| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:27:50 AM | It’s tempting to write in your profile a checklist of sorts, perhaps what you believe are deal breakers, i.e. and only for example but I’ve have seen all of them on here:
• Allergic to cats
• No anti-depressants
• Overweight
• Negative
• Prefer Jewish - WTF
• Must love God – of course their God
• Vegetarian – nor will you eat anything that had a face on it around me
• Non-smoker
• Players – love that one
• Cheaters – Would that be X cheaters or current cheaters? Does high school count?
• All glassware is to remain upside down
• Flatware is nested and in one direction only
• Must love dogs/cats/rats/animals/snakes/children/horses
• Etc...
And so on. Many of the lists I’ve seen on here I actually use to screen myself out. Not long ago I was dating a woman and when I went to her home, I was plain confused. She refused to use a dryer to dry her clothes and had every sort of rack/rod/contraption imaginable to air dry the laundry. Had two children as well, so you can imagine how much laundry was hanging around. Wait, no you can’t, you had to see it to believe it.
It was truly a lovely home with Roman window coverings, custom sconces, chandeliers from Italy, marble floors etc... Air drying lingerie and special fabrics sure but...On the flip side, when I asked she said that her clothes never wear out and showed me samples of 15 year old shirts that were bright as new.
This is a dunce example but you get the jist.
Do you prefer to see dating checklists? What are the pro/cons? | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:16:04 AM | We all have things that we have no interest in dealing with in another person, but some people go way overboard. So long as all your most deeply held beliefs are the same then everything else is negotiable.
By the way why didn't you ex just put up a clothes line outside rather then have clothes hanging everywhere in the house. I don't use the dryer in any season but winter so I sort of understand her. | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:28:06 AM | Mary Poppins
To many insects down here in S Fl to hang clothes outside, they burrow in and just end up in your drawers. But her clothes issue was not the deal breaker, her X began following me and doing the drive by creapy thing...She divorced him...Kind of the if I can't have her nobody will thing...
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:20:12 AM | | well i guess a single could use a checklist , but i think it would be kind of silly to rule someone out as a potential date for something so silly . it might be better to try and match the other single to things you like instead . and see if you have alot in common or are compatible maybe. | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:26:06 AM | | "Dating checklists" Isn't that what we all do when we set our mail settings? All the must not be this or that in order to contact user. Some people are just more adamant about what or who they are looking for. The more you lists the more you limit yourself to meeting some fantastic people. | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:43:34 AM | My checklist goes like this:
1. Female (check under the hood) ... yep! Check!
2. 2 legs ... Check!
3. Likes my sense of humor ... priceless!
As a sublist I have these:
A. Psychotic behavior ... check!
B. Owns a 4x4 and boat ... check! (please send pics of 4x4 and boat)
C. Wants to castrate me by the time she gets done reading this ... check! | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:49:46 AM |
Do you prefer to see dating checklists? What are the pro/cons?
When I see a checklist, I just move on without reading it. I figure if your criteria is that strict, I'm never going to live up to what you are looking for. PLUS, most of the "checklists" I've come across have been "I don't want this, I don't want that, I'm not looking for this"... it's like a big list of complaints. I don't want someone that negative. | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:03:27 AM | Well, I have a checklist of sorts on my profile, like the OP said, "I actually use to screen myself out", that right there is the reason for the list. After some time of giving the same answers to the same questions, and then those answers NOT being the ones the person of the opposite sex was looking for ie: "wanna go for a ride on my hog?", I just chose to lay it all on the line up front. If after reading my very long-winded profile, and reading in black and white the fact I don't like motorcycles or snow skiing and and fact that I don't mind if you have children, or don't mind if you smoke, the other person feels that there could be some compatiability, then my "list" has benefited both parties. Men either love it or hate it, I've gotten comments both ways. But, bottom line is I like it, it works for me!
But where the heck did OP find "glasswear must be upside down" or "flatwear is nested in one direction only"? Not even "I" have that on my profile...lol
I haven't seen many men use a "list" in their profile, most often see preference for "thin" women, which doesn't work for me, but it sure whould be helpful!! | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:09:10 AM | indehills,
Well in the example I used if I had known that the vegetarian person above was so adamant against meat and those that eat it I would have saved a host of time. I didn't ask, so. do you eat meat? Mind if I do? I didn't find out until I suggested we meet for some sushi. It was a deal breaker. Sunday morning eggs...No Greg, I'll throw up if I see you eat an egg...
