| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:24:33 PM | guess i'm sort of wondering about this and how to procede or what i should do next .
meet this girl a month or so ago (same one as question i asked in another thread this week incase another remembers )
an into her at the bar a couple of times , we chatted a bit but mostly talked on msn . i asked for her number the other day and she gave it to me .
i told her i would call sometime soon , then the next day told her on msn i would call her later that night . i tried to call her but either call didn't go thru or something . wasn't sure if the number even worked or was right .
but i called it again last night and got her answering message which stated her name , so the number was real and correct. which was a relief but still doesn't explain why she hasn't answered or called back .
so as a girl would you give out your real cell number if you were not at least somewhat interested in the guy ?
is there a chance she is just busy and i called at bad times ?
should i try calling her again or wait till i see her in person at the bar maybe and ask then if i can get her to talk to me ? | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:30:30 PM |
(same one as question i asked in another thread this week incase another remembers )
OP~ you have an entire 2 page thread about whether or not this girl is interested in you. Why the need for another one? She's not interested. She might like the attention but you should probably leave her alone. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:32:14 PM | Did you leave a message... and explain who you are? If not, ya might wanna call back at least one more time and do so. If you did leave a message...and she didn't call back... she's definitely not interested.
I have no idea why someone would give you their number if they aren't interested but I suppose it happens. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:32:27 PM |
so as a girl would you give out your real cell number if you were not at least somewhat interested in the guy ?
She was probably interested at the time. Things change. Quickly sometimes. We women know that as well, when we give a guy our number and he never calls...
That said, she has a life as well. Give her some time. This is like when women stress that the guy has not called them the next day after a afirst date....
Wait a few days. Do not call her again. You have already called her twice. If she calls in next few days, great. If not, then move on. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:33:27 PM | THREE TIMES this happened to me, (over the years) I gave out my number and my phone broke/was stolen the next day, and I got voicemail with no number (because the guys assumed that it showed up on the phone....) and of course I didn't call back, and they didn't call back.
stuff happens.
I did finally get a separate line that's pretty much just for dating, because I have had so much bad luck with giving out my regular phone number, and I never know whether to hold out for more emails or not. Then, one week after getting the backup phone my daughter broke hers and then lost the backup phone on vacation the following week and then my smartphone just up and quit and I just bought a new one, only they sent the wrong one and I couldn't send it back til tomorrow because of the holiday weekend and I'm pretty much phoneless except for my girl's (replacement!) phone which has a number I will NOT give out, so now, every guy I've talked to thinks I'm just blowing them off.............LOL
Stuff happens. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:46:59 PM | no i didn't leave a message when i called her yesterday , was the first time i had heard her message so i was caught off guard and didn't know what to say that quickly .
mean is alot of reasons or possibilities here i guess . although i'm confused as to why she would give it out if she wasn't at least interested in talking to me . maybe she was having a bad day or tired when i called .
but i won't call her again until i see her in person again , seem to run into her at thus bar night they have on monday night . her friends are there as well , one i feel comfortable talking to could ask her what is up maybe . so maybe get some answers then . if not i'll have to assume she is not interested or seeing someone else and not interested at this time . | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:49:01 PM |
maybe she was having a bad day or tired when i called .
Maybe she was BUSY. Calm down, take a deep breath. :) Next time, leave a message. I am sure your number showed up on her caller id anyway. Just be casual when you run into her. Let her explain first, and if she doesn't, then you have your answer. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:58:32 PM | | Eh - if ya didn't leave a message - you really should call her. She probably has no idea who's number that is on her cell phone.... and maybe assumes it was someone calling a wrong number. Call again and leave a message. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 7:24:57 PM | Just feel fortunate that she didnt give you a bum number.
I got a number from this girl once and when i called it i found myself talking to a guy at a lebanese deli. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 7:41:03 PM | She's not interested. If you left a message and she never called back, write her off and move on.
Do not call again unless you enjoy being a doormat. She knows you called, if she was really interested, you would have heard back.
She's not worth your time and just playing with you. Move on. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 7:55:42 PM |
OP~ you have an entire 2 page thread about whether or not this girl is interested in you. Why the need for another one? She's not interested. She might like the attention but you should probably leave her alone.
WOW! I just read part of the other thread. I can't believe you (OP) are still after this girl. Desperation isn't becoming for anyone! Chill out and move on.
Perhaps she's enjoying all the attention you are giving her, and milking it for all you're worth, even though she's NOT interested...OR...Perhaps she was being polite and didn't know how to tell you she was NOT interested...OR...she's just busy and you should keep harassing her because any woman you barely know is worth that much trouble  | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:21:58 PM | You've had another thread about the same girl?
Ummm...starting to sound a bit stalkerish. Time to move on and find someone else. You're young enough to realize this...there are a LOT of young ladies out there that would be interested.
There's a book called "he's just not that into you"--it works for both ends. You might need to read it sweetie. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:34:41 PM | When a woman is interested in you, it's usually unmistakable!
It's funny how men always try and rationalize the clear signs
of low interest coming from a woman! Your high interest in
her has ABSOLUTELY no bearing on her interest in YOU!
Women will give out their numbers and even talk to guys that
they have little or no interest in! That is a fact you can count on! | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:47:29 PM |
It's funny how men always try and rationalize the clear signs of low interest coming from a woman! Your high interest in her has ABSOLUTELY no bearing on her interest in YOU!
