| 50ish guy requests reviews and sugestions
Posted: 7/4/2008 10:45:05 AM | Hi fellow ponders, I have been here at POF for about a year and get a lot of visits to my profile but few messages, or interest so i wonder if the problem is the words I've choosen.
I've tried several different profiles trying to find the right words but struggle, so I appreciate some opinions from the ladyfish about weather they think I'm shooting myself in the foot by writing too much or including stuff that doesn't matter to them.
Thanks for the help. | |
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| 50ish guy requests reviews and sugestions
Posted: 7/4/2008 1:29:39 PM | | I like your profile very much! Your pictures are good and what you have to say is good. Not sure why you're not having much success. But then again, I'm not either so I don't think about it too much. Do you contact any woman and if so, do they contact you back? What do you say when you contact them? I never get any initial responses so I've started making first contact. Still not successful at this but again....it takes time and I believe perfect timing and lot's of luck. | |
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| 50ish guy requests reviews and sugestions
Posted: 7/4/2008 2:56:21 PM | I love the pictures, it shows the real you and doing things you love. I would start with your second paragraph, maybe take out the first paragraph altogether. A gal likes consideration, but more than that, likes someone that knows their own mind. I know that sounds odd, but online dating is 2 dimensional and in person, it would sound sincere and caring but online, it is too...agreeable. Does that make sense? You sound like the original Southern gentleman and any woman would be lucky to have you!
Good luck! | |
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| 50ish guy requests reviews and sugestions
Posted: 8/15/2008 3:46:02 AM | hi ~~~
i am a counselor ...
what i have noticed during this age of singles sites is that the people who write only a couple of lines are usually the people who are not willing to put much effort into their relationships either ...
this is a great opportunity for people to express who they truly are ... and what is comfortable to them ... and used well and wisely is one of the greatest opportunities to come into the singles world ...
i read your profile and found it delightful with a healthy touch of humour... made you sound very real ... and sincere ...
as in real fishing... one baits one's hook for the type of fish they are trying to catch ... you had a long relationship before ... it seems like you want another ...
and are willing to make the effort to nurture one ...
the people that are "turned off" by your profile are going to be the people who do not "fit" you comfortably ... and you did not want them anyway ...
so it actually prevents you having to deal with them ... i call it "rejection is protection" ... meaning that those people "rejecting" you is really protecting you from the frustrations and disapppointments of becoming involved with people who do not have your value system ...
one thing i did notice however ... i was going to send you this in an email.. but the site said that you were not accepting emails from people of my gender or age ... the age thing is no big deal as we are not a fit anyway ... but i had an experience on a singles site where their programming glitched and changed the gender on my profile .. and you said you wanted ladyfish opinions ... so check to make sure that your profile allows contact from ladyfish ...
and it matters not how many emails you receive ...
just that you receive the "right" one when the timing is "right" ..
good luck in your journey ....
have a magykle day...
jafne | |
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| 50ish guy requests reviews and sugestions
Posted: 8/15/2008 10:07:29 AM | OP, your chosen handle is intriguing, and I am curious about why you selected it. As the sister of a former Boy Scout, I have to admit that I don't get good feelings from it.
Your profile words look okay to me; nothing stands out as needing to be changed or tweaked. I'll confess I am not crazy about your numbered list of "more stuff" as it looks like something found in one of those round robin e-mails. (A male buddy used to send that stuff around constantly; so glad he grew up.)
HTH | |
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| 50ish guy requests reviews and sugestions
Posted: 8/15/2008 1:24:39 PM | No real smiling pics. Negative headline. No profession listed. The "about me" is way too long, and not in a very revealing way. I don't care to be told to listen to your music choice "with your heart, not your ears."
Your screenname reads "Boy Scouts for you." Why do I need Boy Scouts? And it's a little creepy focusing on little boys when you make NO mention of Boy Scouts at all in your profile anywhere else -- I keep thinking of Alec Baldwin on SNL in the "Canteen Boy" sketches. Best to avoid those connotations and find another name that defines you. | |
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| 50ish guy requests reviews and sugestions
Posted: 8/15/2008 1:37:48 PM | I think we can overload people about oursevles, leaving little to find out about each other during the next stages. Have you ever fallen for someone that was not your "type" sure... too much info and most people on these sites start "ruling out" what they don't like about you before they even meet you.
I agree with another poster, maybe I have adult ADD  but if a profile is too long I will just skim it anyway just to find out some basics. | |
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