| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 7/2/2008 6:40:43 PM | I'm looking to hear from people WHO ARE NOT here just for sexual experiences or clandestine dates outside of their marriage (aka cheaters).
I'd like to hear genuine reflections on the POF experience ... in terms of finding people you would be interested in developing a potential relationship. Honesty would really help.
How did you break the ice meeting people, just jump right in there with a f2f, or did you email back and forth for a while? | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 7/6/2008 5:19:31 PM | | Yeah, I'm with the person above. I haven't met anyone in person yet (just haven't been interested, gotten that far, or they haven't asked) other than a POF get together that a bunch of us went to in North Scottsdale quite a few months back. That was fun, I thought. Other than that, I'm interested to hear answers as well! | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 7/6/2008 7:42:26 PM | I haven't met anyone either. I've tried sending out tons of first contacts to see if anyone bit, and I've tried being really selective and only contacting people that I thought might go somewhere, and neither approach worked. Lots of read/deletes. Very few ever contacted me, and most of those were just all wrong. The few email exchanges I got going ultimately went nowhere. Who would have thought this would be so difficult? Just like in person, huh? 
Socializing is so frustrating.  | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:20:11 PM | Yeah. I haven't had any success either. Like the Kychik33 I have decided that meeting people on the forums to be much more enjoyable. I have sent umpteen virtual gifts to God knows how many women and not one has ever bothered to write me back if for no other reason that to say thanks. Rude I tell ya. I have written to so many different types of woman ranging in age from 18 to 60. I'm not picky. I have no problems getting laid in the real world but it seems that every woman on pof thinks all I want is to get laid. Shame on them. I just want some friends and if something happens then great but so many people are hung up on your profile, or just bored when they open their account, that nothing ever happens. Besides, if you are not in the least bit open to the possibility of becoming intimate with someone WTF are you doing on a dating site?
I have posted pictures of myself. I have taken them off and I have posted them again. I am currently leaving them off as I don't see them doing any good one way or the other. I get more interaction from the forums than I have ever gotten from pm-ing those I am interested in meeting and I doubt I will ever send another gift.
I belong to a lot of forums that have nothing to do with dating. Way I see pof is this is just one more where I can spend some time and visit with others. As I said, I have no problems getting laid. My problem is finding someone I want to spend a lot of good quality time with. I was hoping pof would be a venue that might open a few doors that weren't there before I joined. Well it appears that I am wrong. The women that I am interested in that do post on pof aren't interested in talking. Go figure.  | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:47:09 PM | I thought that it was just the area that I lived in that caused very little action here. The only guys who were serious about seeing me from PoF were either completely dishonest about themselves (or delusional) or they were just looking for booty call. Then I moved to the city and nothing changed there. I'm back in the middle of nowhere and pretty content with my life whether or not the man of my dreams comes knocking on my door or beating down my inbox.
I've had better luck with craig's list. No luck with anything else, though a 2.5 year open and fun relationship through Match, but saw the guy in real life first.
