| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:21:11 PM | I've run into this problem alot with being 18 but i dont think age is an important thing it all depends on how mature the person is.
Now my question is How important is age to you and whats your thought on age differncesin dating | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:28:59 PM | | Well I guess you could be more mature than the average 18-year-old, but there's no way to find that out without trying. When I was 18 I was an idiot, all my friends were idiots, and we all did idiotic things. Someone older might have had the same experiences as me, and would hesitate to go through all that again. I'm sure a thirty-two year old woman would think the same about me. Why not enjoy being 18 and pursue guys in your age group? | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:39:14 PM | | Not that much older then me between my age and 26 but people even 22 or 23 hesitate but im not the typical 18 year old im not into partying or going clubbing | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:42:59 PM | | Age isn't as important the older you get -- if that makes any sense. An 18 year old dating a 28 year old.... seems a bit distant. However, a 38 year old dating a 48 year old doesn't seem so bad.....so it is more of a maturity issue. But I gotta agree with the post just above mine - - why not date guys your age? | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:44:34 PM | OP..In my humble opinion...(and it is just my opinion) age is JUST A NUMBER!! Yes maturity has alot to do with it...but all in all if 2 people lick,then age should not even be a factor in it...Good Luck in your search!  | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:51:26 PM |
OP..In my humble opinion...(and it is just my opinion) age is JUST A NUMBER!!
Well it seems in this case it's not just a number. I don't think the OP should try to prove that she's 'mature' enough, or that it's just a number, or whatever to date an older gent though. Just keep enjoying yourself and looking until you find the right guy and like she said, good luck! | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:55:32 PM | I seem to be stuck being 21 actually. I'm not into anything most people this age are, not partying or anything, I'm pretty much making my life right now. Most want someone older, so I can't go for someone older, nearly all younger are into the typical things like partying and all that.
Sucks, doesn't it? Age does matter some, because of life experience. | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:56:31 PM | I'm not saying this as an insult, and I'm not saying this specifically about you, but the typical 18 year old is a whole lot less mature than they actually think they are.
And it's true, age is just a number. As an example, my ex wife is with someone 18 years older than herself, although I find it hard to believe, she says she's totally happy. Now, if I decide to do what her boyfriend has done, and date someone 18 years younger than myself, then I would be dating someone exactly your age (and I'm 36). No, numbers don't matter. But, I really don't think I would have ANYTHING in common with an 18 year old girl.
I think if you went with someone up to 24 or so, you would be ok. Any older than that, I don't know. But that's just my opinion. | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:59:52 PM | I agree.
Some people place too much on age. Where they say. You should be married by now, at this age you should be doing this, that, and the other.
Age only means how long you've been on this hell hole of a planet for, nothing more.
Ok you have to obey some laws that govern what you can do at a certain age. i.e driving cars, sex, smoking, drinking alcohol, etc. But for the main part, go for whatever feels right and safe for you.
I've dated a 30 year old when I was 21. We got on really well and had common interests. And enough differences when it came to music and how each generation views life, to keep things fun and interesting. Sometimes an age difference can make things more interesting, due to different experiences and fashions of the time. I watched more films and tv shows because I was with someone who remembered them their younger days, that I missed out on.
My cousin is 40 and his girlfriend is 26. They're the most loving and happy couple I have ever met in my life. Living proof to me that age is just a number.
Only sad and jealous people seem to be the ones who dictate a difference in age can never work. These seem to be the ones who can't relate to anyone younger or older than themselves, and have parents and family who's partners are of simalar ages.
If I search for guys 22-24 on here (a year either side of my age) I get 3 pages of profiles, and more than half of them are guys who type in mobile phone text style writing, who's hobbies are, drinking, and not much else. So I don't put any age restrictions on my POF email. I write to and reply to any guy who catches my eye and has something interesting to say. | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:14:25 PM |
but all in all if 2 people lick,then age should not even be a factor in it
Hmmmm me wonders whats on your mind lol  | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:20:48 PM | While the idea that "love is ageless", when it comes down to make a relationship WORK, it takes compatibility.
A lot of compatibility is tied to age. A different ages, we want different things... In a perfect world, it wouldn't matter, but we don't live there.
I don't want to date a 21 year old... he has no clue what I've been through and I don't want to feel like I'm a mom to my lover.
Age gaps are fine, but a generation apart (10+ years), it's not going to work, or it's gonna be hard to do so without one person having to change or give up a lot to be with the other.
Just my 2 cents!
"If you want to catch a catch, then BE a catch!" - bluewithoutu | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:24:59 PM | | I was married to someone 15 years younger than me. I was 35 and she was 20 when we meet. We were together for 7 years and had three kids. At first I did not think age mattered and to certain degree I still don't but I think if you are over 30 it doesn't matter. A lot of grow up goes in your 20's and if you grow up too fast it can cause problems no matter how mature you feel you are or appear to be. Again, everything comes down to the individual but I would never serious date anyone in their 20's again. | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:27:09 PM | Hey im 19 right now but i tried to be mature way ahead of time it got me a daughter at the age of 14... just because i "thought" i was more mature than the rest of my friends. All of them got to enjoy their child hood and have fun with people their age while i was stuck with someone much older and not that sociallyy orientated.. I missed out on a lot i believe you should date guys your age or 3 years older than you max!!! But then again thats up to you!