Thank you...that is exactly right for both sexes. Just cause you're nuts about her means absolutely nothing--same for women. Again...you can't make someone like/love you just cause you do | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:50:10 PM | | A few times a woman has VOLUNTARY given me her number and NEVER answered or returned any of my calls. I would call a woman twice and if I don't hear back from her. Then I would move on. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:58:47 PM |
Women will give out their numbers and even talk to guys that
they have little or no interest in! That is a fact you can count on!
Talk to? yes
Give a number out to? Hell no
But then, that one may depend alot on the woman, her age, past experiences, etc | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:47:49 PM |
Women will give out their numbers and even talk to guys that they have little or no interest in! That is a fact you can count on!
Girls that do this have a low level of integrity. And well, the bars and clubs are full with them. But girls like having options and most will take the better deal when it comes along.
That means a lot of guys are stuck with a number that won't be of much use, even though everything seemed hunky dory the night or week before when they first met. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:03:45 PM | OP, you are talking to her on MSN, and face-to-face in a bar.......why the HECK do you need her phone number? If she won't leave the BAR with you to go somewhere, there's no way she's gonna meet you somewhere else. sheesh.....
She gave a number to shut you up. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/6/2008 11:49:33 PM | You said you were planning on asking a friend of hers at the bar???????????
Don´t do that if you have any self esteem...........that is going to make you look so childish, needy, and unsure. Well, you are obviously very unsure, don´t let her know it...... LOL .........Just ask her to her face.....leave a message with your name. Grow up some!!!!!!!!
And I totally agree with WackMC...........are you also buying her alot of drinks??????
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/7/2008 3:22:51 AM | She isn't interested. I remember a topic similiar to this but was worded as to should guys ask for phone numbers. Well, i see guys don't listen to logic.
The day and age of men asking women for their phone numbers is over! Those days are over! People of the upper class know this now at even a age of 18 because of the higher social circle. People of the lower social circle continue to do stupid things. I have to word this in this way so people may gather.
Once again here's how it is done. Men Give Women their phone number. This way in etiquette the Women isn't pressured to issue her number out and it also allows the male to know if she does not call, she isn't interested.
Next...By giving her your number..not only is there no pressure on her part, but if she does decided to call, she can block her number from showing up when she calls you. In todays world this is the method used for the reasons noted above.
Reasons in other order...asking us for our number is most of the time making us do something in most times of something we don't want to do but are put on the spot. If you just give us your number this allows us the phone number blocking privacy and no pressure is applied to us.
This proper method should be added to the dating registry, because people just do not get it. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/7/2008 5:25:48 AM | I can only answer with what has happened in my own experience. Just because my phone is on almost all of the time does not mean I'm always going to be in a spot where it's convenient to talk. Even if it's a really busy day, I will try my best to get back to someone as soon as possible if I'm interested. Chances are, if I've given my phone number, it's because I'm at least somewhat interested. I'm much more careful about giving it out now than I was in the past.
Karen's theory makes some sense, but I can tell you that it wouldn't likely work with me, and it has nothing to do with my being of a lower social circle...
The day and age of men asking women for their phone numbers is over! Those days are over! People of the upper class know this now at even a age of 18 because of the higher social circle. People of the lower social circle continue to do stupid things. I have to word this in this way so people may gather.
I don't really agree that those days are over. I'll admit that I'm much less likely to make that first telephone call, no matter how much the guy interests me. General shyness normally stops me from doing so. Plus, while it may be old fashioned, I actually like it when a guy does more of the courting.
I have no problem refusing to give out my phone number either. If someone asks for it and I know I'm not interested, I will politely decline. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:20:30 AM |
but i won't call her again until i see her in person again , seem to run into her at thus bar night they have on monday night .
When you see her again you should just ask her if she'd like to go out on a date. Don't beat around the bush playing silly games and trying to figure out what she's thinking.
Just ask her if she's interested and you'll have your answer. | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:26:46 AM | | i'd write to her on msn again and give her your number, then leave it in her hands to call or not - that way you'll know for sure she has it (i'm a lil hesitant about leaving anything we deem important on an answering machine - i know from experience how easy it is for those messages to get deleted by accident or unheard.. oops :)) | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:56:56 AM | I don't agree with the one that is Karen at all!
Women still like confident men! End of story!
Well, maybe not entirely. She has to be attracted to him in other ways obviously!
A man MUST still be the aggressor, and giving a woman your phone number or business card is just anti-confidence! Most of us guys would have cob webs on our telephones if we waited for those calls!
That MAY work with a woman you are already friendly with but beyond that the idea is simply ridiculous, and I think the class reference is even more off the mark! | |
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| girl gives number then doesn't answer
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:01:20 AM | Alot of women monitor their phone calls because of trouble they have had with aggressive guys, stalkers, ex`es threatening them,dates that have gone bad, nasty relatives, etc. So if she doesn`t recognize your number or hasn`t put you in her so she knows it`s you, she may not pick up unrecognized calls.
The other thing was that she was either not truly interested, is in a relationship already , and realizes she shouldn`t have given out her number, something creeped her out and she changed her mind. could be alot of things. | |
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