| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/2/2008 3:34:41 PM | Hey all,
I'm not having any success on this site. Is it that I'm ugly or something of is it that my profile is not interest. Please be honest. You are not going to hurt my feelings. I just wanted to know if I was doing something wrong or if was the way look.
Thanks
Loucinda | |
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| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/2/2008 4:22:23 PM | Edit: misread original post.
As for your profile, check out this Profile Writing Tip as a starting point!
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx | |
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| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/2/2008 4:27:49 PM |
I'm not having any success on this site.
You've been here 4 days. May want to let it ride a little while longer before you go change anything. For all you know this could be the best profile for you, maybe not. If you can find a site that'll guarantee you'll find someone in 4 days, then that may be a better venue.
In the meanime if you feel the urge to make some changes, do as the gentlemen said and check out the tips thread. | |
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| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/2/2008 5:23:21 PM | If there are two babes in a main pic, and one babe is prettier than the other, the other babe will not do as well.
Crop the other babe out of your picture, then delete your second picture. Post some more of you, not quite so close to the camera lens. Smile. | |
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| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/2/2008 5:47:04 PM | well your profile picture is deciving , and guys do not like that . mean your friend is very good looking and some guys will click on your profile looking for her instead .
as for the rest , about me comes across as too serious for your age of 21 . no rush or worry to be married yet . there is still much time to find someone . | |
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| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/2/2008 6:29:17 PM | Bambi's grown up. Bambi ain't a baby anymore. He's got a nice trophy rack, and I, for one, would be proud to hang his head on my wall.
You're very specific, and that's a turnoff, as well. You want what every girl wants. Maybe there's a short, pale and ugly guy that you'd fall in love with VERY quickly that's turned off by the tall, dark, and handsome comment.
Also, you're too demanding (in my eyes, and probably lots of guys) about wanting a serious relationship NOW.
Profile comes off as pretty negative, IMO, and what you DO like is very specific and not everybody fits that profile...even those who you'd otherwise be interested in.
open up your standards to somebody that isn't David Hasselhoff circa 1985. Not everybody can wear tight jeans around their nipples and a black leather jacket and drive a talking car. | |
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| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/2/2008 7:43:35 PM | Hi Loucinda,
More photos of YOU, lose the picture of the hottie friend... actually THAT photo is a nice one of YOU, so crop it and keep it. Your other photo is just a bad picture and you should change it... or at least add a few more to give guys a better idea what you look like.... maybe a body shot?
Take out the part about never being in a "serious" relationship be being jealous of your friends getting married. It makes you look desperate.
Why do you say you HATE 'sappy love stories' and then add "J/K"? If you like them, say so... if you think they are stupid because they aren't realistic... well, horror movies aren't "realistic" either, are they? What's your purpose in mentioning love stories?
Take the 'bambi' comment out... it's okay to not like hunting, but you look a little over-the-top about it with the line of all-caps and exclamation marks.
"tall dark and handsome"? does that mean you're looking for a black man? If you are, state it, if you're not... well, that entire line "tall dark and handsome" is right out of a sappy love story... what does it even MEAN? Lose it.
You call men with long hair 'girlie'... why? Just to insult them? Do you think all men with long hair are gay or effeminate? What about rocker types? What about Jesus? Do you think long-haired men cannot be gentlemen?
Happy Fishing,
James, Seattle | |
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| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/2/2008 8:39:33 PM | Well, I would say that you're on the right track now. Well done on removing the more negative content. First off I would suggest editing your headline from "Southern Belle Look For Her Prince" to "Southern Belle Looking For Her Prince" (proper grammar in your headline will make a better first impression). Also, while you've stated a little about yourself and what you're looking for, it's basically a bare-bones list. I'd really suggest injecting a little more of your personality into the text itself - write about those things with your own style so that someone reading it can actually tell what you're like instead of taking your word for it.
Best of luck! | |
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| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/2/2008 9:24:05 PM | Shadow Outline
I do want people to be honest with me. It is the only way I can improve. I don't think someone should lie to someone else if that is not the way that they feel. I want the truth or else I would not have asked for advice. But thinks for the input.
Loucinda | |
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| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/2/2008 9:31:09 PM | | I am not 21y but even at my age same applies, for your profile I would suggest a picture change, your main pic is fine, but center pic of the 3 you have up Id suggest taking out the center one, your long hair enhances you so with the hair pulled back it makes face to severe. The picture with your girlfriend crop her out or replace with another picture with your hair down. The whole point here is to get and hold a guys attention, the picture does that, he will then read the profile after you have his attention. | |
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| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/2/2008 9:44:55 PM | Here are a couple broad suggestions:
Find or crop a close-up picture just of you - the one with the baby makes it look at first glance like you have kids and this might deter anyone who is not looking to date someone with kids from even looking at your profile.
Check your grammar and spelling - maybe copy and paste it into MSWord and do the grammar/spell check. There are quite a few typos and grammatical errors.
Break the first paragraph into smaller chunks of similar or related interests. Smaller paragraphs are easier to read than one big one.
I hope these suggestions were useful! Good luck. | |
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| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/3/2008 8:07:15 AM | be patient..it's not going to come overnight..
and get a pic that doesn't include anyone else..unless you're trying to get a babysitter for the baby or a date for your friend, they shouldn't be in your pictures..
good luck :-) | |
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| My Profile
Posted: 7/3/2008 9:27:58 AM | | Can you tell me how i set up a thread so that my profile can be reviewed. If you have a chances can you take a look at mine and see what yu think | |
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| My Profile
Posted: 7/3/2008 9:31:04 AM |
Can you tell me how i set up a thread so that my profile can be reviewed. If you have a chances can you take a look at mine and see what yu think
Yes, you find the "New Thread" Button at the top of the forum. It's kind of like the "Post Reply" button you used for this one, but says "New Thread" instead. Once you have your own thread, people will be glad to help you.
OP, you new main looks much better, yes. Now you just need to add a few more if you can find them! If not, get a friend to take a couple for you one day. | |
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| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/3/2008 8:27:15 PM | | you need to put some more pictures up. ones that show you having a good tie or something...anything as long as you put some more up, thats what i think anyway hun.x | |
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CB-Guy
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Joined: 3/17/2008
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| Is there something wrong with me?
Posted: 7/3/2008 8:58:55 PM | Hi, Not sure how in the world I got into this thread, as I am sure myprofile isn't good enough for critqueing... But coming from someone who has spent tons of time approving pictures on this site, ..... If I could make a suggestion, ahem.... Find someone with a digital camera and take some better pictures! You are not ugly! But you need some better shots.
Get a few friends together and do something interesting you "actually like" to do outside and take a few shots there! Give someone the impression "you have a life outside your 4 walls" Take a ton of pictures, then review them and select the best one's, go for at least one good head shot, try different angles, with and without glasses, different lighting, different clothes, different places... try and look natural. Also try cropping them. Guys are very visual! Sorry to say. But taking teh time to make your pictures look good will go father with men than trying to get them to read a well written profile. Most guys look first and read 2nd.
Hope that helps | |
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