| Do you REALLY want to meet someone?
Posted: 7/2/2008 2:32:26 AM | Just looking at responses Ive been getting this time and others whenever invites are sent out for events. I get the same *would love to but maybe next time* from the same people.
I think there are many people on here who have no intention of ever really meeting anyone. For them, their online persona is all they have. I understand its a dating site and some people dont like a group setting but where else are you going to meet loads of people all looking for the same thing as you (someone to love them) without going to loads of expense? Events are great and if you dont find your *one* just think of all the new friends you may aquire.
Are you one of these people who really has no intention of meeting anyone (not that you would admit to it hehe) or do you know of people like that online? | |
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| Do you REALLY want to meet someone?
Posted: 7/2/2008 2:40:57 AM | as for "meeting someone" from one of these sites i have basicly given up.I like a quote i read on here once "why be single when we can me single togeather" and have decided this is the way to be single.
If by chance the elusive person missing in my life decides to show up well all be it but im like so many that are here to partake in the forums and attend the events.
As for the origional question i have meet some people through this site but due to timing , distance etc things just never went further than meeting people. | |
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| Do you REALLY want to meet someone?
Posted: 7/2/2008 2:51:33 AM | I agree Bloke .I would love to meet that special someone too ,but until I do I not going to sit at home on my own .Sometimes you just can't get to an event . I have met some awesome people at these events and who cares if they are not THE ONE , most are now friends and who knows they might have a cute cousin,brother ,mate .
So I say get out mingle and enjoy your life , not being partnered isn't the end of the world ! | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 3:28:19 AM | i find a room full of strangers intimadating so i would only go to an event if i knew a few people but that is just me.
Thats why in general i tend to stick to the one on one stuff from this site as i don't get as nervous but enough about my social problems  | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 3:53:59 AM | I was like that Curious, until I met a couple of ladies from Perth. They are fantastic. (think the blokes here are nutters as they are still single)
Just remember curious over 50% of the people there would most probably feel the same way you do. JUmp out of your comfort zone, you never know what will happen | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 4:07:53 AM | | I think we're all profile addicts . Most people are in love with the internet and are a bit too relaxed in the knowledge that there are so many lonely people out there . There's n rush . But really we're looking for love and sooner or later there's got to be "movement at the station" . | |
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| Do you REALLY want to meet someone?
Posted: 7/2/2008 4:36:24 AM | | maybe dating is one of those things that i have to force myself into like swimming, i remember i had a real fear of water, and i just forced myself to learn. Maybe i should do the same thing with dating, just force myself into the situation and learn to be comfortable in large groups. I think that i keep on giving myself reasons to stay away from events when really i should expand my horizons by forcing myself into it, otherwise, i wont get anywhere avoiding it like the plague. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 5:08:49 AM | True Curious , I did that cancelled a couple of times but once you actually go you will be so surprised at how nice people are .Really everyone is in the same boat .I find it easier in groups ,takes the pressure off . Just try it what have you got to loose .Come party with us QLDers and we'll show you how its done LOL | |
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| Do you REALLY want to meet someone?
Posted: 7/2/2008 5:30:26 AM | I love it that people here do group things (and the organisers seem to do a bang up job from what I read), but I tend to be someone who prefers to do stuff on a whim rather than planning social activities much in advance...so I'd be reluctant to say I was going to something only to not feel like it when the day/night comes and cause probs for the organisers. I guess that means I am an events-commitment-phobe. 
I did once make a last minute decision to pop in to one of the camping trips to meet some of the regular campers, but my timing was less than perfect and only a handful of them were there... and I managed to lose Hilly in the woods, so that was a bit of a disaster all round. I guess that sort of presents a case for having a more planned social life, but...meh.
I already have a partner so am not looking to meet anyone in a dating sense, but the people I am particularly drawn to I go meet one on one. I hang out with some of the locals reasonably often (particularly those who are receptive to last minute plans and spur of the moment suggestions ) and a couple of out of towners when they're about.
Apart from that, I kind of like the forums for the sake of the forums, cos I like writing. It fits in around working from home the days I am doing that, and it fits in around the nights that I am chatting to my bf on msn cos he's working a night shift. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 5:45:04 AM | bugger meeting anyone......... i am too upmyself for that
but then being immature and lacking class does keep the tossers at bay, so me thinks all is good!  | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 6:04:37 AM | Life is full of strangers, until you meet them?
I used to think like you Curious, but now I am one of those nutters, (apparently)
I have met a great bunch of people over the years, some are really good friends,
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Posted: 7/2/2008 7:55:05 AM | After 12yrs of freedom I often ask myself that very question, I have great friends both male and female, financial security and independence....can come and go whenever i want and need only answer to myself.
