| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:04:36 PM | I ve meet a few people from POF and I keep geting the same line over and over ..."your a great person but while I was out with my friends I meet someone and want to give it a try ..I dont think its going to work out with her but just have a feeling I should give it a try... I still want to be friends with you and keep talking ...Im sure your going to make some Lucky guy Very happy... hope your not mad at me .." WTF!!!! It allways happens with someone that I beleave I have alot in commen with and go on a few dates with talk and text alot with ....so if im so "great" why do i keep getting that line ? this last one eaven had me meet some of his family and wanted to make plans for the weekend  | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:13:32 PM | | They felt like commitment was a comin. Next time tie um up first. Men to wanna stop the hunt. If they try to get away hit um in the head with a rock. | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:14:57 PM | | You should have put out before the other girl did ... just kidding ... kinda ... no really, I'm just kidding .. almost ...... | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:24:16 PM | OP, it's not you, it's me !
I'm not good enough for you.
I would only make you unhappy.
I won't come in your mouth.
I won't do it again.
The check is in the mail.
I've never done THAT before.
I AM divorced ! I just wear the ring out of habit.
WOW! That's the biggest one i have ever seen!
I am sure you understand. I'll bet you have been in my spot hundreds of time! | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:30:52 PM | The common factor in the situation is you.
Yes, it is a polite let down. If you really want to know, then ask someone what it is that is wrong with you that leads everyone to move on, even though you feel that it is working. Tell them that, explain that you genuinely are interested in self improvement and need to understand what it is. It may be something minor that is easily adjustable.
Either way, if the common factor is you then you need to be thinking along the lines of what you can change, not hoping the whole rest of the world does. Or, you can stay on here and be bitter like a lot of other people. | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:20:27 PM |
Um, I mean bad, bad advice! never listen to that guy!
I agree. That kind of advice should be left to the professionals ... umm, which way do we go to find the professional advice givers on the forums? I know I say Dr. Phil around here somewhere ... PHIL? DR. PHIL? WHICH WAY DID YOU GO?
oooooo, shiny object .... gotta go! | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:16:05 PM | Men say "you're a great person ".
Women say "let's be friends".
Women don't want to be "just a great person".
Men don't want to be "just friends".
That's why it works. | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/9/2008 12:34:53 AM | OP
That sounds like these guys are just trying to let you down easily. I would say that is better than just ditching you that many women complain about on here endlessly. At least you got something.
If you want to know the real reason I doubt these guys would have the courage to say it. That is why they came up with a pretty benign line. And even if they did give it to you, I doubt it would be in a form that would be useful.
The only reason you would want this information would be as an opportunity to make improvements. In that case I would suggest you should ask trusted people with whom you trust their opinion and they will give you much more constructive feedback other than "your @ss is too big" which would be useless and hurtful feedback. Even if your @ss is too big a close friend will word it in a more positive way to say you may want to seek a nutritionist and a trainer to lose a few pounds. If you ask perfect strangers they have nothing vested in you so you are more likely to get useless feedback or feedback that is in a package filled with negativity that can not be absorbed and used positively. | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/9/2008 12:58:38 AM | esad (msg 5), may have something there '10 great lies'........
just ask one of them when you feel a time comes when they would give you a sincere answer. | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/9/2008 1:00:04 AM | Been on the receiving end of that one hun, it basically means "I do think you're great, I'm not all that attracted to you though so I'm going to keep fishing but will string you along just in case I don't find something else".
Ouch!! But true | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:48:25 AM | Msg 13 nailed it. OP, think about it this way -- at least you got a few dates out of it, and you get polite, if cliche`d let down. A lot of men on this site would KILL for just that. So while I empathize with you, a part of me really doesn't.
Women complain about the quality of their dates.
Men complain that they get no dates. | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:56:33 AM | | They met someone they are attracted to but want to keep you on the backburner in case it doesn't work out. Or they truly just want you as a friend and are not attracted to you at all. Either way, there's plenty more out there so suck it up and drive on. | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:10:33 PM | It allways happens with someone that I beleave I have alot in commen with and go on a few dates with talk and text alot with ....so if im so "great" why do i keep getting that line ?
That's easy to answer. It's because you didn't move fast enough. If you and I were talking and you made no effort to get things rolling, then if I were to meet another woman whom I would also consider dating who does make the effort to let me know she's interested and does something about it, guess what I'm going to do.
Guys appreciate action more than talking about possibilities. At the risk of perverting the latin language for the effect of its sleaze value, carpe di*kem. | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:18:43 PM | | If he preferred you he would stick with you. He is probably indecisive about who he wants, and is always looking for someone better, perhaps missing out on someone such as yourself that would have been perfect. But I wouldn't expect you to believe him when he says, "I don't think it will work out with this other women" etc. Otherwise why is he choosing her above you? | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 3:59:40 PM | | A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, and you're only one bush. The girl he met in person is more convenient. | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/22/2008 11:21:35 AM | | you dont have anything inm common if you did you would caught him.make it tougher for the men be open but dont seem easy because if you do most man will not want you. | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/22/2008 11:34:53 AM | | I know it sounds harsh but maybe you're not that great. If it's something that is happening repeatedly you might want to look in the mirror and figure out what is that makes these guys think they have better options. Sorry if that sounds mean, I don't mean it to be but that is the most honest answer I can come up with. | |
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/22/2008 11:54:34 AM |
You should have put out before the other girl did ... just kidding ... kinda
After reading a lot of the threads on men & sex, it sounds like its one of three things:
You put out too soon.
You didn't put out soon enough.
He's just not that attracted to you.
In a round about way, it all comes down to sex & attraction. Only you know the time table on the actual sex but it might give you something to consider. Sometimes they keep the girl that puts out while they look for the one who doesn't to settle with. If you're the one who doesn't, it could be that you held off too long and lost their interest. Or they don't have the real interest to begin with.
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| the your so great line on here
Posted: 7/22/2008 12:41:59 PM | You have to consider the possibility that PoF is a self-selecting group of damaged people.
Sometimes there is outright fear and loathing. Some of it is immaturity. Some of it is the basic fear of any major life change. Some of it may just plain be letting you down easy. | |
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