| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:29:20 AM | The way I see it, its a contradiction in terms. Men by their very physiology are programmed to reproduce. If they could get it every night they would. The term applied to woman has a name. Nymphomania. But we men must make excuses for this primeval need and say we are sex addicts when we're really just normal guys with normal sex drives.  | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:49:07 AM | | I tend to agree with you here, but women with a healthy sex drive are not nympho's, we are normal too. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:15:55 AM | Okay so you are normal and have an urge and want it every night, and then what?
Now what if you are actually a Nymph and think that biological reason is true for you to make you not a Nymph but a normal man, just because of your daily sperm count???
A friend once said her husband told her not to believe everything she hears, he said "when you work so hard, at the end of the night some men could be so tired that they would be to exhausted to do much" ...I am sure he meant especially when it's NOT wham bam thank you Mam
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:59:50 AM | I've always been told that men will trade sleep for sex. Tis true too.
Well, the men I have been with it is, can't speak for every man, haven't been with them all.  | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/7/2008 5:50:22 PM |
If they could get it every night they would. The term applied to woman has a name. Nymphomania
1. Don't make that mistake. Nymphomania is NOT a high sex drive. It's a debilitating condition where sexual desire is "twisted" becoming a psychological compulsion rather than a pleasure. The most common cause is sexual abuse at a young age. Sex becomes "misplaced" in that respect, and is causally connected with self-esteem. It's treated in our society as a joke, but it's not. It's a serious psychological condition that makes it very hard to have normal relationships, and can lead to further psychological problems and lifestyle difficulties, due to the stigmas associated with female sexuality.
2. There is indeed a male counterpart - Satyriasis. It's just not as well known (except by nerds like me) because of the glamourisation and trivialisation of "nymphomania".
3. Neither term is used these days, and "Hypersexuality" is the preferred. Specific definitions for hypersexuality vary, as "normal" is hard to define, but essentially it becomes a matter of whether it impedes normal life.
Hypersexuality and sex addiction are psychological issues. Essentially sex and self-esteem are connected, and becomes a requirement. But because so much is based on it, it fails to fulfill that requirement, and the need doesn't diminish.
It's easy to say that a high sex drive is normal. It is. But when that drive is at a point where sex becomes a requirement and control is not possible it begins to destroy lives and especially relationships. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/7/2008 10:14:30 PM | I think the term sex addict can be used to try to weakly explain away many indiscretions on a mans part. Seriously if you want to go out shagging every night then do it, but dont have a relationship with one woman and drag her along for the very uncomfortable ride.
Personally I think claiming to be physiologically programmed to want to have sex with as many women as is possible is just a p1ss poor excuse for being a cheating **stard.
And I have known a few in my time!!! | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/7/2008 10:42:30 PM |
Essentially sex and self-esteem are connected, and becomes a requirement. But because so much is based on it, it fails to fulfill that requirement, and the need doesn't diminish. When someone is using sex to make themselves feel ok and is prepared to fill that need at the expense of work, finances and/or relationships then its affected their life adversely.
I think its possible to warp your relationship and produce the same kinds of co dependency as you get from alcohol or other addiction. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:18:36 AM | | I didn't think that sex addiction has anything to do with male or female. It has to do with a psychological problem where the person is engaging in sex, not because of normal reasons like intimacy and libido, but because of some other reason. It is like gambling for example, the person feels bad after doing it and all the other hallmarks of addiction. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:46:25 AM | | I agree Curious, male or female it is irrelavant. It is all part of an addictive personality or the traits there in. I guess theyre are always dum asses who believe it is an excuse to be unfaithful, but in reality its is an addiction and is actually well treated with basic programs. Being a sex addict, is distinctly different from having nymphomania or any other type of sexual dysfunction weather phsycological or physical. In the treatment of it and also how it is most easily swapped for other addictions. But if I was to have an addiction sex seems like a good one. Id do it every day twice a day with the right man any time or place.. does that make me an addict..+! lol | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:20:54 AM | It's easy to say that a high sex drive is normal. It is. But when that drive is at a point where sex becomes a requirement and control is not possible it begins to destroy lives and especially relationships.
geebus whitey, the way you say it , it almost sounds like a bad thing !!
oh and i would trade sex for sleep or sleep for sex , i m not getting bugger all of either so, change is nice. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:26:04 AM | | I suppose its like anything" Its not a problem, as long as you control it ,It doesn't control you" . | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:00:36 AM | the average between stable couples is about once a week......so dont know what you mean by are men sex addicts....or are you looking to advance the stereo type that all men want sex all the time....surely there are enough men haters on this site to do that without you helping.....just kidding mate not having a go at you.....
