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Posted: 6/28/2008 4:43:56 PM | | Hi, I've been on the site for a little over a month and am not getting a good response. I obviously need some advise please. I'm sorry, I don't have any other pictures to post right now, in case that is one of your suggestions! Thank you to everyone for your help. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 4:50:30 PM | You are making a lot of the common profile mistakes. Rather than flesh it all out, my best suggestion is go read profile writing tips and do a total rewrite.
You start out negative, state a lot more info in what you want in a man than you do about yourself, and have redundant info in the about me. All of this will be explained in greater length on the writing tips thread.
If you can, substitute man for woman and read it as if it were a man's profile and ask yourself if you would want to contact him.
After you do a rewrite, post back here. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 4:56:23 PM | I agree, it seems as though you're not sure what the purpose of your profile is, so a read through the Profile Writing tips would definitely help here.
You have only one grainy pic, and as a thumbnail, it's not immediately clear you're a woman. I'd suggest getting lots of clearer pics, perhaps wearing earrings or a bit more lipstick so that's not in doubt.
Yes, I suppose "Call Me Scarlet" should have been a tip-off, but one never knows.
Here's that link for you:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 6:33:01 PM | Ok, thanks, I read the tips.. took out the first stuff about men being able to write a profile with more than 3 words, etc. (am dreading what I may receive), tried to put in more about myself, but I'm unclear about how I am redundant in about me.... I switched man to woman, but since I liked it in the first place... I guess I can be a H.O.W.E. (her own worst enemy). Problem is I've been here before (last year) and I get soooo frustrated with these guys that write absolutely nothing in their profiles with incorrect spelling or in all caps, and I just wanted to get that out there first to kinda weed them out.
Well I rewrote it... How did I do this time? | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 4:04:17 AM | Hi Scarlet, I going to try to explain what the previous posters meant by "redundent", and then do the rest of your profile for you.
I am 47 and am looking for a man around my age. I live in Burlington and would like to meet a man that lives within this area, ie.
This is what they were refering to to as"redundent, this is all covered up above, therefore does non need to be repeated. DELETE
no one hour drives to see each other!
There is really ONLY one way to do this, and that is to sort them as they come in. DELETE
I am only 5'2" so I don't like to look up to my man , I prefer my man to be no taller than around 5'10"ish and to weigh more than I do (I weigh approx. 130-135 lbs.)
Do you understand that probably less than .01% of men could possibly meet your weight requirement?
The rest of your profile is "mixed up" go from you, to him, and back to you again. I really can not review the rest very easily in it's cuurent state.
Shoot for three paragraphs:
1. Describe your personality
2.What you enjoy doing
3.Describe his personality
Best wishes
OFMM | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 4:26:10 AM | I think that the few things that your mail restrictions stop from getting through you pretty much cover in your profile. Throw in you said you will not mail anyone and I am really not surprised that no one is talking to you- no one actually fits the criteria.
How you plan on squeezing someone into that narrow criteria and then trying to find out whether you like them or not I have no idea.
I suggest a different approach- lay down some basic ground rules, get rid of all filters and restrictions and try actually meeting people and making decisions for yourself. Groundbreaking, I know, but this is where the 'dating' part of this whole online dating thing comes from. It involves meeting people. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 8:32:31 AM | Scarlet(t), another fact 'o life for those of us not far from the US-Cdn border: folks commute. You aren't terribly far from the Niagara Falls area (maybe 50 miles), and someone living in the US might be interested. However, you've selected the "must live in Canada" option.
Several of the best profile reviewers live in provinces west of yours. They might want to comment in a private message...but they can't.
There really aren't many Nigerian scammers on here; the few fishing these waters use the same MO as their e-mails.
HTH | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 9:21:14 AM | | What do you mean less than .01% of men meet my weight requirement. I want them to weight more than I do. There is a .01% chance of that happening? | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 9:51:39 AM |
What do you mean less than .01% of men meet my weight requirement. I want them to weight more than I do. There is a .01% chance of that happening?
I think he meant, COULD NOT meet.... which means practically EVERYONE is going to be taller than you, and weigh more, and thus, it really doesn't need to be said. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 10:12:18 AM | 1. underwater dog walker? what the hell is that?
2. too negative. (keep it simple stupid, etc.)
3. too many mailing restrictions. if there's more than like 3-4 of them, i don't write the person even if i'm within her restrictions..
4. don't tell about your well hidden tattoos..not in your profile. that's a little more personal and something you'd want to wait until seeing them is an option.. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 10:36:54 AM |
I think he meant, COULD NOT meet.... which means practically EVERYONE is going to be taller than you, and weigh more, and thus, it really doesn't need to be said.
Thanks driven, I obviously worked to late last night.
And yes OP, I misread what you had written, therefore I understand why my response was unclear. But driven is correct, what you HAVE wriiten, really goes without saying. Just sort them to your standards as they come in.
Best wishes
OFMM | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 6:27:53 PM | | OK, thanks, I am done. Now.... how do you turn this darn thing off??? | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 6:57:58 PM | Read the posting rules...you can't "turn it off" ...it's a forum, and your posts will appear on your profile. If you're done, I'm done, call it a wrap.
If that's what you want to run with...then go with it. When or if you want anotther review, post to this thread. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 7:28:05 PM | Could someone please review my profile? Not that I expect anyone to kick my door down, but I literally have received only a couple of messages (without my writing them first) from women after being on this site for >6 months.
Thanks everyone! | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 7:37:33 PM | Hi there,
You need to start your own "request for aprofile revew "thread, not ask on someone else's review. If you would like, there are also a couple of revewers that have their own threads for profile reviews.
Cheers!
twwr | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 2:32:08 PM | | Dear buscgirl: I was kidding with the "turn this darn thing off". I already said I am done. It has become obvious to me during this little adventure that alot of people that review profiles do not appreciate my sense of humour. Oh well, their loss. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 2:47:02 PM | Try to keep a sense of humor about these things. People are only trying to give input that will forward your goal of having the most effective profile possible.
The part about your tattoos, it's kinda funny you would mention them and in the same breath say "no, you can't see them". Why mention them? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 3:48:33 PM |
Dear buscgirl: I was kidding with the "turn this darn thing off". I already said I am done. It has become obvious to me during this little adventure that alot of people that review profiles do not appreciate my sense of humour. Oh well, their loss.
If it was kidding you're right, flew right by me. For future reference, when someone's "done with" a thread, they just don't keep posting. As far as sense of humor, this is the review forum there is a humor forum, that may be a better venue to have your sense of humor appreciated. This forum is to have your profile reviewed. I usually don't miss a joke I don't "get" but there's always a first time. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 4:58:51 PM | on reading your profile what you want in a guy is a pretty tall order. The list seems to go on and on with what you are looking for, it isn't such a bad thing to a degree though will narrow your search down quite considerably and may lead you no where on POF.
You may just come across as fussy or people that you may connect with quite easily could read the info and feel they are not suited to you and turn away without first contact.
If you keep your profile the way it is then at least throw a lot of messages out there to guys to show you are interested in them, it may help you in greater stead than waiting if you are not doing so already.
Good luck either or. | |
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