| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:24:01 PM | I hear alot of stories about guys who approach women in places such as grocery stores, fast food places, coffee shops, ETC. Sometimes women will blurt out "Im not here to meet men!" (out of Midol I suppose lol). Im sure no guy goes into these places thinking " she must be here to meet guys" Also, ive heard "youl lfind it when your not looking" Does this not apply to women? Anyway, im just wondering, do you ladies really have to be actively looking, to be open to meeting a man? and do you really care where he meets you at?
OB/GYN clinic, and funeral parlors excepted! | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:30:38 PM | I too am curious about this, you always see it happen in those damn Hollywood Comedy/Drama's (AKA - Chick Flix) but I personally don't believe it that it works so well in real life, but hey what do I know Iam still single.
I've been close a few times places such as coffee shops and such but always have stopped myself as to not receive the obligatory "eww....no"
My $0.02 | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:44:08 PM |
and do you really care where he meets you at?
Sneaking up behind me as I walk home from work at 4am might be a bad idea. That might get you a broken nose.
Sorry to bring this up and be cheesey... but watching Sex and the City taught me that that you never know where or when that "one" will run into you. It's helped me keep my mind open to the "who knows".
So, what I am saying, as long as you aren't sneaking up behind me all sneaky-like... go for it :) | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:45:55 PM | Everyone tells us that the best place to meet someone is in those everyday places you described. Who knows when and where two people might click. I would imagine that for every woman who says, "I'm not here to meet a man," there are 3 others that wouldn't mind.
EuroTrash1967: If you receive an "eww...no", you don't want that person anyway. That is just rude. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:49:00 PM |
As long as I'm not at work, I couldn't care less.
Damn, just took away my favorite spot to corner ...er, umm .. I mean, to meet women. Poor cashiers and waitresses are forced to deal with men like me everyday! I'd almost feel sorry for them -- but I don't! | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:54:51 PM | [As long as I'm not at work or in class, it doesn't really matter to me.]
ok and if you are at work or class...he cant meet you because????
I hope your soulmate isnt the one trying to meet you there | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:02:52 PM | Not if I like him, no....HOW he approaches me might matter more, but mostly I'm cool with it...but it's also pretty rare...
..unfortunately I am the type to approach those I like, so if he's approaching me it's probably because I'm not interested.
P.S. Finding it when you're not looking is how I met half the guys I dated...so yeah that's pretty accurate. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:16:04 PM | I'll be honest, that can make me nervous when that happens in places I don't expect (eg. browsing for books, gorocery stores...).
In general I'm always a little suspicious, since they know what I look like and what I buy, obvious conclusion is they want to lure me away, rob me and then make wallets out of my skin.
When I get approached on the street and it's dark and I'm alone, I do get scared and that's when I radiate my keep away vibes as hard as can be. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:16:40 PM | No, OP, accosting women everywhere YOU feel the urge and the interest is not okay. Yes, women do care.
And that includes pulling over and attempting to pull a drill sargeant/Good Samaritan/totally ignorant and ridiculous act in order to pick up the woman who you are "rescuing" and/or any other woman who will actually believe that story. Not a good idea to accost women that way either.
If your approach when blindsiding these women with your battle whine for a woman to find a "nice guy" is anything like what your approach is on these forums, well...actually, it would explain a whole lot.
Work and class? You actually think it's okay to approach any random woman you have the hots for at her place of employment or school in case she's missing out on her "soul mate"? I don't think you have to worry about that, champ.
If you are trying to pick up women in the middle of work and class, you have a whole lot more to worry about. Like protection orders and HR departments.
Oh, and best of luck to you, OP! Hope no one you "approach" has any pepper spray kicking around, that could get kinda messy! | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:21:39 PM |
ok and if you are at work or class...he cant meet you because????
I hope your soulmate isnt the one trying to meet you there
 I highly doubt my "soulmate" would be trying to meet me at my job. I haven't met anyone new there for years.
As far as class goes? It's far too close to graduation to be worrying about anything but my studies while I'm there.