I'm really not here for meeting people, it will happen or it won't. I have a real life. Sometimes when I'm bored I sneak around here for a little while, then disappear again -particularly if a friends' ex girlfriends show that they are still obsessively and psychotically reading everything I say (and they get so upset when I call them nutjobs....yet they wouldn't know I say that if they weren't reading every line I write because they always seem to know within the hour that I just referred to them as NUTJOBS!!!! LOL). Aanyway, if this doesn't bring them out again, I'll see y'all tomorrow. I've got real life stuff to pay attention to: a painting to finish, a loft to clean for masses of overnight company tomorrow, a short hike through the desert before it gets too dark, and a friend fella to go squeeze and snuggle with tonight. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 7/17/2008 4:27:08 AM | | Ive had ups and downs. Ive met some cool people. Ive met some not so cool. I'm not really looking for love though just some companionship when I'm out on the town. When I go into it with the idea that I'm just going to meet this person and have the best time I can it works out the best. That way if they not so cool I can just have a good time and say goodbye. If they are cool I can hang out with them again. It's not anymore disappointing than in real life I guess. Theres a lot more eye candy here than a typical bar though. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 7/17/2008 1:14:26 PM | | Well I built my profile last year on a recommendation from my boss, and to date I have not had a single e-mail replied to, nor has anyone initiated contact with me. Overall I would have to say I'm a little disappointed. For all the whining about head games, fakeness, and dishonesty; at least the women I have initiated contact with, don't seem to see genuine when it is staring them in the face. I have changed my profile at least 3 times because I thought I might have been too revealing, now my profile is so simplistic any female would have to look beneath the surface. They don't though. I'm worried that I will have to settle for someone who appreciates my physical self more than my character, and that is the biggest disappointment of all. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 7/19/2008 8:43:45 AM | I just signed into the discussion groups. I didn't know what that meant either. Glad you asked. :-) I've met one person so far, he was really nice and actually not bad looking. But what we didn't really know from profile or a few emails is that I'm
just not as adventurous. He was into motorcycle racing and 4 wheeling in Colorado
mountains, skiing. All very fun and nice things if you're into that. I'm more of a
stayon the ground, wine tasting, relaxing person. Had some good email exchanges and a few kind of weird. For guys who say they didn't get responses back, I'll tell you that at the beginning I always tried to say thank you and reply but then I had some that wouldn't leave me alone. Hard to be rude but it's better than being stalked. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 7/25/2008 5:08:25 PM | I became a member of POF the middle of June 08. I am having a blast getting to know new people. I guess I'm one of the fortunate ones. I've gone on several casual dates with 6 different women. I've begun friendships with 2 of them, and continue to date the others. I am true to myself and my profile...( I don't sleep around)...I have made some e-mail friends as well... On most of the ice breaking moments...she would offer her phone number or a place to meet up for our first date. :)
I wish everybody the same luck....just don't be afraid to meet, that's why we're on POF.
See it, Believe it, Retrieve it.... | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 7/26/2008 6:39:58 PM | | I have met several nice Ladies on this site. Just not the Right lady yet..lol..I just keep on plugging away. I don't ask for #'s, when after talking via e-mails a comfort level has been est., then the woman will ask me to call them. Women have to be carefull sadly to say. But overall mostly pleasant experiences. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 8/10/2008 9:24:13 AM | well, I fond that women (at least in Arizona) seem to want to be asked. Like I started mailing back and forth with this woman, then it went to personal IM's (yahoo or AIM) then to a phone call. I felt like I had to ask to make each step happen. Which is not my nature really. We chatted on the phone a few times, each for hours on end. I had a family emergency and got side tracked for like a week+ and she never ever called.
So I deduced that I was just a way for her to pass the time. Someone to talk to but really didn't care if I called again. Which was kind of a bummer.
I have never been opposed to a woman asking me for my number or to chat on AIM/Yahoo or even to meet for coffee. Its actually a neat thing.
As for meeting people... I look at it this way: If I messaged you or at least viewed your profile, then I'd go for coffee and chat. If nothing else its geting out and meeting someone I'd not otherwise get to meet. No harm in that right?
Women seem to have their guard up, and some complain in their profile about the types of people they meet, but I suspect that they Read Delete more mail than they admit. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 8/10/2008 9:28:58 AM | to the op:
I used to do the mail, personal mail or personal IM then phone routine. But I found that you can talk to someone so much you don't have much to talk to once you meet! So I have cut that back some. If we are mailing back and forth and it all seems good (plus she will initiate conversation) then I will ask for her #.
If we can talk and have fun and laugh in the first 2-3 phone sessions, I will ask her for coffee.
It doesn't always work, but this way there is plenty to talk about once f2f.  | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 9/5/2008 8:15:34 PM | I'm not sure why so many people here have had suck bad luck w/ POF. I joined this site in Feb 08 after becoming single again after 7 years.
