| A question for men who have children
Posted: 7/3/2008 9:02:18 PM | When men who have children see the phrase "does not want children", do you automatically think that this includes the children you already have?
I have that selected this phrase only because I don't want to have more children but if a guy has kids, that can be okay. I would be surprised to think I am alone on this thought.
I am wondering if that phrase is misleading. What is your take on it? | |
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| A question for men who have children
Posted: 7/3/2008 10:25:24 PM | | That would not be my assumption. Rather it would be. "Me no preggers, me no adopt. You wanna change diapers? Me get you Potty-Train Dotty Doll for Christmas!" Well, grammar-challenged tone not necessarily inferred. | |
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| A question for men who have children
Posted: 7/3/2008 10:44:59 PM | We’ve bandied this one about, Mermaid, and agree it’s pretty ambiguous. Some mean “no more preggers for me.” Some mean “no dads with young kids.”
I think they mean they don’t want children anywhere on the planet, so I send them grumpy e-mail. One wrote back saying she meant no children over fifty. Yeah, whatever. | |
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| A question for men who have children
Posted: 7/3/2008 11:25:09 PM | Not at all BBWM
My daughter,when she was younger was part of the package,she is older now,still at home for a long time I hope,I guess she is still a smaller piece of the package.
I just hope the lady I meet,has control and has bought her kids up as well as I have. | |
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| A question for men who have children
Posted: 7/4/2008 12:42:15 AM | I have 3 children who live with their mother.
To me the phrase 'does not want children' relates to not wanting any more biologically, I'm paying child support for at least another 11 years and I'm also 47, which would mean I'd be 68 by the time any child conceived now would have turned 21, so I'd be reluctant to have any more that way.
I'm happy to be involved with a woman who already had kids however. | |
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| A question for men who have children
Posted: 7/4/2008 1:50:53 AM | I don't assume as it is very ambiguous, but.........
I have had women write and say "didn't you bother to read my profile I don't want a man with kids........I can have my own" | |
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| A question for men who have children
Posted: 7/4/2008 2:04:00 AM | OP,
It's a bit ambiguous, but I automatically assume it to mean the same thing as you assume. Actually, had never really given it much thought until I read your post.
To take it a step further, I generally assume people who have children don't really care whether or not their potential dates have children. (I also assume those who have no children prefer to meet others with no children.) | |
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| A question for men who have children
Posted: 7/4/2008 10:40:56 PM | So why then do men who put "does not want children " email women who want children
as stated in their profiles?? That one always confuses me. Can someone explain?? | |
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| A question for men who have children
Posted: 7/5/2008 3:38:59 AM | | if woman already has kids and dont want anymore and a bloke dont want no more then a relationship between them should work but if you get a woman that dont want no more and a bloke that dose then if a bloke really likes the woman he wants to be with then he has to decide what to do as a bloke myself i dont want no more but if i met a woman that dont want more but has kids i think that would be fine as i have always said kids are part of the package if a bloke cant accept that then they should go and find someone who dont have kids ps hope this helps u | |
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| A question for men who have children
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:40:41 AM | So these guys should stop messaging women who want kids then.Or at least take the time to read the profiles. Thanks for some good answers people.  | |
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| A question for men who have children
Posted: 7/9/2008 1:14:53 PM | | I always take it to mean that she doesn't want to personally go through childbirth. The idea that they might meet their "soul partner" but dismiss it because they have a child or children already seams well silly! | |
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