| Taking stuff slowly
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:29:08 PM | Hey There Guys And Gurls
Yah the whole dating game to me right now is like maybe too some people riding a bicyle for the first time. I have had past boyfriends and what not before, however majority of the time i rushed in the relationship with dem somewhat fast. In this period of my life i wanna try to take things slowly in some ways with a guy i like romantically. Anyways what are some good ways to take it slowly with a guy i like romantically and what not. Thanx for your advice.
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| Taking stuff slowly
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:49:29 PM | Here's a good way to slow things down but keep them going...
If a guy you like invites you to do something that seems too big or too "fast", like meet his family on the third date, instead of just saying "no", say "no but let's do this other thing instead" or "no I can't that night but how about Thursday?"
That of course applies to more intimate situations. If something is moving too fast, instead of trying to bring things to a halt, suggest a detour.
A nice thing a girl (or a guy) can say to a partner is "I would like to do that with you eventually, but right now I'd like to do this instead."
If all you say to someone is "No", you will probably end up with no relationship with them.
(Again, this only applies if you LIKE someone and DO want more. If you DON'T want more -- or anything -- there's a whole other protocol for that.) | |
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| Taking stuff slowly
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:11:44 PM | You want to take it slow- okay then here we go-
Do not sleep with him right away- wait. can you do that?
Can you get to know him for him and not his anatomy first- okay
Communicate- talk to him, get to know HIM. learn everything you
can about him down to his favorite cookie.
Spend time together doing nothing- yeah nothing. Just be together.
do stupid stuff like food shopping. Get to see how he interacts with
produce. You would be surprised. Go on IM for a whole day and just
talk and share stuff from the net- post on the forums together- whatever-
just spend time and get to really know each other.
Just kiss. Yup-just kiss.
Okay - others will add some good stuff for you also Im sure. | |
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| Taking stuff slowly
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:22:55 PM | Explanation and detours help them understand better.
I told my current that I want to take things slow physically...I told him why, that in my past relationships, we dove straight into the deep end and pretty much drowned...
So he was very understanding and he knows that if we wait, the relationship won't be so sex-based. He's met a few of my close friends and I've met some of his. We give each other space for "Me Time" and time with friends without the other. So right now, its been so far, so good.
So yeah...Just explain to your next/current "romantic interest" that you wanna take things slow and why. If he's worth it, he'll understand and respect you and your decision. | |
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| Taking stuff slowly
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:50:13 PM | taking it slow , well somewhat familar with this whole concept . have meet some girls over the years who took things slow and in some cases it never really went anywhere .
guess it depends on the situation , sometimes taking it slow is the right thing to do . in others its not and some guys won't go for the whole idea either . others could would be ok even prefer it . | |
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| Taking stuff slowly
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:56:38 PM | I always preach to take things slow, but usually my relationships have
just caught like a house on fire!
Since I've never done it, (just preach it, lol) I am beginning to question
whether it actually works, or whether one or both will just lose interest!
I once read that a relationship MUST proceed in steps, in a timely fashion,
so this is somewhat contradictory!
I think much depends on how much attraction is involved, both ways!
I also am not just out for sex! Far from it! So, I don't bail after having
done the deed!
Another thing I read is that a woman will become close to a man, quicker if
she spends a lot of time with him early on! Yet another reason, not to drag
things out! If that's what you want! | |
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| Taking stuff slowly
Posted: 7/13/2008 2:40:24 AM | Try spending a day together but only in public places. Cafe's okay but better still just out in parks and places where you can find space to talk but there are people around. Do stupid things together, make out, but nothing intimate.
Give yourself chance to know a guy's way of thinking, share experiences and just have fun together.
Don't judge your relationships by anyone else's, you can choose the pace to suit you.
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