- Take care!
- Aly! | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:33:46 PM | In the end it's down to personal maturity and circumstances. If you get a girl who's mature for her age and a guy who's still doing the things he did 10 years ago, then it will work out sometimes.
If you get an immature girl at 18 and a mature guy at 27, then there's no chance.
It all boils down to how you are as a person, how you interact with others, outlook on life, and what you want from it. The type of people you relate to and respect most.
How long you've been alive for may be a small part of it, but not all that essential.
I may be fairly unique, as most of my family and friends that are in relationships/married, there is almost always an age gap. Maybe thats why I can see life from the other side of the fence that a lot won't even try to understand? | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:37:37 PM |
But I gotta agree with the post just above mine - - why not date guys your age?
Kychik33.. the guy above that said 18 yo's are idiots!! Especially the males!!
Age is only a big deal if you make it one. Me personally, my preference is to stick within 5 years either side of my age. Up to 10 yrs younger is pretty much the limit of my comfort level.. and yet I'm involved with someone who's significantly younger then that at the moment!
Seems to me the younger the people are, the wider the age gap is. Five years to a 23 yo is a lot wider then fice years to a 43 yo. | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:59:15 PM | > im not into partying or going clubbing
Maybe it's not that you're "mature" and they're not, but that you're not much of an extrovert. Or perhaps you're socially inept and therefore just not good at socializing. | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 3:31:26 PM | | Im into other things like playing baseball, camping, and so on and so forth just not into the party scene | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:01:15 PM | Reasons for going out with someone significantly younger:
1. They are in peak physical condition.
2. They tend to be easy to impress.
3. You look like a stud to your friends.
4. They are more apt to enjoy "low budget" dates.
5. The novelty of sex hasn't worn off.
6. They haven't become bitter and jaded from past relationships.
Reasons for NOT going out with someone significantly younger:
1. Meeting the parents is awkward.
2. You're from two different cultures (I cannot pick out Miley Cyrus in a police line up. Will I need to explain who Trudeau was?)
3. They are emotionally immature and may spaz out over insignificant events.
4. The relationship is usually based on the teacher-student dynamic. At some point, the student will surpass the teacher.
5. Most young girls are just trying to screw their way through their daddy issues.
6. Sometimes its eerily close to paedophilia (jizzing on a face full of acne, your fingers grabbing baby fat- these are the moments that try men's souls)
7. Older men hate you because they're stuck with their frumpy hausfraus, younger men hate you for stealing the good ones.
8. Younger people feel a greater sense of urgency in relationships (we will NOT be planning the wedding to coincide with our six month anniversary)
These lists are not exhaustive. | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:08:17 PM |
Not that much older then me between my age and 26 but people even 22 or 23 hesitate but im not the typical 18 year old im not into partying or going clubbing
Perhaps because you're not old enough to go clubbing yet? How can you say you're not into it, when you haven't even experienced it yet? Most 21 year old guys aren't going to want to date a girl who can't even get into a bar or club. To them, it's a new freedom and one most of them enjoy. They wont outgrow it for perhaps 5 or 6 years (some later) so that would be an issue.
Your age will not deter most guys I know. Unless they are looking to settle down, then your lack of life experience would be a disadvantage. The reason being that at your age, you don't even know what you want yet. You may be the most mature 18 year old ever born, but you'll still be more mature at 20, 22, and 26. Make sense?
I'd say at least 95% of us had no idea what we wanted at your age. Those of us who were convinced we did, changed our minds quite soon  If I had a nickel for every college sophmore who changed majors (for example) I'd be quite well off.
Take your time and enjoy being young, after all, you can't turn back the clock and you only get to experience this age once.
Best wishes OP | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:21:45 PM | | Im from canada the age is 19 and im 19 in two months and get into clubs no problem | |
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Posted: 7/7/2008 4:23:47 PM | | I am 18 also, but I do think age matter. May be not if I someway fall in love first, but I do not search for someone older than around 23. | |
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| Age? How important is it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:34:37 PM | At 18, age is a far different thing than it is once you are in your twenties or older. Although I try not to say "should", an 18 year old really should only be dating within the 18-22 range.
Sure, there are 18 year olds who may be more mature, but life experience, for one, along with a multitude of other factors all come into play with dating, and an 18 year old simply is not going to be compatible with someone who is older, nor will an 18 year old be the same person in a few years.
As you get older, the age difference for people you will be compatible with will become wider in range. Some people prefer to date people who are older, some prefer to date people younger, some stay within their age range. Yes, to answer your OP, dating people with an age difference can work well. But right now, just enjoy being 18. | |
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