| Head over Shoes - Telling a Friend You Like Them
Posted: 7/4/2008 8:27:33 AM | Question time.
About 6 years ago I met a girl who I instantly fell head over shoes for (I don't wear heels). Everything about us clicked but she had a boyfriend at the time and I had a girlfriend, so, as it usually happens, we became 'friends'.
Two years later, I am living in a different province and I just broke up with my girlfriend. I had been talking to this other 'friend' off and on during this time. No emotions invested, just friendly talk. My girlfriend broke up with me on a Friday, by Saturday I heard from her that she is already seeing someone else and had slept over night at his house. I was in Toronto at the time, first time there, it was 36 degrees Celsius (96F) outside, I was sweaty and lost in the city, and couldn't stop thinking about this 'friend'. So, like an idiot, I called her. Then, more idiotic, I got her answering machine and left some cracked out message about how I can't stop thinking about her and wanted her.
Big mistake. We didn't speak again for over a year and a half. I think I scared her.
Then, when we started talking again, I was seeing someone again. As was she. We continued to talk or hang out occasionally, but from the time we started talking again to now, we were either one or both of us in a relationship. Now, for the first time, we are both single again. Problem is, I have spent a year and a half in the dog house and four and a half years as a 'friend'. Is there any chance of me changing my situation with her or just accept the fact that it will not be. I already screwed things up once by telling her how I feel, I'd rather not do that again. Should I simply see how she is and play it by ear? Are there subtle things that I can do. I'm sure all of you can relate to that one person who, for some reason or another, you can't get out of your head; so 'forgetting' about her and moving on is an arduous task.
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| Head over Shoes - Telling a Friend You Like Them
Posted: 7/4/2008 2:12:16 PM | | Life is a lotta laughs, a real comedy at times with all the misunderstandings and bad timing. Try not to leave messages on answering machines, think twice. Sounds as though you have a good basis for a relationship, a long friendship at this point, you never know where it might lead. Just take it easy, don't scare her off. Could be a real nice thing. Good luck! | |
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