/valentines present
If you go out you always expected to pay dutch
If you move in together you better be ready to pay for half or more of te expenses.
So, yeah. Equality means=CHEAP
Same as someone who wants and "Independant"woman.
You are better on your own and nobody is "poking" you in the back early in the morning when you want to sleep in on the weekends. | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:01:22 PM | I believe equality means no one is really in charge and that each person has an equal say about the issues that occurr in a relationship.
If you think about the previous generations roles in a relationship it went as follows :
The man generally was the one who made all decisions relating to children, finances etc.
The woman was generally the submissive one and did not question her husband's authority.
I for one want a relationship where I am viewed as an equal partner. | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:16:46 PM | Funny, if I ever say it, women think that I am looking for me, but in a woman. I mentioned once that I was looking for a Mrs. Me. Which was totally taken the wrong way. For one, I am not putting my last name on POF. But also, I want a woman that fits me, my personality, or one that can at least accept my quirkyness.
Another thing, women are bashful or something. They are too shy to have a conversation, or when there is a conversation, everything is taken out of proportion or again, taken the wrong way. There is often no easygoingness to conversation. But then, I guess, most don’t get me or fully understand what I say. I think. I dunno. Just a thought.
Maybe I am just horrible at communication with others, no ‘common ground’ sort of thing. | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:17:01 PM | Since I like playing the old fashioned one and letting the man make major decisions, that seems to be a thing of the waaaay past!!
I just saw a guy's profile that said he wants a 50/50 relationship! So does that mean financially with dating, dinner and gas? I'LL BET SO!!! | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:19:35 PM |
he men I know who use this line mean:
They want you to take the trash out
Make as much money as them or more
Pay for all your expenses on trips and sometimes cover theirs
Never expect them to carry your groceries from the car to the kitchen for you
Have sex with them whenever they feel like it
Don't expect an expensive(or inexpensive) birthday/christmas/valentines present
If you go out you always expected to pay dutch
If you move in together you better be ready to pay for half or more of te expenses.
So, yeah. Equality means=CHEAP
Same as someone who wants and "Independant"woman.
when you want to sleep in on the weekends.
OMG that is exactly the way the guy was that I dated who wanted equality!! He used to eat up ALL my food when he came over and threw a tantrum if I asked him to replace it! | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:21:04 PM |
For those of you who say "equal" doesn't mean "the same as", I want some of whatever you're smokin'.
Hey, a pound of lead and a pound of feathers are equal.
But, they aren't the same!
FYI - Not smoking, HERE! | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 6:02:25 PM | Margo wrote:
Men and women are very different...
Men and women are one-and-the-same, and I've a concern about how some forms of information might sometimes have the effect of pushing apart the sexes, rather than bringing them together.
As for equality, I might be comfortable with the concept of it and/or equability where men and women are acknowledged, respected, understood and supported for their "differences", as well as-- and perhaps more so-- for their similarities.
It may be worth considering apparent "differences" as compliments and/or "completions", rather than differences outright.
Women and men are both from Earth, as opposed to Venus and Mars, respectively. | |
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| What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman?
Posted: 6/28/2008 6:11:14 PM |
Hey, a pound of lead and a pound of feathers are equal.
But, they aren't the same!
Depends on whether you're talking about their composition, or how much mass there is (or weight, if you prefer). So, yea, they're equal on one count, not equal on the other.
This really isn't that complicated.
So, yeah. Equality means=CHEAP
That's right, only women have the right to be CHEAP DATES!
-which isn't equality, though that never seems to sink in with many.
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^^^ well said!
