| Non-traditional students and dating
Posted: 7/7/2008 10:42:02 PM | At the age of 28, I am a full-time college student (graduating in a year and a half).
How is this usually perceived by prospective dating interests, in terms of people being older than "traditional" college-age students, and also at an age where many people have advanced reasonably far in a career (although I have 4 years experience in my field)? | |
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| Non-traditional students and dating
Posted: 7/7/2008 11:54:10 PM | | Well, I'd expect you to be much more mature than your average student but I would have no problem with it. It is becoming more and more common for people to go (or go back) to school at a later age. I was once in a class with a fellow who had dropped out in 1958 and then decided that getting his B.A. was something he wanted to accomplish in his life. | |
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| Non-traditional students and dating
Posted: 7/7/2008 11:59:27 PM | I wouldn't have a problem with it, but then again I am a student still as well. I think the only people who would have issues with it are those who are looking for partners with money.
College costs a lot, and they might not want to get serious with someone with a ton of loans.
As long as you are serious about educating yourself it shouldn't matter. | |
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| Non-traditional students and dating
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:42:22 AM | I wouldn't think it would be an issue, unless you meet someone who wants to settle down *right now.* In general, people find people with goals attractive. Obviously you have that covered. In a very short time, you'll be finishing up school and your career will be on track.
I think going back to school, at any age, is admirable.
Best Wishes ~ | |
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| Non-traditional students and dating
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:09:36 AM | It depends upon how YOU feel about it. One of the naughty little secrets is, we subconsciously follow the lead of other people. If you seem uncomfortable with it, a stranger will assume there is a reason they should feel uncomfortable about it, too.
You'll still hit some people who are of a firm mind...but the rest will follow your lead, if you believe firmly in it yourself. | |
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| Non-traditional students and dating
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:17:33 AM | it depends greatly on if you're there to advance your career or if you're there as a "professional student" ..those are the ones always signing up for more classes with not really picking a major that reflects goals in one's career. people who do this do it for a myriad of reasons..some use it to "hide" from what most think of as "adult responsibility"...one downside is that those who do this are just as broke as the "traditional" student, up to their ears in school loans they have to pay back, and all the financial issues resulting in being a student, which do spill over into relationships that become serious.
dont be a pro student, its not an admirable quality in dating | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 6:13:57 AM | I am a student, and will be for the next 3-4 years (graduate school).
I haven't really found it to be a problem yet. Luckily I'm in an ok state financially, so I'm not a "starving student" or anything. I just can't afford to go on more lavish outings I guess. So as long as a guy is ok with that, then there shouldn't be a problem. I would assume that the same might apply to you. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 8:15:30 AM | | You are still young. I am 40 just finished my BS when my teenager gets older I will go back for my Masters. There is a huge trend for older college students due to many reason. Some go back for a 2nd degree or totally different field. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 8:22:18 AM | | As everyone is saying, it just depends. But there are a lot of people going back to school around age 30 or so. My ex is 31 and she just finished her first year of a 4 year degree. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 8:49:26 AM | I'm also going back to grad school soon, at 35 years old. Like some others have said, there is a big trend, almost an underground society of people who keep studying and studying. Welcome to the club.  (secret handshake) | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 9:04:52 AM | | "Age is just a number" I've been told. After my divorce, I was working 3 part time jobs and decided to try taking a few classes. I did OK so I was quit my jobs to attend full time for a few years to become something I had always dreamed of. I graduated at age 51 and am now working to pay off all those student loans. Unfortunately, most men my age are wanting to retire and travel and relax, yet I will be working many more years to earn retirement. Your age still gives you plenty of time to make a living. Doing what is right for you to fulfill a dream is most important. The 'right' one will understand and encourage you to be ' all that you can be'. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 9:11:14 AM | I wouldent sweat it - I'm in the same boat as you, except older heh. If your have PURPOSE and the desire to do something with your life, most women will be happy with that, and will be happy to stand by you as you reach for your goals.