Like any addiction it really only becomes a problem when it starts to rule your life....I did have this discussion with a friend of a friend not long ago and she was considering ending their marriage because hubby couldn't do it 3 times a day everyday | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:04:45 AM |
she was considering ending their marriage because hubby couldn't do it 3 times a day everyday
Bloody hell the only things I do 3 times a day are eat and pee. Why would you want to? Maybe on your birthday or something but not every day surely?? | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:19:10 AM |
we all are "sex addicts" till we get married
There's something about that cake that has an effect on sex drive. They need to change the recipe | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:32:27 AM | ****** there's something about cake that has an effect on sex drive, Thet need to change the recipe ********
Maybe a little H***y goat weed is called for in the recipe brizguy ????? | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:48:10 AM | | There's nothing new under the sun, they say. A previous thread on this subject includes a list of pointers to identify if you have a sexual addiction about half way down the first page. (message 13) http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts8281600.aspx | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:46:18 AM | Agree with most of the above...
I have no problem with anyone who is addicted to sex as long as he finds a partner who has the same addiction and that way they both satisfy their needs without it being a problem. It's not as bad as alcohol, drugs and gambling as long as he (I keep saying he because op directed this thread to males) is in a partnership with someone of his kind.
If they want to move from woman to woman, so be it but as long as those women also know his intentions. Otherwise there is a problem and that’s when other people get involved in his now called problem. Not nice to hurt others specially when children come from it too.
Only one downfall for this type of people they may be even very genuine when they meet someone but it’s easy for them to get confused when choosing a partner, since in most relationships initially intimacy is more intense, probably a natures way to what love (whatever love is) might be.
I see nothing wrong with a Nymph as long as they won’t hurt anyone. Maybe I even envy them . Not the filthy ones though.
Now I better go up the scaffold and finish my work...All evening been thinking about Sid valley's fall while up there...if I don't post anything for 2 days straight please call the ambulance.... | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:05:00 AM | To be honest hilly I have no idea...I refered her to a psychologist ... I mean talk about honey moon period, where everyone does it atleast 3 times a day...dont they?????
shoot maybe I got a problem too....oh shit.....nah three times a day is fine for well ....lets see how long............and dont tell me if you meet someone that you really connect with you dont bonk like rabbits atleast for the first few months...
come on hilly dont spoil my fantasy please please....no fantasy been there done that looking forward to it again | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:12:53 AM |
I have no problem with anyone who is addicted to sex as long as he finds a partner who has the same addiction and that way they both satisfy their needs without it being a problem. I think you're confusing a high sex drive with an addiction.
It's not as bad as alcohol, drugs and gambling as long as he (I keep saying he because op directed this thread to males) is in a partnership with someone of his kind. Following this line of thought, alcoholics, drug addicts and compulsive gamblers wouldn't have a problem if you had an unfailing supply of alcohol, drugs and money? I disagree. Its the fact that there is an underlying issue that the person is trying to fix with their compulsive behaviour AND that their compulsive behaviour is affecting their life adversely and the life of their partner. | |
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| Can men really be sex addicts?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:44:13 AM | Errrrr.... no they can’t, oh yeah it’s exciting and great for a while but then incessant familiarity only ends with a numb and sore fella.
Your key word was “reproduce” and the act is made pleasurable to entice copulation and reproduce many beasts. But then when it becomes an incessant demand from one of the parties, it morphs into a chore which equates to work and the pleasure appeal of it all then fly’s out the window!
That’s when the allure of beer, mates, machines and sport on the telly is more attractive, ........like fly’s to a turd. | |
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