| How do I let a guy down easily on the Dance floor?
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:04:39 PM | | I love to go out dancing and have no problem with guys coming up randomly to dance with me. However; How do I let a guy down nicely when I'm done dancing with him but don't necessarily want to leave the club? | |
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| How do I let a guy down easily on the Dance floor?
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:33:55 PM | How do you let a guy down easily on the dance floor? I guess just make sure you're holding him with both arms while he slowly descends to the floor. No just kidding.
Seriously though, I suppose a simple "thank you for the dance" would do, followed by a "I'm going to join my friends now." It's polite and terse, without being rude or abrupt. | |
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| How do I let a guy down easily on the Dance floor?
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:59:55 PM |
I love to go out dancing and have no problem with guys coming up randomly to dance with me. However; How do I let a guy down nicely when I'm done dancing with him but don't necessarily want to leave the club?
Isn't it funny that when some guys ask you to dance and you accept they think you belong to them for the night.
Tell them that your husband lets you go out dancing, but you have a rule about how many times you can dance with the same guy. By the time you find a guy you want to dance with the rest of the night the other guy will have lost interest. | |
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| How do I let a guy down easily on the Dance floor?
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:16:25 PM | | I'm so glad you posted this! I had the same problem recently. The guy told me he was looking for someone to marry. He was holding me really tight while dancing. He asked for my phone number. He's in there often too and this is a bar I go to often. When he started walking towards me the next time I was in there I headed for the bathroom. He found me later and asked me to dance. I said no thanks, not tonight. He tried talking with me but my friend cut in and I turned my interest to what she was talking about. Kinda rude I know but come on now... I'm not going to marry someone I danced with at the bar. | |
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| How do I let a guy down easily on the Dance floor?
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:24:26 PM |
How do I let a guy down nicely when I'm done dancing with him but don't necessarily want to leave the club?
Well... what works for me is:
Tell me I'm really awesome on the dance floor (cause I'm not), tell me you wanna see me again (then drop the bomb), but only as a friend.
Decent guys don't want your number. | |
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| How do I let a guy down easily on the Dance floor?
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:55:09 PM | | “Thanks, I enjoyed that. I’d like to have a few dances with some other men now. Perhaps we’ll meet again on another night? Thanks again. That's a beautiful tie. Have a wonderful evening. I'll bet you're a demon in the sack. Good-night.” | |
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| How do I let a guy down easily on the Dance floor?
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:12:24 PM | | Dont lie. Its fairly easy to see through, and pisses people off. I think the best advice was to just say "Im just here to dance." Simple, to the point, and if it doesn't sink in after several polite refusals, then you can hurt his feelings without any remorse. | |
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| How do I let a guy down easily on the Dance floor?
Posted: 7/7/2008 9:42:21 PM | | You know... some guys just don't take the hint! I tried the whole "thanks for the dance" and then went back to the people I came with but the guy followed me, put his arm around me and started asking me all these questions. My friend asked me to dance to get me away from the guy and he followed us and was dancing with me. I'm serious... this guy would not take a hint. I almost flat out said "I'm sorry, I'm not interested". Would this have been acceptable? I'm afraid he'd ask me more questions such as "why not? What don't you like about me? ...etc". I left the place early just to get away from him. | |
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| How do I let a guy down easily on the Dance floor?
Posted: 7/7/2008 9:50:29 PM |
I'm sorry, I'm not interested". Would this have been acceptable? I'm afraid he'd ask me more questions such as "why not? What don't you like about me? ...etc". I left the place early just to get away from him.
Some guys won't take the "thanks for the dance" as intended which is why I think a previous poster's suggestion of "thanks for the dance, have a good night" type of thing works better. It makes it more clear you're moving on.
I'm not a guy but I would think a guy could be left unsure if you wanted him to pursue further if you didn't make it clear that was it.
Personally, I find nothing at all wrong with saying "Thanks but I'm not interested, have a good night". You're being honest and making your intentions clear. If he asks why not, simply say you just aren't or tell him you have a boyfriend if he's still bothering you. Most guys will leave it at that unless their drunk off their asses. Then I find body language works best but you should never, ever have to leave a place because of a guy. If you make your feelings clear and he still doesn't respect it, you owe the guy nothing and should not be worrying about his feelings as he's obviously not concerned with your's. Being nice and polite is one thing, being intimidated by a guy to the point your evening is ruined is another. | |
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| How do I let a guy down easily on the Dance floor?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:52:14 AM | You know... some guys just don't take the hint!
Have you considered a knee to the groin if he won't leave you alone?
That tends to get the message across rather nicely.
Or you could also just tell one of the bouncers that some creep is bothering you. They'll usually go ask him to stop. They'd rather have happy beautiful women like you dancing in their bar/club, than some jackass.
I almost flat out said "I'm sorry, I'm not interested". Would this have been acceptable? I'm afraid he'd ask me more questions such as "why not? What don't you like about me? ...etc". I left the place early just to get away from him.
Acceptable?
If you're done dancing. You say "Thank you for the dance, goodnight".
If he tries to follow you or keep with you, tell him you're not interested.
If he asks why, feel free to tell him you're just not interested in him.
If he persists, tell him to listen to what you're saying and F the hell off.
A slap to the face also tends to work.
I was at a club with some ladies not long ago, and three out of the five I was there with, ended up giving a man a good smack. Oh, it was beautiful. Those guys quickly got the hint, and ran off home with everyone in the area laughing at them. LOL!
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Oh, and I tend to get asked to dance a lot when I'm out.
Because I don't just cling to a woman all night, or use the dancing as an excuse to just grind up against her like most guys I see.
I go there, and have a fun time. I don't care if I'm good or not, but I'm just enjoying myself. And that's appreciated. I've often had several ladies ask me to dance with them a few times in a night, because they can see that I'm not one of those creeps who thinks dancing with someone means you belong to them.
Also gets me a lot of invites to go out and see them on other nights. | |
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