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Posted: 7/4/2008 8:49:26 PM | Hi guys,
I'm a single girl and I love sex toys. Many guys asked to date me, but there is an "specific one" I really like. We talk a lot and I am trying to be honest. I admitted to be a fan of toys. Now he thinks im a sex maniac and he can't stop talking about sex. It's bothering me a lot. Im not a maniac......lmao, I just happen to enjoy those damn toys.....lol. Do Guys Truly Believe Girls Who Use Toys Are More Into Sex than Girls Who Dont Buy/Use Them?
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Posted: 7/4/2008 9:06:47 PM | | Well..........................yeah. Admitting to really enjoying the toys gives the impression that you're really into sex, so naturally we're gonna talk about sex all the time. Those that aren't into toys so much or not at all gives the impression that they're a lot more conservative when it comes to sex. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 9:09:46 PM | Leaving some mystery to the honesty doesn´t hurt yanno????????
You can´t mention sex toys and how much you love them.............and not expect the guy to get all excited about the conversation. That´s probably all he´ll talk about now........... | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 9:10:53 PM | | I went on a first date once with a gal, to see the movie Toy Story, and half way through the ushers came in to the theater to ask some of the women to turn off their vibrators because the buzzing was annoying people and drowning out the soundtrack. Well, not really. I need a life. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 9:27:32 PM | | no, but it may be the fact that you mentioned them that hes hoping you might use one in his presence. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 9:29:29 PM | ""Now he thinks im a sex maniac and he can't stop talking about sex. It's bothering me a lot. Im not a maniac......""
So ... what gives you the impression you're NOT a sex maniac? All those toys you keep talking about. What are the used for? Book ends? Scaring the goldfish? Tie them to cats tails and watch them go berzerk? What? IF you use them you ARE a sex maniac. It's in the RULES, OK?
If he persists just mention casually that you didn't mean to give him the impression YOU used them on YOU. You MEANT that you'd like to use them on HIM. Gauge his reaction. Silence might mean he's a chicken$shit and will hang up any second, never ever talk to you again and will likely suffer months if not years of nightmares and post traumatic stress syndrome. If he persists in sex discussions suggest that before you actually hook up, he might want to do some serious STRETCHING exercises.   | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 9:30:49 PM | OP - There is no difference between a man or woman looking after their own sexual urges and needs. Like the old jokes says - a dog is man's best friend because a man respects that a dog can lick its own balls - sorry guys So on that line of thinking, maybe some men are jealous that some women have no problems going into an adult shop to buy toys, and use them.
Little boys are not discouraged to touch themselves while in many homes, little girls are. I personally think that is the difference and causes many problems, as I know some of my girlfriends dont masturbate and seldom have orgasims. In addition, many women dont know what sexually pleases them, and they expect that a man should magically know what pushes their buttons. Both women and men score from good to bad as lovers, so its about finding your match.
IMHO - I would keep your toy inventory to yourself and not advertise it, untill you are with someone really special in a long term relationship and the topic comes up. If there is an interest you can either go shopping together for toys to share, and if you happen to have one of the toys that interest you both, mention that you have that one. I am of the impression that if you need to advertise it to men on a casual basis, there might be some kind of self esteem issues troubling you. I dont know, just speculation. And certainly not judging you. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 7:49:18 AM | | i just think that most girls are not comftable talking about sex and toys with a guy so if a girl talks about it most guys get a bit excited and think that you are up for more then just the usual saturday evening shag... if you don't want guys to think that you are into kinky stuff you have to play the part ofa a good girl even if you are not | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 8:07:42 AM |
Do Guys Truly Believe Girls Who Use Toys Are More Into Sex than Girls Who Dont Buy/Use Them? No, but women who start sex toy threads defending their use are probably more into sex than women who don't start this sort of thread. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 8:14:06 AM | The answer is so simple that it's hilarious.
You're obviously not that into sex if you enjoy toys much more than sex. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 8:30:15 AM | I love my toys also I have a drawer full.
I fully enjoy them and love to talk about them sometimes but I agree its not all I want to talk about. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 8:30:56 AM | there isnt anything wrong with being a sex maniac either I dont think.
Sex is a very natural enjoyable part of life..
Im a nypo I think.
guys girls it doesnt matter. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 10:20:54 AM | Sex toys can be an awesome thing that someone can use to get themselves off and their sexual friends.
