| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:46:51 PM | I find that now that I'm a single parent most of my friends are married. That leaves me alone when my kids go away and I don't have anyone to go hand out with. I want to go out to clubs, movies, dinner and events but don't really have anyone to go do these things with.
I need advice on how to meet new people men or woman that want to go out and do stuff.
Please help and give me some advice. thx | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/4/2008 11:07:53 PM | Failing to see how your friends being married leaves you without people to go out with.
Are your married friends chained to their husbands 24/7?
My circle of close friends are married, in relationships, single, with kids, without kids. Their relationship status doesn't affect our friendship. I've got married friends that I take off on girlie weekends with. I've got married friends that I go out to dinner with...some times them as a couple, sometimes just one party.
But to answer your question... How to meet new people?
Put your self out there. Join a new club, take up a hobby or adult learning class, talk to people in the super market, at a bus stop, in the queue for tickets to the event you want to go to, in the school playground, in the street say hello to people you pass. At work, talk to people in your department, outside your department, in the kitchen when you're making a cuppa. Before you know it you have new acquaintances and each conversation with them is giving you the opportunity to find out if you have things in common.
An example... Just yesterday there was a woman in the staff room at work had kicked her shoes off and was rubbing her feet... I started a convo about a fab foot spray I got as a freebie at an open air concert.... conversation then followed on our taste in high heels and concerts. Now she's not gonna be my new best friend, but I'm sure we'll interact again. | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/5/2008 7:45:01 PM | One of the things I did to meet new people was post a profile on this website (it works but with some exceptions). I also got involved with a local singles group in my area and participated in events they hosted/sponsored (i.e. dances, game nights, pickup sports, etc.). I took ballroom and line dance classes last winter and met a few new folks there as well.
For me, it's been a matter of stepping outside my comfort zone and joining groups on my own and relying on my personality to shine and help me to connect with others. I can't say I have gangs of new pals, but I've managed to make some new friends with whom to hang out.
Good luck... | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:50:04 AM | A few years ago, I belonged to a group called "Parents Without Partners." The membership was only $40/year; and it was not set up as a dating/matchmaking organization-it was specifically for single parents (both custodial and non-custodial) to be able to have a network of peers for social events, etc.
While it didn't work out for me -too many of the "adult activities" in the Milwaukee chapter involved bars and dancing- I liked the simplicity of the organization, as well as the earnestness of it. | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/6/2008 11:31:47 AM | | join a singles group in your area, try meetup.com , check into single parents, perhaps they have a night out without kids. I can understand when you have friends that are married, they mostly treat you when it's convenient for t hem to go o ut, usually if their significant other is busy. | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/6/2008 12:17:26 PM | | Join a group such as Parents Without Partners. I belong to that group and it is great. We do activites with kids and without. The group has been a great outlet for my boredom on weekends or even during the week. | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/6/2008 12:56:10 PM | I found a site years ago following the divorce called singleparentsmingle.com It was (or used to be) a pretty good group of people. We would organize meets to go to Disney and all that. Some of them were kid friendly and others weren't, depening on whether it was appropriate or not.
It's kinda like here but single parents only, and just like here, it can be entertainment, camaraderie, support, or even a dating site. Many of the women there were good friends online and in real life.
Remember, you're just a single parent, not a defective person, ya know? | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:56:56 PM | I am not sure if this will help but now that i am a single mom all of my old friends are just starting there families and i feel that i am not in that mommy and me club as mine is a teenager, and i have also just moved to a place where i know very few people so now i have to wonder where do i go to meet people.
Well going to dance classes and walking in the parks as i am not in to the club scene as far as finding a partner fine to go later LOL. Going anywhere thats not being home and meeting new people through friends and co workers is always good. A friend of mine actually married someone she met through her coworkers on a blind date.
So hang in there and when you least expect it it will happen. (thats what i am hoping for anyway) | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/6/2008 11:51:43 PM | | meetup.com is an excellent suggestion. I live in a metropolitan area and there are many, many different interest groups to join where I've made some really nice new friends, doing things I enjoy doing in my free time. Some of the groups even have kid-friendly activities. | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/7/2008 10:29:01 AM | dtimeisnow.....
You are looking for single parent friends than maybe you could change your "limits" on here (JUST AN THOUGHT  )......but if you just looking for single parent friends online/in person than you should try to change your status (message status) on here good luck.
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:56:12 PM | I've been a single parent for 11 years. My boys were 2 and 3 when their Dad checked out on us. The early years were extremely isolating. Yes. Married friends don't always include you in the weekend bbq's or what have you because, well my theory, is you have no signifitant other to hang with her husband.
I was so busy doing yard work and home maintenance on the weekends while taking care of my son's that I didn't have time to go for lunch with the girls. Nor was the money flowing. I hung in there. I decided to downsize on the home (less maintenance / time) and just kept repeating that it wasn't forever.
Now, It's better. My son's are young teens and don't require me to be with them 24/7. I can get out for a few hours whenever, alone.
Recently, I had a significant-other for alittle over a year and made friends with other couples. Since, we broke up I haven't hung with the other couples as often. It's just the way it is.
McD's or the grocery store on Friday evening is where I find alot of single fathers. Go to the park, ride bicycles with the kids, take a class. Enjoy your time with your children. They will grow up and you'll have time for you. | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/7/2008 9:13:03 PM | I too would agree with changing the profile settings. I wound up clicking on another woman from your town because she posted to a thread earlier in the day. You need to think outside the box and yes, perhaps even move out of your comfort zone and do things like going to the movies solo.
A few years back when I was still with my X I started doing that occasionally; going to the movies by myself. I thought it would be horrible and I would feel like a huge reject but you get to the point that you have to consider whether getting out and doing something fun, even if you do it alone, is preferable to sitting at home waiting for the right things to gel so you have someone to do things with. | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/27/2008 3:29:53 PM | I understand were you are coming from; since I have been single I have noticed that my married friends don't seem to include me in events as often. The reason being that it was "a couples thing".....
There should be a single parent events group for each city on here so "us" single parents can get together and do something. Some can include the kids and other things such as a night out without the kids. | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/27/2008 11:09:24 PM | It's a though one, I understand exactly what you are saying, when I was single, all my friends were single, when I was married all my friends were married, when I got divorced, I was on my own. I slowly made new friends after my divorce, it was mostly single/divorced women with children like myself, and slowly they've all married off, and now is me, myself and I again, lol.
It's not going to be easy to step out of your comfort zone, as some other posters have said, but if you are serious about making new acquaintances you are just going to have to jump in and do it.
NOTE: if you discover the key on how to make great new friends , let me borrow it, I need it too.... lol I am with you!
Good luck  | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/28/2008 12:06:49 AM | Hey OP, I hear you.. as apparently so do many other single parents in here..
There are some great suggestions being given.. and as for changing your settings.. I haven't tried to check your profile, butif you have it set such that only a man can message you, you might want to change it to allowing anyone to meet you. Perhaps a woman in a similar situation reading this profile and living near you can contact you. .. as well as the men.
Good luck to you!! | |
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| single parent in need of single parent friends
Posted: 7/28/2008 6:35:03 AM | I ama single male parent in London, UK. I have found out that a single parent, most of my friends are married. I will be glad to meet other single parents for friendship.
xxx | |
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