So maybe it's about saving time, not sure... | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:26:30 AM | Hi maculon,
I think you can have a check list,but be flexible about it if there is only one or two things that don't fit. I have met some really nice ladies on here who smoke,and I hate smoking. I prefer slimmer women,but have quite a few friends who are similar to me in size(overweight)The real problem with check lists is that you could exclude the love of your life for little or no reason. | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:36:03 AM | | Checklists save time. This is time saved that can then be spent refining the checklist, because somehow nobody meets it. But when it finally does work, it will have been time well spent. Nothing is worse than being happy with someone who doesn't match your checklist. | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:56:42 AM | mac, You need to keep yourself in-check for what will get this thread deleted ...if you add one more contribution to it today. As for my having or seeing a checklist, I have to laugh when I read the "Must love" criteria ...and especially for dogs and cats. It's usually turned out to mean, "I'm too lazy to clean up all the hair" ...or "They love me ...and so should you!" I learned to observe 'between the lines'.
As for the woman who invited you to her home, perhaps her air-dried laundry was an 'acid test' for your further-dating meddle, but then I have visited SoFL enough to know all about the palmetto bugs ...aka roaches who multiply profusely in the dark there. It'd creep me out to have to shake every piece of clothing before putting it on or store where they can't live for long w/o food. We get scorpions here when it gets real dry, but the ex stalking you would be creepier ...and possibly more painful. Can't blame you for letting go of her.
Did you add, "No psychotic ex-husbands stalking you" to your checklist of potential 'deal breakers'? | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:39:16 AM | Since when is it crazy to want someone to be of the same religious belief as yourself? You know, that's actually pretty important to a whole lot of people.
I'm not sure I'm seeing any problem with this kind of thing... a mile long shopping list is a problem but I'm just not seeing the issue with things that are big like religious beliefs. | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:46:04 AM | I dont have a check list.....except NO bitterness....I think every individual is unique and in many instances compromise can be reached......
If I see someone who has how a place setting should be on a dinner table. I'm moving on!!!!!!!!!!! That show OCD...,..not for me..........
PEACE | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:36:56 AM | Back when I was fishing, I didn't have a checklist on my profile, however I did develop a little quiz for aspiring 'datees' ;-) Just for fun - some took it a bit more seriously than others, although no one refused to respond. Just a way to break the ice, and determine (relative) compatability. You'd be amazed what you can gleen from a simple multiple choice question!
All questions are multiple choice (more than one answer is acceptable and there are no wrong answers - feel free to elaborate on any answer - tongue in cheek is perfectly acceptable ;-).
Breakfast:
a) Of course, it’s the most important meal of the day!
b) Grrr… just coffee, make it black.
c) I prefer a leisurely brunch, champagne optional.
d) When there’s time; drive-thru or cereal
Fast Food
a) Burger King
b) McDonalds
c) Wendy’s
d) All of the above
e) None of the above
Health Food
a) Wheatgrass & tofu
b) Salad on the side
c) Lite beer
d) Steak
Coffee, Tea or
a) Coffee
b) Tea
c) Iced (a or b)
d) Beer
e) None of the above
Exercise
a) Is a four letter word (more like 2 four letter words)
b) Is a part of my daily routine
c) If it fits into my schedule
d) When disguised as something fun
Music
a) I’m a little bit country
b) I’m a little bit Rock ‘n Roll
c) Bang your head!
d) I’m a masta rappa…
e) Silence is golden
f) All of the above
Sex
a) Yes please!
b) If you must, but try not to wake me.
c) Fast, furious and with mucho gusto!
d) Slow and steady wins the race.
e) For procreation purposes only.
f) Not tonight I have a headache.
g) Don’t try this without a net.
Sleep
a) Au naturale – preferably in the spoon position
b) Footie jammies – in the fetal position
c) Ratty tee shirt/boxers – spread eagle
d) Dangling off the edge
e) On the couch
Sleep continued
a) 8 hours – more or less
b) Ah sleep – I could sleep for days…
c) If I can, I’ll eek out 4 hours – there’s just too much to do
d) Sleep is for wimps
Morning
a) Bright eyed and bushy tailed!
b) Don’t talk to me till I’ve had my coffee
c) Wake me at the crack of noon
d) Every day is an adventure, starting with how I wake up
Temperature control
a) Frosty! I should be able to hang meat!
b) Toasty in winter, frigid in summer (PECO loves me)
c) Some like it hot!
d) The one thing Regan got right – 78 in summer, 65 in winter
Walmart
a) I have on occasion shopped there (but felt dirty doing it)
b) Love it! Where else can you buy horseradish, condoms and shotgun shells all in one place!
c) I am morally opposed to their HR practices and vendor negotiation tactics and refuse to shop there.
d) I’m more a Target person… | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:59:47 AM | I admit it... I have a checklist....
Wanna see it?
Here it is...
1. Must be male
2. Must be alive
3. Has to be single
4. And heterosexual
5. old enough to drink legally but not old enough to be my father
6. non or social smoker
7. likes kids and perhaps wants to have them one day
8. believes in God but not a Bible thumper
9. has a good sense of humor
10. is intelligent
I think its really very basic....  | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:31:27 AM | In my opinion, the "pro' just might also be the "con".