I myself have bought a few toys ,but would much rather have someone to share them with in different positions etc. Vibrators are a great thing that if placed in the right spot(s) are fun while looking at other people getting their rocks off. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 10:27:46 AM | | well if u talk about sex toys then thats what they will think | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 10:33:32 AM | Hmmm... Very simple. Your toy talk made him horny and now that's all he can think about. He keeps bringing up sex b/c he wants to get it on with you.
Don't overthink it.
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Posted: 7/5/2008 10:56:47 AM | In Answer to your question...
I have the same problem.... lol!!!
And actually I work at a sex shop BestVibes.ca so I get it 2x as bad as you probably...People assume you sleep around because you are around sex toys or something...so not true... but I asked one of my friends (a guy) that question before and I think we discovered what might be the reason for this was... it's not that they think you are more into sex thay just know that you are better able to please yourself... and are more into peing pleased... and that the fact that it won't be a complete mystery to both of you how to get you off in bed... is a turn on...
It's a proven fact that a girl who masturbates regularly is actually able to reach orgasm quicker.
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Posted: 7/5/2008 11:08:36 AM | | There are women who dislike sex, or who have sex only in the strictest of circumstances, and so anytime a woman shows that she enjoys sex she is already way out in front of the ones whose standard message is NO SEX. It's like finding a door left open in a prison wall. It inspires possibilities of freedom from the usual constraints. If a woman wants to get a line of men going around the corner and down the block all she has to do is say two things: I like men; sex is good. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 11:31:39 AM | | Well one thing you have to learn in life is that - if you start a relationship off with sexual chat and sexual innuendo - that is the only path that the relationship will follow! You planted the seed - now your man wants to watch it grow!! You have to have some decorum in order to have a true loving relationship flourish - based on who you are - not your desire for sex toys! Those things can come later - once the relationship is established ! .... but hey if that's all you want in life - have fun with it!! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 11:37:12 AM |
You're obviously not that into sex if you enjoy toys much more than sex.
I agree with Lixiette on this one. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 12:03:47 PM |  Wrong! I'm not super "into" toys but have used them before, but in my opinion, nothing is better than having the real thing. Why pretend with something cold, hard, and fake instead of hot, real, soft steel? I want to wrap my legs around it, kiss it, touch it, run my hands over it, feel the heat, skin and hair, and everything in between. I am VERY into sex and being sexual and my interest in toys, or lack thereof, has nothing to do with my sex drive.  | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 12:45:05 PM | | I love it when I hear a woman is into toys! That means she enjoys sex, and God knows I've met enough of the opposite. I had a girl tell me never get serious with a girl who doesn't masterbate, those are words to live by if you enjoy intimacy. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 1:35:07 PM | | yes you do.....hahahahhahah | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 1:37:09 PM | | Dave, I have to admit you made me laugh like crazy....thanks for your comment.....lol | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 1:52:13 PM | Personally I think it's a turn on if a woman is into toys. I don't think any less of them if they know what they like and aren't afraid to admit it and explore..I have a very high drive myself but it's not all I think about (just the bulk of it)...
Good for you yesi! If anyone has a problem with it; it's theirs, not yours. You go girl!   | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 1:55:20 PM | I have to agree with the part of women who do not masturbate. Those that I have met are "different" sexually than those who can please themselves. I don't think I would get into a relationship with a woman who doesn't masturbate and if she uses toys great! I think the only question I would have is the toy use a thing that gets shared with your partner or is this a 'I only use my toys when I am home alone?'
I am more inclined to think most women just don't share this info as quickly as the OP did. Now some men do not like toys are feel threatened by a woman who can take care of herself, others like me love toys, love buying toys, don't think you can have enough toys and wants to always experiment with new stuff.
I wouldn't view it as a woman who is a 'sex maniac' until like any other addiction becomes some type of a problem. Its not really any different than a man who prefers to masturbate without a partner, there is more to the issue than just be a sexual being.
As far as men talking about it, well those types of subjects tend to open the flood gates. So many times guys get shot down when trying to talk about things like sex, sex toys, kinks that once you find a nice woman who is also willing to talk about those things you just moved that relationship to another level. Not that you intended it to happen just once you open that door with a male is tough to close it.
If you really want to light a fire in a male and see how much pain you put him through just mention you have been thinking of being with another woman and always wanted to try it, but your scared and wish you had a bf that could join in and share it with you also....LMAO.... Now that topic will put the idea of toys right out the window..... | |
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