Those are just my personal views, though. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:51:14 PM |
funeral parlors excepted!
the local funeral director (owner) winked at me as he was getting out of his suv and going into the funeral home. hmmm, do you think that maybe that was his way of flirting with me to let me know that i'm going to get laid by him? (laid out that is).
if a guy is going to approach me then so be it, that's up to him. i'm not going to yell at him for a little friendly conversation or a flirting wink or smile...i have to be nuts. there's also been a few times when i went to the market i would start a little flirting conversation. after that, he went his way and i went mine and never seen each other again...not yet anyway. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:56:26 PM | OP I always thought it was tasteless to approach a lady at her place of employment. I mean, she's there to work and it doesn't create a very good impression, should her boss hear of it.
All that aside, I met my S/O at work ~ LOL. He politely asked for my number and called me after my shift. Very tastefully done :) | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:59:00 PM | [No, OP, accosting women everywhere YOU feel the urge and the interest is not okay. Yes, women do care.]
i didnt know "hi how are you" was considered acosting someone. Im glad ive found not ALL women are as abusive as you!! Also, pepper spray in this situatoin would be a felony, just to let you know | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:01:16 PM | Many people attend classes or other activities after work hoping to make friends, anywhere that is a public place where she is unlikely to feel threatened is a good time and place.
Sometimes a simple line, I've promised myself to make some new friends this month, can I offer you a coffee sometime when you are free? A line like this covers the base that "right this instant" may not be convenient but leaves the door open for the lady to make her a suggestion on her own terms. Although this is a closed question inviting a yes/no answer you can follow up with an open question such as, do you know of any good art galleries, coffee shops around here?
If she is married (not all of us wear rings) your offer of friendship can still hold and you may well make two friends instead who might in turn recommend you to someone single.
Life is a game to be played adventurously, simply and with humour, without expectation. Sometimes it is the simple things that matter, there is no real complexity on how to start a conversation if you keep it light and are sensitive to someone else's concerns. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:02:01 PM |
yes country.girl he was flirting!!! but some of us cant approach you! nahhh, he wasn't flirting with me....just being nice.
now, what do you mean by some of us can't approach me....because you're out west and i'm clear across the state? throw me a message in private if you like. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:24:14 PM | I'd not care where. I had a wonderful dinner once with a man I met in a bookstore. We started discussing the books and made our purchases and walked to a restaurant, right that evening. And he was KOREAN and ordinarily I'd not give a Korean guy the time of day. (Cultural thing. A man of Korean descent born in the West would be another matter entirely.)
If we struck up a conversation and it was going well, I'd not care if we met directing traffic around a car wreck. Though I think picking up girls at a funeral would be a bit tacky. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:25:53 PM |
do you really care where he meets you at? .
I do not want to be aproached at gym or when I am studying. There is some true to what TDZ girl says. The guy should not only think of his desire to meet but consider if girl is busy or if obvious she does not want to be aproached. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:27:14 PM |
In general I'm always a little suspicious, since they know what I look like and what I buy, obvious conclusion is they want to lure me away, rob me and then make wallets out of my skin.
Well don't go into a dark alley with him!
I walked to a nearby restaurant with a guy I met at a bookstore and we had a lovely evening. Sadly, our phones and email servers had compatibility issues and we had trouble connecting again. He could only get through on my work phone which meant he could only get me when I was busy, and when I tried to call him I'd get a recording in Korean I didn't know how to respond to. | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:27:31 PM |
i didnt know "hi how are you" was considered acosting someone. Im glad ive found not ALL women are as abusive as you!! Also, pepper spray in this situatoin would be a felony, just to let you know
If women are blurting to you, "I'm not looking to meet men", then yes, you are accosting them if you are approaching them and not willing to accept that they are not looking to meet you and not interested in you and still attempt to pick them up.
If you can not accept that a woman responds to you that any place but her work or school is okay to approach, and have to demand why work and school are not also places you can look for fresh meat, then yes, you are cornering women.
"Not ALL women are as abusive as" me? Now THAT's funny. I take it any opinion that doesn't agree with yours is abusive? | |
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| Do you really care WHERE a man approaches you?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:31:03 PM |
OP I always thought it was tasteless to approach a lady at her place of employment. I mean, she's there to work and it doesn't create a very good impression, should her boss hear of it.
I'd not mind meeting a guy at work, either a co-worker or (since my job involves taking kids out in the community for activities) somebody who just happens to be in the same place I am. Most likely a guy from another agency taking a kid out to the same place! | |
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