I really did not expect much, and to be honest, at that time I really didnt care if anyone even saw my profile, but my buddy kind of forced me to make one.
It is now Sept 08 and I have had face to face meets with no less that 10 woman. Most were very nice evenings, a few I couldnt wait to end, a few I still talk to as friends, and one that I wish could have worked, but our locations were too big of an obsticale.
The thing is, if it wasnt for POF I would have never met these people. Maybe its not POF or the people on POF, but maybe its you. Something youre saying, something youre not saying, maybe youre not just being you. I dont know if you have looked at my pic and profile, but I look mean in my pic(which really is not a flattering pic, Im actually am very nice  ) and my profile is weak. Maybe I've had good luck because Im being me from 1st contact to first meet.
I think so many people have bad luck here is because the are trying so hard to get some sort of communication or date set up that they arent being themselves when communication first starts. Youre bound for failure right from the start. The only thing youll be focused on is making sure you act like that person you made your date believe you were before you met. Just be yourself from the start(and that includes your profile!) and your luck on here will go up. I believe there is someone for everyone, and your someone might be reading you profile right now. Is he/she reading about they real you, or seeing that one good photo the made you look like Brad pit becaues the light hit the lense just right, but in reality you look more like Borat? That person reading your profile right now may think Borat is hot.
Anyway, sorry so long. Funny, I can prob count on one hand how may times I have posted to ANY forum. Now I see why, It takes too long  | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 9/5/2008 11:22:25 PM | I've met a few and earned some great friends. met the last half-assed non relationship on here and it lasted a few months before kicked me in the left ventricle and wandered off.
But I've found that people on here are looking for their own personal perfection and will not settle or change. So they all want the hot 26 year old female with no drama no kids and her own money while we all want the financially emotionally and physically secure 30 year old male (i'm talkin my age group) who will love them unconditionally regardless of their history.
So.. finding that is virtually impossible.
Which is why honesty is so important to em. I've had a great time on this site! I'm just blunt and make it clear that I'm all about laughs and a good time. no drama. :)
there are a few diamonds in the rough out there that i'm currently batting my eyelashes at.. lets see what happens. ;p
let me know if you start a thread comparing pof meeting nightmares.
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 10/13/2008 6:39:22 PM | p8tn34 wrote
I've met one person so far, he was really nice and actually not bad looking. But what we didn't really know from profile or a few emails is that I'm
just not as adventurous. He was into motorcycle racing and 4 wheeling in Colorado
mountains, skiing. All very fun and nice things if you're into that. I'm more of a
stayon the ground, wine tasting, relaxing person. Had some good email exchanges and a few kind of weird. For guys who say they didn't get responses back, I'll tell you that at the beginning I always tried to say thank you and reply but then I had some that wouldn't leave me alone. Hard to be rude but it's better than being stalked.
Well thanks Patti, you were really nice to met as well, I'm glad to see a post about me and have it be nice, not that I've seen otherwise. I enjoyed our meeting also and not everyone has the same interest and until you meet, you really don't now that. But I've enjoyed meeting the people on here who I would never have got to meet otherwise. Patti is a very intelligent and good looking woman who is in shape and would be a great catch. So someone mail her and meet a very nice person.
I'm met 10+ women on here and 2 were very nice that I went out with more than a few times but distance has been a big issue. Especially since I live out in BFE, otherwise known as Queen Creek. But I'm enjoying meeting people I would have otherwise never met had it not been for this site. | |
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| Just curious...how is your dating experience here at POF
Posted: 11/30/2008 4:00:49 AM | not what i expected. i thought this would be a great place to meet up with someone cool.. hasnt happened yet, and i lost count of how long ive been using it. im losing faith in the internet, as if there was ever much certainty in it from my standings. even if i was married, or in a relationship, i wouldnt depend on this site to do anything for me.
i almost live on the forums.. why dont they make an actual chatroom?
or multiple chatrooms? that would be even better in my opinion | |
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