Now, if you sat on your ass and didnt try for anything...thats a different story. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 9:42:02 AM | | I see you taking a step to make a positive change in your life and your career. That's a healthy & responsible step, no matter the age. Kudos to you. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 10:26:55 AM | Just because you are enrolled in college at 28 does not mean that dating 18 year olds suddenly becomes acceptable.  | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 10:55:22 AM | Well I'd see you as intellectual and ambitious yet potentially financially-compromised.
That would be my simplest evaluation of the issue - if you are a full-time day student, then unless you have a night job, clearly you're working part-time at best. Since you were working once before and have returned to school, you may have adequate finances saved up from your past job, but presumably you would be trying to live according to a modest budget for the moment until you're working full time again... 
That may be an "issue" for some people, for others it won't. If you're trying to date a go-getter career woman that's making huge $$$ and you're currently a penniless student, then yes, you are going to possibly encounter some struggle making that work... She has the means to do things you may not be able to keep up with at the moment.
However there are plenty of down to earth ladies that will respect your ambitions and look past the short-term if they like what they see in YOU. Those are the ones you'll WANT to date... 
Worst comes to worst, if working women are turning you down, there's always all that hot campus booty prancing about! Some grown men would KILL for that opportunity again!  So go to it, follow your own path, and good luck!  | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 7:49:26 PM | | I'm older than the OP and back in school. I'm doing much better at the school part than right after HS but much worse socially - I actually feel uncomfortable sometimes, like the creepy old guy at the house party. | |
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| Non-traditional students and dating
Posted: 8/10/2009 9:32:05 PM | Reviving an old thread .........
Am going back to school full time.... 20 years after HS. Does that mean I basically write off any possibilty of dating? Incidently, I'm going to be outnumbered by the guys by about 7 to 1 in all my classes, but when people outside of class see "student", they think "eep". What's so wrong with making a change to your direction? I think it is the best thing for me to be doing, given my personal situation and the economy. | |
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| Non-traditional students and dating
Posted: 8/10/2009 9:51:10 PM |
I'm older than the OP and back in school. I'm doing much better at the school part than right after HS but much worse socially - I actually feel uncomfortable sometimes, like the creepy old guy at the house party.
You shouldn't. In alot of my classes there are a few mature sudents and they make the classroom a much more interesting place. They bring alot to the table...
Now, unless you are the creepy old guy at the house party. I'm gunna say its all in your own mind. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 9:54:35 PM | Bassgirl, Im 38 and a student as well. Again. LOL My boyfriend knows I'm a student and fully supports it. He's even willing to quiz me when I have upcoming tests. I'm the only female in my classes as I'm taking CNC programming, precision machining, and welding... oh and industrial maintenance. What I found to be more trying wasn't so much dating while being a student, but being ridiculed in class for being a female. For me though, that only gave me more drive to show those punks that not only could I do the job, I did it better than them.
There is nothing wrong with making a change to your direction. I got sick of office politics and have left the office/professional environment for something involving factory and manufacturing.
All in all, you gotta do what is best for you. If someone can't understand that, then you don't need them. You want someone who supports your decisions,... not someone who mocks them. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 10:08:48 PM | dark nation,
"the creepy old guy" too funny! I was about 30 when I got my first degree & I was feeling like the old bag of the class...but I'm tenacious, so...!
gree eyes,
my mom got her 1st degree at 36 and her master's at 43, so i know what you mean. kudos to you! | |
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| Non-traditional students and dating
Posted: 8/10/2009 11:42:51 PM | Do what you gotta' do. If someone has a problem let them deal with it.
:)
When you're done with school and reaping the rewards you'll have contentment! | |
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Posted: 8/11/2009 2:40:57 AM | Simplymeeee- those are pretty much the exact same ages I got my degree and my masters!!! I did mine thru distance ed tho. Yep... you're never too old  | |
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| Non-traditional students and dating
Posted: 8/11/2009 10:51:03 AM | I just graduated after years of going to school. I'm now waiting to take my state board test for LPN.
The only problem I had was (at least in my mind) - I was a bear to date. School occupied most of my time, if not, my mind. School stressed me out so much, I thought I was undatable. | |
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