I remember a time when love and relationships didn't need to balance against the realities of life...but I must admit the older I get the harder it is for me to just let go and take that leap of faith. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 2:45:31 PM | | I do enjoy being single alot. I like all the things you can like about it. But I wouldnt say know to waking up next to a spunk of a man for a few lifetimes. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 9:17:15 PM | Sometimes I wonder the same thing myself after being (mostly) single for three years I enjoy my freedom to come and go as I please, travel, spend my money on whatever I choose (or not) etc and as others have said, the older and more set in our ways we become, the harder it is to compromise and accept someone else's freaky little habits like wet towels on the floor. On the other hand it sure would be nice to have someone special to do the fun stuff with and cuddle up to, friends are great but not quite the same. I guess the fact that we keep coming back here means we live in hope 
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Posted: 7/2/2008 11:00:05 PM | I'm with ronda.
Though I really enjoy walking into the unknown as a complete stranger,sometimes it can be a little nerve racking,sometimes not.The Perth girls/guys are great at making you feel welcome.
Still serious about this site and live in hope. | |
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| Do you REALLY want to meet someone?
Posted: 7/3/2008 1:40:36 AM | no
But if an opportunity bangs me on the head like i stepped in front of a mack track on a German autobahn i would not say no | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 1:46:18 AM | I guess there are many reasons why people may not want to go to meet and greets.
They may already be attached or find it hard to be comfortable in group situations.
Or maybe they just have no interest in meeting anyone who is actually going. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 2:05:48 AM | now now hilly dont be like that. we will let you out of the naughy corner at some stage of the night. you know we cant keep you there forever ( people will notice)
love your new profile pic | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 8:37:29 AM | Great thread Racy. Was thinking of creating a similar one myself. No point now.
I think dating forums in particular are used by a lot of people who fantasize about a relationship without ever having a real intention of forming one. I mean this in the very nicest of ways. Many people have a psychological or physical disability that prevents them from functioning confidently in normal social circumstances. Readily to mind are people who suffer from chronic depression, who are bi-polar, deaf, blind physically infirm etc.etc. In addition to this there are many ladies in unhappy or troubled relationships (and undoubtedly men too) who for reasons of fear, finances or children want to end an existing relationship but can't. In the wider community many members of our society act as full time carers for disabled children, aged parents etc. And let's not forget those who are genuinely self conscious about their appearance, who have severe phobias, or who are extremely nervous or shy.
There are many tens, probably hundreds of thousands of people like this in Australia today. Dating as opposed to other types of forums offer them a very real social intercourse. They use dating forums because this is what normal people do and they want so desperately to be, and feel, normal. Sure their chances may be remote, non existent or plain fantasy, but that's hardly the point. Dating forums offer them hope, as no other type of forum can. They are already denied so much in their social participation's. We, this community, even if we find them, should not expose or deny them this participation.
Are you one of these people who really has no intention of meeting anyone (not that you would admit to it hehe) or do you know of people like that online?
I know your thread has the best of intentions Racy and is really directed at people who just play dating sites for fun. You sort of caught me between a rock and a hard place with my own thoughts about this.
For them, their online persona is all they have.
Damn right and I for one am going to let them keep it.
Sorry, this isn't normal calm considerate me. I'm off to create mayhem and mischief elsewhere. After all I do have a rep to consider. | |
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| Do you REALLY want to meet someone?
Posted: 7/4/2008 1:04:42 AM | They may already be attached
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yes I'm actually gay, i use this account to convince people who have cottoned on about my sexuality as an intricate way of denying what i wish to keep to myself and my boyfriend. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 1:35:40 AM | I had a couple recently on here who wrote to me and said that the only reason that they were on here was because they want to laugh at how pathetic we all are..being on a dating site..they were laughing at me.. I could not believe that there are people like this on here..how upset was i of the rudeness.. as for myself.. i definately would like to meet someone..i thought that this might be a good way as well as going out.. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 2:34:31 AM | There's something kinda uncomfortable about meeting a bunch of people who "probably" know each other from other meets when you haven't met any of them yourself. Personally I definitely want to meet someone, so far have been unlucky.
There's another possibility though, and I'm thinking out loud here, perhaps some of the people that aren't attending have sent messages to members that are going but the messages were either rejected or ignored. That would make it kinda hard to go along and still feel comfortable. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 4:54:51 PM | well i've been hangin around here for what seems, "waaay past my use-by date!" but a big old whoop-de-doo to that!
i've met some great people, both at events and in a one on one situation and the good people i've met are the ones that put it all in perspective.
yeah, i've been in a few dumb situations too but as is always the case, there's a lesson to be learned there too.
i can't always make it to the events for whatever reasons but they will only ever be what we make of them. so if we stick our neck out and "have a go", then who knows? we might just enjoy ourselves. | |
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