| What to do with a wedding ring after Divorce
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:18:08 AM | What does one do with your wedding ring after a Divorce?
Keep it for the memories, or sell it?
I was happily married over 16 yrs, then one day my former walks into the house and says "we need to have a serious talk" I find out she had filed for Divorce that day. She was going to start taking Ministry classes and work her full time job until retirement 5 yrs later and she no longer felt like being married - only remain as good friends.
I was crushed. I had to see a Counselor just to straighten me out.
She moved out of the house to her own Apt. I wore my wedding ring for about 3 more months then put it back in its box and put it away. I no longer felt I had the right to wear it. It remains in its box as of today.
I was proud to wear that ring for 16+ yrs, now it sits in a box and I wonder is it worth keeping for the memories or should I sell it? It makes me feel guilty [in a way] to sell it, yet what else do I do as I no longer wear it? | |
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| What to do with a wedding ring after Divorce
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:32:24 AM | The importance of the ring is now gone. Why keep it? I would either sell it or give it away. I kept my first engagement ring, to give to my daughter (her father gave it to me) Its been 15 yrs and she still doesn't have it, so it sits in the safe waiting for the day she wants it. (She is a tomboy and jewls don't appeal to her yet)
The wedding band I took to a pawn shop and got rid of it. Both Rings lost their value to me the day the marriage ended. | |
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| What to do with a wedding ring after Divorce
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:32:47 AM | auction it and make clear at the start the cash will go to oxfam etc, it will get a better offer and who knows your 16 year memory may save a life and allow onother to live on.
or just leave it in the box.
remember every £10 given will add to the life pool | |
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| What to do with a wedding ring after Divorce
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:33:31 AM | well i wore mine as a thumb ring for a couple of years and then had to have it cut off when i caught my hand in a ride at a theme park!!
Still got it but its in two pieces in a pot somewhere.Doesnt really bother me though i have soooo moved on but i do understand some peoples attachment to theirs it kind of a reminder of happier times but in my case i am much happier now. | |
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| What to do with a wedding ring after Divorce
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:38:08 AM | if it means that much to u...and u have a hard time getting rid of it....take it to a good gold smith...with any other scrap gold u may have....and get them to make u something new....that way u have the thought of what it once was and what it ment...however in the same breath...u will have a new piece of jewlery and memories to boot....
suggestion and thats were mine is now.....i will say in Canada never looked were ur from...but hell they pay shit fer old gold...not worth the kik in the KAK if ur understanding what i mean by that statement...
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| What to do with a wedding ring after Divorce
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:38:23 AM | Somewhere between flinging it into an ocean (or lol cesspool) somewhere...or selling it on eBay fo $1.99...
i like the idea of charity. Always a reminder that it did some unconditional good. | |
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| What to do with a wedding ring after Divorce
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:44:55 AM | well my last post was removed
anyways again....
if it means that much to u ...take it to a gold smith have it melted down...if u have any other gold take with u as well
get something new made form it.....that way u still have the old memories of what it once was and the happy times that went with....however same time u will have a new piece of jewlery to wear and admire....tis were mine is now....better then pawning it or auction u get no cash really that way so y take such a betting on it......y waiste ur memories....any gold shop will melt down and form into new art so they call it.....
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| What to do with a wedding ring after Divorce
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:58:12 AM | Looks like you like collecting things...I would make a box and put all of your momentos in that box..start a diary of how you feel during this time of change...
Put it in a closet..........perhaps years from now when you have moved on....you can bring it out and reflect what was another part of your life. This is YOUR life and when your gone and perhaps the loved ones you leave behind...will read what was on your mind at that point in your life. Leave it in a box of memories.........
Some have gold melted into a medallion and give it to a close family members.. | |
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| What to do with a wedding ring after Divorce
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:59:13 AM | After my divorce, I put everything in a box: pictures, wedding rings (mine & my ex's), etc.. When my son gets older, he can have the box.
A friend of mine sold hers after her marriage was over.
You'll decide when you're ready.
Best of luck! | |
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| What to do with a wedding ring after Divorce
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:01:02 AM | Although I never legally married my ex, I still have my rings. I really don't know what to do with them so they are just sitting in my jewelry box as of late.
A good friend of mine transferred her rings from the left hand to the right as she has children. Later on, she will have the engagement ring and wedding ring split and give them to her girls. Surprisingly, my friend and her ex are on very good terms and get along better now that they are divorced.
I am really not sure what to do with my rings at this point and I am sure time will tell me. I have entertained the idea of having the stones reset into something else. But for now, they just sit and that's okay. | |
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| What to do with a wedding ring after Divorce
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:08:06 AM | Depends on what it's worth. I wouldn't give it away if it were worth serious money. I certainly wouldn't keep it, though, since it's a symbol of something that did not work.
When I was leaving after my ex said she wanted a divorce, I left mine on the dresser next to our bed so SHE could deal with getting rid of it, since it was her idea to get rid of the marriage. | |
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| What to do with a wedding ring after divorce
Posted: 6/29/2008 10:22:52 AM | Dig a hole, drop it in and plant a tree on top of it.
Melt it down and cap some teeth with it.
Swallow it, and then go crap in the woods somewhere.
Attach it to a kite, let it get to a serious altitude, and then cut the string, turn your back and walk away.
Take an art class and transform it into a cross pendant for your ex-wife.
Attach it to some helium balloons, and set it free.
Push it into a freshly poured sidewalk.
Attach it to a rubber ducky, or toy boat, and send it down river.
Have it implanted under the skin of one of your ass cheeks.
Mail it anonymously to a stranger living in a depressed area of the country.
Get an anvil and hammer and pound it into gold leaf. | |
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| What to do with a wedding ring after divorce
Posted: 6/29/2008 10:54:44 AM | Kept mine for my kids, in case they want it... the ex- was going to keep hers for our daughter, but knowing her, she's probably sold it and never thought about it since.
In your case, I'd recommend selling it, and either doing something nice for yourself with the cash, or giving it to a reputable, preferably local, charity. | |
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| What to do with a wedding ring after Divorce
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:39:39 AM | | A divorce is a painful thing, when my marriage broke down, I put my wedding ring away, when my degree absolute came through my friends and I went out, got completely mashed, my wedding ring and my engagement ring went for a swim in the Thames. It was symbolic for me, that is the same day I reverted back to my maiden name. So if the Thames ever drys up, and if there are archaeologist in the future they may come across them lol. | |
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| What to do with a wedding ring after Divorce
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:51:37 AM |
I was proud to wear that ring for 16+ yrs, now it sits in a box and I wonder is it worth keeping for the memories or should I sell it?
Do you have children from this marriage? if so then keep it for them.Even though your marriage is over the children may want it for sentimental reasons.
If not then sell it and put the money towards something that makes you feel happy,it may help to relieve some pressure. | |
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