Many of the lists I’ve seen on here I actually use to screen myself out.
Perfect example. It became a screening tool for you, which is exactly what was intended...but what if you're both wrong? What if finally meeting the right person turns said list into a bunch of hooey? What if it was already a bunch of hooey because the person that made the list is really pretty clueless about themselves, and is just doing the "same old, same old" that never worked anyhow?
I'm not a peg that fits into ANY slot perfectly, and I'd really rather be given a chance in person, than be dismissed from behind a computer, where perceptions and preconceived notions are the order of the day. Screw lists...they're for shopping and chores. | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:35:07 AM | Breakfast:
a) Of course, it’s the most important meal of the day!
b) Grrr… just coffee, make it black.
c) I prefer a leisurely brunch, champagne optional.
d) When there’s time; drive-thru or cereal
Fast Food
a) Burger King
b) McDonalds
c) Wendy’s
d) All of the above
e) None of the above
Health Food
a) Wheatgrass & tofu
b) Salad on the side
c) Lite beer
d) Steak
Coffee, Tea or
a) Coffee
b) Tea
c) Iced (a or b)
d) Beer
e) None of the above
Exercise
a) Is a four letter word (more like 2 four letter words)
b) Is a part of my daily routine
c) If it fits into my schedule
d) When disguised as something fun
Music
a) I’m a little bit country
b) I’m a little bit Rock ‘n Roll
c) Bang your head!
d) I’m a masta rappa…
e) Silence is golden
f) All of the above
Sex
a) Yes please!
b) If you must, but try not to wake me.
c) Fast, furious and with mucho gusto!
d) Slow and steady wins the race.
e) For procreation purposes only.
f) Not tonight I have a headache.
g) Don’t try this without a net.
Sleep
a) Au naturale – preferably in the spoon position
b) Footie jammies – in the fetal position
c) Ratty tee shirt/boxers – spread eagle
d) Dangling off the edge
e) On the couch
Sleep continued
a) 8 hours – more or less
b) Ah sleep – I could sleep for days…
c) If I can, I’ll eek out 4 hours – there’s just too much to do
d) Sleep is for wimps
Morning
a) Bright eyed and bushy tailed!
b) Don’t talk to me till I’ve had my coffee
c) Wake me at the crack of noon
d) Every day is an adventure, starting with how I wake up
Temperature control
a) Frosty! I should be able to hang meat!
b) Toasty in winter, frigid in summer (PECO loves me)
c) Some like it hot!
d) The one thing Regan got right – 78 in summer, 65 in winter
Walmart
a) I have on occasion shopped there (but felt dirty doing it)
b) Love it! Where else can you buy horseradish, condoms and shotgun shells all in one place!
c) I am morally opposed to their HR practices and vendor negotiation tactics and refuse to shop there.
d) I’m more a Target person…
Interesting little quiz I thought I would take it and see what my answers say about me.
First answer None of the above because I have always woken up nauseated in the mornings my entire life.
Second answer Wendys because they actually have tasty alternatives. Their salads are fantastic.
Third is none of the above . I do love salmon and spinach salad though
Fourth answer is coffee and tea.
Fifth answer is D because the tread mill is something that has escaped from hell.
Sixth answer is Anything but rap.
Seventh answer is C and D because you have to mix it up now and then.
Eight is Footie pjs
Ninth is none of the above because sleep and I have never been friends.
Tenth is B. I need my tims in the morning.
Eleventh is I love to be cold . No hot rooms for me.
twelfth is B. There isn't anything you can't buy at walmart. It's got everything you could want and more. | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:13:25 PM | No, I believe that checklists are for losers! There's nothing more exciting than falling for someone only to find out you have serious disagreements and no common core. Fact is, that's one of the things that makes romance great -- lack of planning! I mean, I wouldn't have ten ex-wives and 20 children if I had planned! So screw that. Don't plan and by all means, don't use a checklist.
Major sarcasm, if you can't tell. If you don't know what you want, then don't use a checklist. For those of us who do know what we want and do know what we are, the checklist is the best possible way to communicate honestly and to narrow the search.
I'm surprised that this question even needed to be asked. | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:48:56 PM | I think its arrogant; to think that you are such a catch; its like, "if you meet my checklist your in". Well what if you don't meet theirs?
Save the checklists for grocery stores. be real and realize no one is perfect and no partner is perfect. | |
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| Do you prefer dating checklists or not? Why?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:12:34 PM | To me, a list is a complete and utter turnoff and I won't even usually read it once I see it exists.
There are some things that are worth mentioning...I can see having one or two deal breakers...if you have an allergy, it's a good idea to go ahead and mention that so anyone who can't give up their pet will know right up front you aren't a match. Smoking is another thing...if you just can NOT be around smoke, it's best to go ahead and get it out there.
But a LIST? Screams to me "control freak" and I just click on. NEXT? | |
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